It is common for parents to study abroad at a young age, which is not conducive to children's integration into the local area.

"It is not good for parents to accompany their children to study abroad when they are young" was reported by 165438+ 10/9. The Legal Evening News reported that in recent years, studying abroad at a young age has become more and more common, and people often ignore another group of people-accompanying parents. Quite a few parents quit their jobs to take care of their children abroad.

There are different opinions about the sacrifices made by parents. People can't help asking, is it worthwhile to accompany them?

The poor child is still young and wants to take care of him.

Lily rented a house in London and didn't know what to do.

Want to go shopping, no friends, don't know where to go; Turn on the TV, almost all English programs, turn it off if you don't understand; Turn on the computer and surf the internet for a while, feeling bored.

My son goes to a boarding high school near his residence. He won't come back until Friday afternoon and will go back on Sunday. Since she took her children to London in September this year, what she is looking forward to most is the weekend. Being with her son makes her feel less lonely.

Li Li is the manager of an enterprise in Beijing. Her husband is the boss of a company. Her son 14 years old. He went to junior high school in Beijing and went to a private boarding middle school in London in September this year.

Since her son is preparing to study abroad, Li Li and her husband have been worried that their children will not adapt to the outside world. After all, their parents have taken full care of their children for a long life. "Who washes the clothes for the children and wants to eat the meals cooked at home? If you are sick, it will be even more troublesome. " Li Li and her husband are very upset at the thought of it.

When the couple learned that one of their parents could accompany them through the teacher of the study abroad agency, they immediately made a decision. Mom resigned to accompany her children abroad, and Dad stayed at home.

"It's really a poor child. He is young and wants to take care of him." Li Li felt, "For the sake of children, this sacrifice is nothing."

But after she settled in London with her children, Lily suddenly felt lonely.

She can't speak English, and she feels inconvenient in every aspect of her life: she can't chat with her neighbors, TV programs are all in English, and she has to make gestures when she goes shopping ... Most of the time, she stays alone in the house, looking forward to her son going to school every Friday.

But she found her son very happy here and adapted to everything. She also actively participated in various volunteer activities organized by the school on Saturday and Sunday. Through talking with my son, I learned that there are many international students in boarding schools, and there are special teachers who carefully arrange all aspects of life and study to let the children adapt slowly.

Looking at her son's present situation and thinking about herself, Li Li began to have the idea of returning to China. After consulting with her husband and son, she decided to return to China after Christmas and go back to work. "The child has really grown up, and we have to give him a chance to stand on his own feet. I also want to have my own work and life. It is not necessarily a good thing to always be around children. "

I found that my parents gave up their domestic life and went abroad to accompany them. In recent years, the number of China students studying abroad has increased dramatically, among which young students have attracted much attention. Studying abroad at a young age refers to going abroad directly to study undergraduate after graduating from high school; The second is to go abroad to study in middle school.

"In the past two years, the number of students studying abroad in middle schools has increased significantly, and the number of people who come to consult us every year can increase by about 30%," a teacher from a study abroad institution in Zhongguancun told reporters. "Last year, I always sent five students to study in middle schools in Britain, and this year the number has doubled."

Studying abroad at a young age is accompanied by parents.

The reporter recently visited a number of overseas institutions and learned that parents of students applying for foreign middle schools often worry about their children, and a large part of them will consult accompanying students. On this basis, the study abroad agency has launched a full set of services: helping children apply for schools and helping parents apply for accompanying students.

"In fact, every country has different policies for accompanying parents. Some are mandatory, such as New Zealand, and some are completely banned, such as the United States. " Wu Xiaoli, an expert from Eddie's overseas study business department in Britain, said, "As far as children are concerned, there are restrictions on parents accompanying them. /kloc-Parents are only allowed to accompany their children under the age of 0/2. If you are over 65,438+02 years old, you will not be able to apply for an escort visa. They can only apply for tourist visas, which can be signed once every six months, and they can make multiple trips during the period. "

It is reported that many parents will stay with their children even if they do not meet the accompanying reading policy of the countries studying abroad, by applying for visiting visas and visiting visas.

Ms Wang, who lives in Beijing, is a housewife. Her children are in the third grade of Huiwen Middle School. She will accompany her children to Australia for high school next year. Talking about accompanying students, she was very happy and said, "I have been taking care of all aspects of my children, and I want to accompany them when I study abroad. Originally, my children especially wanted to go to the United States to study, but they were not allowed to accompany them, so I finally chose Australia. "

"Many parents will choose to give up their current life or career for their children. China families put their children first. " Wu Xiaoli said.

Taking students abroad to study is expensive.

Students who study abroad with their parents need a lot of money.

During the interview, the reporter combed according to the opinions of all parties and roughly calculated an account. Take Britain, where tuition and living expenses are high, for example, students spend about 350,000 RMB per year in junior high school and 6,543.8+0.4 million RMB in two years and four years in senior high school. The average annual expenditure of undergraduate course is 250,000, and it needs 750,000 in three years. From junior high school to the end of undergraduate course, it costs 210.5 million yuan.

