The way American parents educate their children.

Parents, under the banner of "don't let their children lose at the starting line" and "stay away from exam-oriented education", tried their best to invest in immigrating to the United States, just to let their children receive quality education in the United States. I have collected some information below, hoping to help you.

Principles of American parents' education for their children

1. Ownership principle: Family is the first and most important environment for children to grow up. Therefore, it is necessary to ensure that children grow up in a healthy family environment and let children establish a reliable sense of family belonging from an early age.

2. Hope principle: In the process of children's growth, we should always encourage them to set forward goals. No matter what setbacks you encounter, always let your children see hope.

3. Principle of equality: Talk to children equally, listen to their voices, try to understand their thoughts and guide them, and don't always point fingers condescendingly.

4. Control principle: Before the child is underage, control is mainly the responsibility of parents. Don't put this responsibility on grandparents or grandparents. Of course, these old people should also respect their children's dominance, but they should not replace it.

5. Principle of example: Parents are the first teachers of children and the first role models of children's life. Generally speaking, children's words and deeds often start from imitating their parents, and the role of role models is enormous. Therefore, parents must set an example.

6. Punishment principle: When a child who is not sensible is at fault, he can criticize and give directions. Appropriate punishment is also necessary for children who deliberately make mistakes, but it is not allowed to beat, scold or physically punish children. Punishment is easy to make children rebellious, so it should be used with caution and skill.

7. Consequence principle: Every time you teach a child to do something, let the child know the possible consequences. When children intend to do something by themselves, they should also help them analyze the possible consequences of their actions. Children should form the habit of thinking about the consequences of everything and being responsible for their actions from an early age.

8. The principle of boundaries: We should educate children from an early age to understand the boundaries between morality and law, know how to respect morality and law, and let children know that these two boundaries are like red lights on the road, which can never be crossed.

9.20 yard principle: respect children's independent tendency and encourage children to do what they can. However, don't relax your guardianship responsibilities. "20 yards" is about 18 meters, just a symbol, which means leaving private space for children to grow up.

10. Four-W principle: always know who the child is with, where he is, what he is doing, and when he will go home. For your underage children, you must always understand these four points.

1 It is said that piano class is a compulsory course.

Recently, I have always heard colleagues complain that it is really too expensive to enroll children in piano classes, and the piano level of teachers is in Class 2 or 3, and the tuition fee is 70 per hour. I asked curiously, "Why do you have to learn the piano? Does your child like it very much? " Actually, it's not. He said that children in America basically learn piano, and everyone learns to learn it. This is China's typical parental thinking. All the other children are learning. If your children don't learn, it seems that they are not good enough and will be left behind. Besides, do American children really have to learn piano? Or are all the children in the Chinese community vying to learn the piano?

Anyway, children have to have a good sport.

It is well known that American schools attach importance to physical education, because there are countless examples of being admitted to prestigious schools with excellent physical education results. China's parents know that their children are not born with strong and tall genes. Of course, they can't lag behind in the cultivation of the day after tomorrow. No matter what they can learn about swimming, badminton, table tennis, taekwondo and football, their after-school life is extremely "full", and their children may feel very happy because they can play and spend money on it. As for the parents' dream of "expecting their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed", I don't know how much children can understand.

You don't know how to be excellent without comparison, so you must compete.

I have learned all kinds of martial arts, and the best way to "report" is of course to participate in competitions. Without competition and ranking, how can we reflect the value of spending money and how can we train our children well? Then parents began to think about arranging some games for their children. Actively participate in various sports competitions and interest competitions across cities and regions. The children won the lottery and sent a circle of friends, which not only recorded their growth process, but also increased their parents' sense of honor.

4. Pay attention to quality education, not cultural education.

I don't know if I feel right. After arriving in the United States, the proportion of parents' quality education and cultural education for their children is seriously unequal. They are more interested in cultivating children's hobbies, but it seems that they rarely go to cram schools for cultural classes. Many children in China were born and raised in the United States, and they have little idea about China. They know nothing about Chinese characters and history except simple Chinese, but China children are still very smart, so they should give full play to their advantages in cultural classes.

