Cai Lam: Living interestingly is a truly good state of life

Mu Xin once said: "In life, you need something higher than firewood, rice, oil and salt."

On the one hand, in order to pursue a better life, the efficiency and system of modern civilization Wealth and status turn people into machines. On the other hand, when they return to daily life, most people always have to face the trivial daily necessities of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.

Over time, people have almost forgotten that their original intention of struggling to survive, working hard, discussing order, and speaking out rules is to live happily and freely.

But there are always people who can find the balance and have a certain quality of their own. They are not obsessed with wealth or indulging in worldly trivialities.

He is particular about life from the bottom of his heart, living interestingly in ordinary life, and taking life appropriately seriously.

This is exactly the principle of life that Cai Lan practices in his life. He said: "A stable life must be boring. I can't stand the boredom, so I decided to live an interesting life."?

Mr. Chua Lam, together with Jin Yong, Huang Zhan and Ni Kuang, is known as "the four great talents in Hong Kong" ", loved eating and drinking, so he organized his own group to travel around, tasting delicacies in the world. He also liked movies, so he worked as a producer at Shaw Brothers for 40 years. He became addicted to words, wrote columns, and wrote books...

Can eat , able to play and enjoy life, Cai Lan lived a free and unrestrained life, so Jin Yongcai said: Cai Lan is a truly free and unrestrained person, the first-class romantic figure in the world.

However, the original purpose of life is to have fun. Only by always maintaining curiosity about life and always being willful will life be interesting.

This way of living seems casual and natural, but in fact it is full of wisdom in life. Therefore, Cai Lan, an interesting life writer, decided to write down his more than seventy years of experience and compile it into "I Decided to Live an Interesting Life" to tell us how a person can live an interesting and thorough life when he comes into this world.

Next, let us follow Cai Lan to see how to live an interesting life. ?

Cai Lam seems to have lived a wonderful life that only ordinary people can live for several lifetimes. Not only food, but also emotions. He advocates enjoyment and freedom and has always had a sharp view on marriage.

Therefore, there are always many young people who encounter relationship problems and like to find him on Weibo to answer their questions. His answers are often tricky and to the point, so Cai Lam has been dubbed the "emotional expert" again.

He agreed with Oscar Wilde: "Men marry because they are tired; women marry because they are curious. Both are disappointed."

His attitude towards marriage can sometimes be said to be It is shocking. He describes it in the book:

If every relationship has to be aimed at getting married and having children, it will be a very annoying entanglement.

Some people’s genes are born from sowing, and their sperm are excellent, so a woman cannot satisfy such people. It is barbaric to use the institution of marriage to restrict them.

Monogamy was thought up by a group of sexually weak defenders who couldn't handle being alone, so they created this system to protect themselves.

However, he is not a "straight man" who ignores the value of women. On the issue of extramarital affairs, he also demands that "wives have the same rights."

For those so-called "Leftover women", Cai Lam even cheered for them: not getting married is just not getting married, and getting married does not mean perfection.

He feels that there are no so-called leftover women in the world. He respects their attitude of not getting married and appreciates their courage not to be bound by the world and not to bow to the system. Regarding the barbaric attitude towards marriage, women are not at all worried about not getting married and having children.

However, Chua Lam also mentioned in the book that at present, we cannot expect society to make changes to the issue of women's marriage soon. The biggest problem is for those girls to overcome their own inner demons and resist those around them. Only in this way can we become a truly free person and a good woman.

Cai Lam said that there are many such good women around him. They travel when they have time, visit old friends far away, love reading and watching movies. These spiritual partners are much better than a bad husband.

Cai Lam has certainly seen a perfect marriage. He talked about in the book that his parents really grew old together, just like those old couples walking hand in hand. When they were together, you could tell that it was not because of the institution of marriage. They might also have a lot of helplessness as partners. They have different opinions, but they can always accept each other's shortcomings and give each other love and care.

It seems that those seemingly cynical attitudes towards relationships are actually just Cai Lam's "joking" about marriage. What he opposes is not marriages that can truly last a lifetime, but those that rely on certificates and systems. maintained marriage.

Perhaps, this is the reflection of Cai Lam's attitude towards life in marriage. He knows that there are too many uncertainties in life and should be a free and happy person.

Cai Lam believes that true love means devoted devotion and taking it seriously, but it doesn’t have to be so serious. If you love someone, you will be bound your hands and feet for the rest of your life. The most important thing is to enjoy the moment.

