Why is it easy for foreign mothers to take care of their babies, but it is difficult for domestic mothers? These are the three reasons.

Sa Beining shared an interesting story.

Once he came home and saw twin children gnawing at his slippers. He panicked and quickly stepped forward to stop it, blaming his wife for letting the children chew his slippers.

Unexpectedly, his wife Li Bai said simply, "These are not slippers outside, but slippers at home."

What's wrong with eating a few bites at home? There are many things.

Li Bai, a Canadian, studied in Britain and grew up in a foreign cultural environment. Therefore, the concept of parenting is far from that of Sa Beining, who grew up in China.

China will always have friends. When it comes to pregnancy and having children, they will feel that the hard work of pregnancy is nothing in front of raising a baby! There are also many female friends who feel the ease of foreign mothers taking care of their babies when they spit chicken feathers with their babies.

After careful understanding, I found that it is really much easier for foreign mothers to raise a baby, even very different from domestic ones.

There is a special image: foreign mothers do housework while taking care of their babies, while Chinese mothers can't even eat when they take care of their babies alone.

Why do domestic mothers tend to take care of their babies harder, while foreign mothers take care of their babies very easily?

In fact, there are cultural factors, national conditions and social environment.

Let's look at the following reasons.

First of all, a very realistic point is the economic problem.

It is their own choice for married couples abroad to have children, while more young people in China do not have children, mostly because of economic pressure, and they are immune to the birth of their elders.

First of all, let's take a look at what domestic women have to pay to have a child:

1, career development is affected;

2, the body is out of shape, and the appearance is anxious;

3. Pregnancy is discriminated against in the workplace and even forced to leave;

4. The embarrassment of going to work after a short maternity leave, or worrying about a large amount of expenses while caring for a child;

5. How to raise it after birth? What should I do if the elderly at home can't help, but they don't feel at ease to hire a nanny, and they are not allowed to be full-time housewives economically or personally?

On the other hand, it is not enough to spend time and energy to raise a child. He tested the "financial resources" of a family.

From preschool classes to international kindergartens, from degree rooms to various interest classes, the average family really can't afford it, and it is great to dare to take good care of it.

So this is also the reason why China's fertility rate is declining and young people are increasingly reluctant to have children. Life is not easy and economic conditions are not enough. Many young people don't want to suffer from another little life.

For example, in highly developed countries such as Northern Europe, maternity leave starts from 56 weeks, and there will be various childcare subsidies from the beginning of pregnancy, so pregnant mothers don't have to worry about the economy at all.

Secondly, when children are babies, there will be many nurseries and free early education institutions. When a mother is busy, she can entrust her children to others, and even the youngest children will be looked after by someone.

There is no tradition of buying a house and a car for children abroad, and the tuition fees at the university stage are basically borrowed by the children themselves, so foreign parents can still enjoy and pursue their own lives after giving birth to their children.

In contrast, domestic parents are more wronged and sacrificed to fulfill their children. From the moment they choose to be parents, it is doomed that China's parents are full of fatigue and bear more pressure.

Domestic mothers take care of their babies, as many public service advertisements show. While holding the child, I was busy with endless housework. The child cried and the mother cried with her. ...

Why do mothers with children in China always look tired? There are several reasons:

1, men take the lead in making money. The company works overtime and is busy late, so it is natural to take care of the family. Taking care of children and doing housework falls on the mother, commonly known as "widowed parenting";

2. Domestic bus and subway parks are full of people, and there are few maternal and child rooms. It is inconvenient and unsafe for a mother to go out with her children alone, with little room for activities and no social interaction. In addition, domestic houses are generally small, and mothers who turn around their children every day will become mentally depressed;

3. Domestic mothers generally focus on children, attach importance to their needs, and do everything by themselves.

For example, if clothes are dirty, they need to be changed, washed and cleaned. Children's toys are also packed over and over again every day, and they have to be fed after meals, and they have to keep wiping their mouths during the feeding process ... Every trivial thing is actually consuming the mother's energy and making her ignore herself.

4. With the growth of children, tutoring children to learn has become a very headache. When there is no counseling, the father is filial and filial, and the parent-child relationship becomes tense.

In these respects, foreign mothers have the advantages of specific cultural and social environment:

1, short working hours abroad, no need to work overtime. Mom and dad can take turns to take care of their children and do housework together;

2. Unlike raising children as small ancestors in China, foreign parents will not turn around their children all day, but give priority to taking care of themselves, handle their own affairs well, and then take care of their children, so they will have less strong sense of sacrifice and more regard the parenting process as a life experience and enjoyment;

3. Foreign parents are not meticulous. They mainly implement a policy in parenting: "simplify food, clothing, housing and transportation and refine ideological education."

They don't spend too much time on three meals a day, nor do they force their children to eat too much. From the beginning of eating complementary food, they will throw the spoon to the children to eat.

They don't pay special attention to the hygiene at home. On the contrary, they will do their own things quietly with their children, and will also give them high-quality companionship and relax themselves in the process of reading and playing games with their children.

All kinds of maternal and child facilities abroad are perfect, so it is convenient for mothers to take their children out.

You can take the children with you when riding a bicycle, and the trolley will not be stolen anywhere. Every place also has a corresponding nursery, and mothers can take their children everywhere. Life before and after giving birth will not change much.

5. Foreign houses are generally relatively large detached houses, with yards in front and back and oversized French windows. In summer, a small pool can be set up in the garden, and mother does housework through the big glass window. From time to time, she can look up at the children playing in the yard, and in winter, the children can have snowball fights outside the house.

Neighbors are people they know, and no one will steal children.

In foreign countries, every link of society has given mothers the greatest care, culture is more willing to let children grow up in line with nature, families can also give greater support, and the burden on mothers will naturally be reduced.

Gong Beibei in the TV series "Anjia" is an obstetrician and gynecologist, but she still has great friction with her mother-in-law on parenting.

For example, she taught her children not to watch the tablet when eating, and her father-in-law scolded her in turn: What are you doing when the children eat well?

She told her mother-in-law not to feed her children. Her mother-in-law actually wiped her tears on her face and asked her mother-in-law to make food supplements for Bao Xiao. Mother-in-law insists that there is no need to make complementary food, just breastfeed, and her husband protects her parents.

So, she decided to buy another house instead of living with her parents-in-law.

China has a shocking survey data, that is, in all divorced couples, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law actually accounts for 50%.

Everyone knows that a family can't have two mistresses at the same time, but many couples in China have to go to work to take care of their children's families and have to take their parents to live together. As a result, contradictions continue, but it takes a lot of time and energy to communicate, explain and adjust, which brings great internal friction to the whole family.

Foreign countries have very clear boundaries in this regard. Mother-in-law will not participate too much in the life of a small family, nor will she give birth frequently. It is their own responsibility to have children. When necessary, they will help for one or two days a week, but they will never live at home for a long time.

This also avoids many family conflicts and will not affect the relationship between husband and wife because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Dad took the initiative to take part in parenting, and her mother-in-law kept a certain distance from the small family, so the whole family atmosphere was more relaxed and happy.

Generally speaking, it is easier for foreign mothers to take care of their babies, which is more supported by society and culture.

For example, maternity leave is very long, education expenditure is very small, husbands and mothers-in-law can give corresponding support and space, and society has comprehensive consideration and perfect facilities for mothers with babies, which are almost beyond reach in China.

It's not hard to understand why so many people in China want to go abroad to have children.

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