Parents rent houses around the school. The rent plus living expenses is about 8,000 yuan a month, which is about 65,438+10,000 yuan a year. It costs 700 thousand from junior high school to the end of undergraduate course. Both of them spent 2.85 million.

"Those who can send their children to British secondary schools generally want their children to go to university in Britain. The huge cost has long been considered by parents. "Wu Xiaoli said that such family parents are generally good executives of businessmen, officials, doctors, enterprises and institutions." One party works in China, and the other party goes abroad to accompany him. "

Li Hanwei, director of the new study abroad business department of Aidi Australia, said that studying in private secondary schools in Australia costs 200,000-250,000 RMB a year, while public secondary schools cost 654.38+05,000-654.38+08,000 RMB. In some areas, the cost of attending middle school is very low, less than 6,543,800 yuan, but even so, parents and students spend at least 6,543,800 yuan a year accompanying them.

Is it worth reading in your opinion?

Giving up one's job, friends and life circle, and accompanying children to other countries, with no language and no friends, are the status quo of most parents' company. Is it worthwhile for them to make such sacrifices? Is accompanying reading really beneficial to children's development and helps children live abroad?

Children's parents depend on each other.

"If the child goes abroad to study at a very young age, I will definitely give up my job to accompany her because she needs me." Ms. Ma, the parent of a sixth-grade student, said, "I certainly don't want to give up my job, but compared with my children, everything is not important." She told reporters that she also wanted to accompany her children to study abroad, but she gave up this idea because her family's economic strength was not enough and she was worried that she could not let her children live easily abroad.

The reporter learned in the interview that many parents accompany them, not only because they are worried that their children will suffer outside, but also because parents and children have been living together and suddenly separated, and both sides are not adapted.

"I have contacted many parents of students. They told me that children were almost always brought up by themselves. Parents are almost children all their lives. Children also depend on their parents in all aspects. Sudden separation, bad mental state. Parents accompanying reading, to some extent, also seek a psychological balance between the two sides. " Li Hanwei said.

Not conducive to children's integration into the local environment.

Li Hanwei said that it is understandable for parents to accompany young international students, but it is not necessary for middle school and high school students.

"Foreign secondary schools take care of international students, and each school has a dedicated teacher." She said that children must be given a chance to grow up independently. "I know a student who doesn't study well and doesn't like making friends. Now I am studying in Canberra government middle school, Australia, because I was taken care of by a nanny since I was a child, and I can hardly do anything. After going out alone for a year, he changed a lot, took an active part in various activities, and his classmates liked him very much. His English IELTS score increased from 2.5 to 5. When he held a parent-teacher conference in Beijing, his parents couldn't believe the introduction of the principal. "

Wu Xiaoli said that not only that, parents' accompanying reading will also limit children's development to some extent. "Parents' accompanying reading is not conducive to children's language development, and it is not conducive to children's integration into the local life circle. "

Contact the accompanying reading policies of various countries.

Canada: Do not advocate not accepting parents to accompany you.

In terms of visa types, Canada has no visa types for accompanying students. The Canadian government does not encourage young students to study abroad. However, in practice, the Canadian Immigration (Weibo) Bureau classifies accompanying visas as visiting visas. This kind of visa lasts for half a year at most and can be renewed for one year. The visa for visiting relatives can actually play the role of accompanying the visa.

America: Parents can't accompany them.

To apply for an F2 accompanying visa in the United States, two conditions must be met: one is that the spouse of the other party is legal, and the other is that both husband and wife have sufficient funds to prove that they can bear all expenses during their stay in the United States. Among them, F2 accompanying visa holders are not allowed to work in any industry and study full-time in the United States.

New Zealand: accompanying parents are not allowed to work

New Zealand prohibits young international students under the age of 10 or 10 from living alone in the local area, and their parents must accompany them. New Zealand will amend the visa regulations to allow parents to stay in New Zealand for one year at a time, but they cannot work.

Singapore: accompanying mothers are allowed to work

Singapore allows spouses and parents to accompany them, but the latter must be maternal relatives of children under 16. Singapore allows accompanying mothers to work. The accompanying mothers of foreign students studying in government schools in Singapore can apply for a special work permit from the Ministry of Labor in Singapore after the students have been enrolled for one year.

Australia: Parents of international students under 18 can apply to accompany them.

In Australia, spouses of international students or unmarried children under the age of 18 can apply for accompanying visas, which is conducive to family reunion of older international students. According to Australia's accompanying reading policy, spouses can work while accompanying students in Australia.

The background of the news story

The number of parents who study abroad at a young age and accompany them abroad has increased dramatically.

The Report on the Development of Studying Abroad in China (20 12) shows that in 20 10, students with high school education or below accounted for 19.8%, while in 20 1 1 year, the number of high school students studying abroad in China accounted for 22.6% of the total number of students studying abroad in China in that year.

According to the statistics of the US Department of Homeland Security, in the 2005-2006 school year, only 65 middle school students in China went to the United States to study in middle schools with personal passports; By the 20 10 to 20 1 1 school year, 6,725 people from China had gone to the United States to study in middle schools-an increase of 100 times in five years.