Just like when he was young, he was a celebrity and never concealed his love for beautiful women. He often lamented that emotional matters are most likely to change with time, but he was very devoted to his beloved wife. Affection.

In an interview with Lu Yu, he talked about his wife without saying much. He just lowered his head slightly and murmured "love deeply" several times.

The things that Chua Lam likes are all "sinful": food, wine, playing cards, smoking...

Whenever we face food, we often have this confusion: eating one more bite will cause Hold on, eat less and be reluctant to give up. It is always difficult to choose between indulgence and enjoyment.

But for Cai Lan, if he must satisfy his appetite, then he should eat as much as possible until he vomits.

If you indulge once, you will know where your own limit is, and the result will often be that you will not make the same mistake the second time. So, eat whatever you want and eat it with ease! It’s the best way to experience life.

He also treats cigarettes the same way. Cai Lam revealed in the book that since he met cigarettes in the back of school at the age of 13, he has never left his hand in the past few decades. Inhale it when going to the toilet, as if it is an air freshener, and inhale it when reading a book. The more you read, the more delicious it becomes.

Cai Lam certainly knows that smoking causes cancer. He does not encourage young people to smoke, but for the lonely elders, people working hard in the city, and country people who have worked hard for a day, after smoking The peace they bring cannot be replaced by anything else, so it's okay to smoke. Who can bear to take away their last bit of entertainment?

Cai Lam also loved wine all his life. He had his own unique views on wine. He believed that there are two types of alcoholics: one is those who drink, and the other is those who are drunk. They will drink any wine. Whenever you get drunk, it is the wine that is drinking you, not you.

He agreed with Li Yu's "Five Nobles" about drinking too much, and also explained it in detail in the book:

First, the most important thing is to be good, and it doesn't matter how much you drink.

Second, the most important thing is that you like to talk and have as many drinking companions as you want.

Third, the value is sustainable, good wine and bad wine are not a problem.

4. The most important thing is that it is feasible. Do what you promised after drinking.

Fifth, it is important to stop drinking. Drink more and drink less. Once you stop, you can never drink a drop again.

Smoking, drinking, and not exercising, whatever makes you feel comfortable. Eating and drinking can also be a sign of respect for life.

Cai Lam always advises others not to be tense all the time and to enjoy life to the fullest. Life is wonderful. What’s the point of living a long life if you don’t live happily?

This hedonistic mentality is suitable for any era. This also makes Cai Lam the only one among the four great talents who is still active in the public eye. He does programs and publishes books, sharing food, drink and fun without any taboos.

We always say that we should be self-disciplined, eat healthy, go to bed early and get up early, and use various rules to restrain ourselves. Such ideas are certainly very healthy.

But on the other hand, our lives are obviously very tiring. If we keep putting pressure on ourselves, will our lives be better?

Sometimes if you are too restrained, you will lose a lot of the joy of life.

Cai Lam’s most famous identity is that of a gourmet, he is simply a walking encyclopedia. However, he himself prefers to be called a "good eater". He loves to eat and try new things. After eating for decades, he has done some research on eating.

Regarding food, Cai Lan explains in the book that he feels that what we eat is not just simple food, but a habit and a kind of nostalgia.

If you don’t believe it, if an Oriental travels abroad and eats Western food for a week, they will definitely want to go to a Chinese restaurant and eat a bowl of white rice. When a foreigner comes to China and eats abalone, ginseng, wings and tripe every day, he will definitely Find opportunities to eat bread at fast food restaurants.

The preferences of taste buds must be imprinted on everyone’s nostalgia for their hometown and childhood. Therefore, not everyone can eat all over the world casually. This is the limitation of the tongue.

Those who are lucky enough to travel around when they are young can accept more things, just like Chua Lam himself. He was born in Singapore, studied in Japan, and then returned to Hong Kong to work. He has been molded by too many travels. of his culinary knowledge.

He is often asked, how can one become a gourmet?

The book mentions: "To become a good eater, you must first be curious. Try everything, because only after you have tried it can you be qualified to judge. Your tongue also needs to be exercised. If things go on like this, you will slowly become You will become a person who knows how to appreciate food. ”

Isn’t life the same? Maybe we are just a little bit curious about interesting life.

In Cai Lam's view, eating is not only a talent, but also a curiosity and a kind of knowledge. When you learn about eating, you will find that it is the best weapon to make friends.

The book says that if you talk to Ningbo people about crab paste, yellow mud snails, and stinky winter melon, they will be very excited; if you talk to overseas Hong Kong people about wonton noodles, they will definitely know which one is the best. tasty.