Enlightenment from the growth of American children's education

American children grow up carefree.

When children are young, they have little homework and go home mainly for fun. By the time they go to college, they won't have to take the college entrance examination as high school students in China do. American children only need to rely on the school, the teacher's recommendation and the community to go to college. If you are positive, you can apply for a university. Admission depends entirely on the university's demand for talents. Children don't have to worry about going to college, because if this university doesn't admit them, that university can admit them.

It seems natural for American children to grow up, but the fact is that American parents are trying to make their children independent as soon as possible. Great efforts have been made to develop creativity and intellectual potential. It is no exaggeration to say that children in China are brought up, and children in the United States are brought up. Toddlers can be found everywhere in America. If the child falls, parents generally don't run forward, bend down and reach out to help the child, just shout loudly. When a child sees that there is no adult to help him, he has to stand up by himself unless he falls heavily. Whether in the park, on the street or in the aisle of the plane, you can see the thrilling scene of children stumbling in front and parents running behind.

American parents attach great importance to communication with their children.

As soon as the child is born, parents try to communicate with the child who is learning English and convey their feelings to the child. In American newspapers, there are articles encouraging parents to communicate with their children, saying that American parents have reached an understanding. If they want to cultivate a smart and lovely child, they should first learn to communicate with them from the moment the baby is born. Parents don't have to worry that this kind of communication will become a unilateral wish, because the baby has the ability to communicate with others from birth and is willing to communicate with you.

Mom is the first communication object that the baby has the most contact time. The eye contact between children is the beginning of communication. Mothers can also make use of every opportunity to communicate with their babies, such as talking to the babies while feeding, smiling when changing diapers or holding the babies, and saying such sweet words as "Look at the mother" and "The baby is really good". If the baby listens to those words while nursing, it will slow down or even stop sucking, indicating that the baby is listening to his mother.

The ways of communication can be diversified. In addition to "talking" with the baby, you can also have fun with the baby, such as touching the baby's head and gently scratching the baby's stomach, so as to attract the baby's attention and make him smile. When the baby smiles, give a compliment. Don't forget that the mother's gentle kiss is also a good reward for the baby.

Make use of every opportunity to communicate with your baby, so that children can distinguish different voices and contexts, know different faces and expressions, and keep a happy mood in communication with their parents. Usually pay great attention to communicate with children and answer their questions. At the same time, my mother is like a teacher who follows the rules. She confides in her children, is very equal and respects each other, and has no attitude of being superior to them. The author thinks why American children grow up and become independent after they go to college. Strong independence, strong ability to analyze and solve problems, and great plasticity are inseparable from parents' language training for young children.

American parents cultivate their children's independent living ability from an early age.

It is reported that American children live separately from their parents when they are very young, and children sleep in a room alone. Of course, there will be children who are afraid of loneliness. This is easy to handle, so let him interact with the puppy from an early age. No wonder many children cry their eyes out when the dog is missing or dead, because the affection between children and dogs is better than their parents! When the child reaches the age of 18, it is necessary to earn money to make a living. This is not because parents have no money, but to let their children earn their own money and become independent as soon as possible. Stand up. American children often hear their parents' mantra from an early age: "Take care of yourself" and "Make tomorrow's life better". American parents see it this way. Let children earn money by themselves, that is, let children know the hard and difficult work of making money and the value of making money.

After going to college, children can apply for credit cards, which is the first step in learning financial management. Pay the bill If you don't pay the bill in time, your personal reputation will be tarnished and you will encounter many troubles in the future. After graduating from college, car dealers will go to school to sell cars. After renting a car, the children began to rent their own apartments and do odd jobs, but at this time, the children did not have a fixed job, and someone had to guarantee you to buy big things to let you know that the money was not earned for nothing. You can find a permanent job after graduation. As time goes by and your income increases, you will buy a house and a car to further improve your life. This system can help children adapt to society as soon as possible. Will be lonely. Lide's life