Give you a reason why contemporary young people refuse to get married

Chen Ming, a mature man who combines beauty and talent, is often a blockbuster in many programs of Chess Room and Informal Talks. With his advanced ideas and correct three views, I paid attention to him at a glance.

I happened to see Chen Ming's interpretation of the marriage view of contemporary young people. While admiring his vision and talent, I saw the epitome of hundreds of millions of single young people.

By the end of 20 19, there were about 240 million single people in China.

Aurora big data shows that among these 240 million people, young people who just graduated from the age of 20-24 account for nearly half. Although the proportion of marriageable singles has decreased, it still accounts for 17%.

Chen Ming said: Don't say that this single rate is already high. If you continue in the future, it will increase endlessly! Until a new love ethics appeared.

If we stop at the surface, most young people and their elders will only fall into the panic of being abandoned by the concepts of "when to do what" and "you should", and what we want to explore is: What is the bottom behind the 240 million single young people?

I don't know if you have noticed that women have quietly occupied half of the successful fields, such as Lin in the field of literature, Tu Youyou in the field of science, Dong Mingzhu in the field of business, Dong Qing in the field of hosting, Victoria in the field of live broadcast, and the nurses' group during the fight ...

Push forward 100 and 1920. On this earth, women have almost no equal rights to receive education, work and create wealth.

Now let's expand the time chart. This 100 year is almost three generations. Women's education, equal participation in wealth creation and social status have all undergone qualitative changes.

The solid shackles of what women can do, what they should do and what they shouldn't do have been removed and broken one by one.

In contrast to men, now more and more young men have been baptized by the concept of equality, and male chauvinism has been gradually smoothed out by the concept of equality. It is the general trend to respect women's ideas and attach importance to women's creative ability.

However, in this 100 year, the economy and status have developed equally, but have our new love ethics and marriage ethics emerged?

No, our understanding of love, marriage, family responsibilities and obligations was brought from grandpa's generation. Marriage must include having children. Women naturally think that women should take more, and men naturally think that I should work outside and take care of children for women.

Because pushing forward 100 years, my parents think so.

But now the woman says: Why?

I'm going to work, too I earn the same amount of money. I will breast-feed the baby at night. What should I do if I am in a bad mood the next day? How much pressure is this? I'm not getting married.

Love is the same. The woman works in Guangzhou and the man works in Shanghai. To develop a stable relationship, both men and women need to be in the same city. Who will compromise? Most people will ask the woman, the reason is: in terms of gender, the man has greater development potential.

The proportion of productive forces in the whole society has changed greatly, but the love relationship and marriage relationship corresponding to the production relationship need a new love ethics to support it.

We need a brand-new system to tell everyone what the man should be responsible for and what the woman should be responsible for in love. How to deal with the responsibilities and obligations between two people in marriage?

But in fact, society is still stuck in the concept of "you should" 0/00 years ago. China didn't appear, and neither did the West. They are all in the stage of trying and waiting for a breakthrough.

Ma Wei, a round-table scholar, once said in the first issue of "A Probe into the Marriage View of 90% of Young People": Nowadays, boys often think that it doesn't matter who they marry, and there is no difference. It is better to choose a family background, which is actually a manifestation of world-weariness.

It's like, I'm in a hurry to go out today. It doesn't matter if you hit a good car or break it, as long as you can get there. It is also very similar to the children under our exam-oriented education, because everyone has to go to college. As long as you can go to college, you are a normal person. It doesn't matter whether you are a book or a junior college.

I have an overseas Chinese friend. Every time he comes back, there will be a routine party. Now it's almost marriageable age, so I naturally sit together and spit out the interesting things about my parents urging marriage.

On that occasion, this friend said to us, "I hate the marriage system. Last time my boyfriend said that he would go to marriage immigration and Australia with me, and I agreed. "

She sighed helplessly: "If you have to get married at this time, will marriage help him (boyfriend) achieve his wish and kill two birds with one stone?" But this thing itself proves that I hate this system. "

Life is short. If we must be clear about what we should do at a certain stage, how can young people have the time and thought to stimulate interest and ponder their life and career?

Taking the orders of the elders and the times as feather dusters, we choose to give in, but we don't want to. The so-called good to us, "good to you", eventually become a world-weary soul.

Nowadays, more and more young people are caught in the anxiety of being single, constantly refusing the "care" of the outside world, but they are also curious about why "I don't have it". This is the embryonic stage of cultivating new love ethics. You know, it is always difficult to break ground. At the most conflicting moment of radical change, young people are at the forefront of conflict.

We don't reject love, and even we look forward to love more than anyone else. We just reject the way the world looks at young people's love. We don't exclude taking all risks with our lover, but we just exclude the pressure that this new identity will bring us once love appears, which is not what we want.

The above contents are all started by Gong Zongnuo. Orange Cilan's Outlook on Life.