Having tasted everything in the world, which one does Cai Lam think is the most delicious? For this kind of question, he mostly answers: "The food is the best when you eat with your girlfriend."

Because your partner affects your mood, and your mood affects everything. If you are in a good mood, the food in front of you will naturally be good. It is precisely because of this kind of thinking that Cai Lan can be called a "gourmet".

Eating and drinking has always been a big deal. It is a desire in life and it is also a joy in life. You look for it and find the most unique bite. It is fun, but the ultimate joy is not to find delicious delicacies. , but to be with the one you love the most, even a simple meal, can be treated seriously, even if it is wasted between a cup of tea and a meal, it is the bliss of the world.

People who are particular about eating must also have some research on other aspects of life. Cai Lam is like this. He not only has a special liking for food, but also has his own opinions on clothing.

He is familiar with where big brands are produced, how materials are used, and which products of which design lines are the best, but this does not prevent him from being indifferent to luxury goods.

Cai Lam emphasized in the book that he thinks it is not important whether the clothes are famous brands, but it is important to wash them cleanly, iron them smoothly, wear corresponding clothes according to the occasion, and look decent and comfortable in them. Because clothing is a kind of respect for others and also respect for yourself.

An acquaintance often sees Chua Lam running around in the wet market in Mong Kok wearing slippers and shorts. Chua Lam himself thinks it doesn’t matter. There is no need for a public figure to wear a suit to the wet market. It is not appropriate. Comfortable.

He does not pursue famous brands and does not pay attention to ostentation in his clothes, but he has strict requirements on fabrics.

Cai Lam talked about his own experience in the book: One summer, he happened to get an Indian silk and linen shirt. It was thin and cool to wear, and it felt like it rubbed against the skin. Out of pleasure.

After wearing it for the first time, he swore to himself that in a free environment, he would not wear more than two taels of clothes on hot days.

He doesn’t have many suits, and the style doesn’t follow the fashion, but he must choose the right materials, otherwise the clothes will become wrinkled and look awkward after wearing them a few times.

However, the colors of his shirt and tie are often changed in order to give people a fresh feeling.

It is said that clothing is an expression of a person’s values, preferences and personality. It is difficult to change the appearance. Everyone has a relatively broad space for dressing. If you don’t speak up, your clothes will Style and appearance are your language, which silently expresses your truest attitude towards life. Dressing appropriately will make your journey in life much easier.

Cai Lam believes that whether you are wearing a suit or jeans, you should wear what you want to wear, what you want to wear, and what you like to wear. Rather than wearing what others want you to wear, this is the lowest freedom requirement in life.

To be honest, it is not good for someone like Cai Lan to be a husband. Free people are more likely to be carefree, so it is best to be a friend.

Because he is an interesting person, loves to go to the vegetable market, can talk about the past and the present, has a sexy mind, and sharp writing, which is rare in the world.

Cai Lam’s friends are not inferior either. He is one of the four most talented people in Hong Kong. Regardless of his fame and glitz, these are also his lifelong friends. He spends a lot of time introducing it in the book.

First of all, Jin Yong, he is weird. He and Cai Lan have completely different tastes in food. "Cai Lam and I have the same views on some things, but when it comes to food, I can't get used to what he ordered." Once I went to eat in Guangdong with Mr. Jin Yong Congee and noodles, that’s what he said.

Speaking of drinking, it is said that Mr. Jin Yong had a good drinker when he was young, but rarely drank heavily. Cai Lan said in the book that when he was drinking with him, he watched him drink whiskey without ice, which was considered a good thing. Evidence of his alcoholism.

The book also tells an interesting story: many years ago, after Mr. Jin Yong had a serious illness, the doctor stopped him from eating sweets.

But the more the old naughty boy was forbidden, the more he wanted to eat. He would hide a long piece of chocolate in the female nurse's apron bag, and put another piece in the pocket of her pajamas, leaving part of it exposed.

Mrs. Cha found out and naturally confiscated his chocolate. After the wife left, he took it out of the nurse's pocket and ate it.

Probably only weird people can write the weird things in novels.

Another Ni Kuang, he can play. Ni Kuang lived his decades into several eras. In each era, he played with all his heart until he became an expert, which Cai Lam admired a lot.

Cai Lam said that Ni Kuang was not very picky about playing. He lived through the age of carpenters, the age of goldfish, the age of shells, the age of immigrants, etc. He enjoyed each era to the fullest, but at the end of each era, he stopped thinking about it and kept nothing he had collected.

