What kind of personality does fear form?

Stick to the Goal Reading Sharing Day 718, 2019.1.14

First of all, the first type of personality formed by fear is schizotypal personality. Schizotypal personality, understood literally, many people may think that it is split into two personalities. This is not the case. Schizotypal personality refers to a person who is always torn between two states, such as whether to treat a relationship with devotion or suspicion; to treat a lover with responsibility or emotion, etc. This kind of people always wander between the two states. The most fundamental reason is that they don't trust others and are afraid of being hurt.

It is precisely because of this that many people with schizotypal personality are unwilling to get close to others. They prefer to be alone and live an isolated life. Once someone tries to get closer to them, they will feel uncomfortable. In his later years, the famous American entrepreneur Howard Hughes was an out-and-out schizotypal personality. It is said that he lived in the desert and cut his hair only once a year so as not to have physical contact with anyone. This extreme way of seclusion also made Howard's temperament become more and more eccentric and egotistical.

Ego is one of the characteristics of schizotypal personality. People with schizotypal personality are not good at communicating with others; they only care about their own emotions. It is precisely because people with schizotypal personality take their emotions so seriously that it makes it difficult for them to control their emotions. Especially when they are angry, they are likely to take extreme actions because they cannot control their anger.

For example, the famous Chinese poet Gu Cheng has a schizotypal personality. He has liked to be alone since he was a child and does not like places with many people. When he was at the height of his fame, he and his wife Xie Ye immigrated to New Zealand, hoping to live an isolated life. Later, due to a family dispute, Gu Cheng hacked his wife to death in a rage, and Gu Cheng himself also chose to commit suicide.

At this point, many people may think that people with schizotypal personality are just like Gu Cheng, a very extreme person. However, just like when we are sick, we distinguish between major illnesses and minor illnesses, the same is true for schizotypal personality. Some schizotypal personality symptoms are more extreme, while others are milder. For those with mild schizotypal personality, many people may simply not enjoy human contact. On the contrary, this trait enables such people to concentrate on pursuing their goals without being disturbed by the outside world.

Therefore, people with schizotypal personality are more suitable than other types of people for careers that are highly theoretical and do not have contact with people. For example, scientists, engineers, astronauts, etc.

For people with schizotypal personality, "think more about others" is the way to get rid of the negative impact of this personality type.

In addition to schizotypal personality, the second type of personality formed by fear is melancholic personality. When hearing the word "melancholy" in melancholic personality, many people may think that people with this type must be depressed all day long, and maybe even cry often. In fact, this is not the case. Melancholic personality represents a personality type that is completely opposite to schizotypal personality. Its biggest trait is the fear of being isolated.

The reason why people with a melancholic personality type are afraid of being isolated is because people of this type always lack a sense of security. They spend their lives hoping to gain a sense of belonging by building close relationships with others.

There is nothing wrong with the idea of ??building an intimate relationship. For many people, establishing an intimate relationship is an effective way to gain a sense of security and belonging. However, for most people, building an intimate relationship is a gradual, mutually beneficial process. If they really can't get along, they dare to give up. In the eyes of people with a melancholic personality, it is impossible to give up. If they cannot get along, they will wrong themselves and compromise with the other party.