This is his personality. During his shell age, he wrote many papers and was praised by experts from the International Shell Society. If he had left one or two of the rare shells he collected, they would still be worth a fortune, but he smiled and didn't feel any pity at all.

The book also talks about Ni Kuang having a "movie era", which was started by Cai Lam. A few years ago, Chua Lam supervised the production of "Wesley and Yuan Zhenxia", which had a luxurious cast, including Chow Yun-fat, Maggie Cheung, Qian Xiaohao...

Cai Lam had to persuade Ni Kuang to play the role. Ni Kuang refused at first, but with the good wine and the company of beautiful women, Ni Kuang thought it was a good job and got out of hand.

The two friends tease each other on the set, but Cai Lam still feels from the bottom of his heart that this old friend is awesome, a person who can enjoy everything, and his world is wider than ordinary people.

When it comes to Huang Zhan, everyone says that he is talented. He has composed more than 2,000 songs, which spanned the entire golden era of Hong Kong pop culture starting from the late 1970s.

Huang Zhan once commented that he was "a womanizer, a lover of wine, and a lover of money." However, in Cai Lam's eyes, this friend was extremely affectionate, especially his romantic past.

Cai Lam mentioned in the book that Huang Zhan told his friends about his beloved wife Chen Huimin during the recording of "Undefended Tonight".

Chen Huimin is twenty years younger than Uncle Zhan and loves Huang Zhan wholeheartedly. The two got married in 1995 in the American casino city of Las Vegas.

Everyone knows that Las Vegas is the most convenient and fastest place to get married in the world.

Huang Zhan was not in a hurry. He took his beautiful lady to watch a performance in the casino first, then went to have lunch, and then slowly planned to register the marriage.

The wedding was very simple. There were substitutes for the ring in the church, so the parties did not need to prepare. In less than an afternoon, the certificate was obtained, the marriage ceremony was held, and the wedding ceremony was held.

Cai Lan envied this love in his heart, because Chen Huimin's love for Huang Zhan seemed to be only seen in novels, and it was very affectionate. Being able to love each other sincerely without thinking about rewards and help each other without any conditions is the love that Cai Lan respects the most.

If you have such friends in your life, you are really lucky. Their legend, talent, and freedom can save you a lot of time and allow you to experience the fun.

A short story I heard about Cai Lam is that once he was on a night flight and encountered turbulence due to turbulence. An Australian man next to him was holding on to the armrest of the seat, but Cai Lam kept drinking. .

After the plane stabilized, the man was puzzled: "Brother, have you ever died?" Cai Lan slowly put down the wine glass in his hand and said, "I have lived."

This Perhaps this is the most authentic Cai Lan, who has survived and is not afraid of anything.

When he was young, Cai Lan understood: "Compared with the entire universe, we are only a matter of a few decades and a moment. I hope I can be happier." Therefore, he spent his whole life using himself way to pursue happiness.

In his early years, he made movies very popular, and then he became a host, writer, traveler, gourmet, calligrapher, painter, seal engraver... He lived all kinds of roles. The best practitioner of experiential life.

It is precisely because of his experience that he warned young people:

Life is like a dream, wealth is like smoke. After seeing the vicissitudes of the world, it is also important to not be tired of life and live it with enthusiasm. A noble way of living. ?

Towards life, you should have an attitude of playing with things to cultivate your ambition. There are no small things in life. Eating and drinking, simple and pure appetites are the most difficult to satisfy. If you study hard, you can have endless fun. No matter you fail or succeed, it is still fun.

Be responsible for every love. When you are together, tell the other person that you love him, let the other person know your own value, and feel the goodness of love. Don't blame yourself or others if you don't fall in love, and don't be greedy or hesitant. This is the greatest respect for love.

Be respectful and sincere to your friends. Cai Lam’s friends are strange and weird, some are promiscuous, some are alcoholics, and some are tricky, but everyone can get along with each other in peace and chat. This is true friendship. We gather together because of the same interests and cherish each other’s efforts. , I won’t interfere with your other side. Everyone has their own quirks, as long as you are a good person and don’t harm nature.

The existence of such an old man also makes us reflect.

When we look around and see everyone busy, with tiredness, greed or helplessness on their faces, when we take it for granted that fun is inconsistent with being motivated, striving, and seizing the day, there are A group of such people, after being confused and trapped, broke away from the shackles of boredom, jumped out of the limitations of the times, and lived a different world for themselves.

This may require a lot of courage and a lot of ability, but try to start from the food, drink and fun around you, look down on external utilitarianism, find your true hobbies, make some interesting friends, and slowly your Life will be different.