20 billion lessons: when the spiritual pillar collapses, how to get out of the days of despair?

In life, some people may have the phenomenon of spiritual pillar collapse, and then they will feel disillusioned. The foundation established before, including faith, talent, health, family, material, contacts and so on. , once lost the platform to play. According to the new rules, they have no chance to take part in the competition. They watched people who were not as good as themselves pass by and step onto the stage, and they became lonely spectators, and their hearts fell into nothingness for a time.

But now most people may not feel this way. Some people say that because China people have lost their faith in the market economy, there is no doubt that their faith will collapse. What is faith? In fact, people must have faith in the process of growing up, which is his way of life shaped by growth experience. If someone has a strong ability to study and work, he will gain the advantage of survival by strengthening this feature. People will ignore his weaknesses because of his advantages. The belief he formed is to believe and develop his own ability. In order to develop and demonstrate his ability, he believes in the rules of fair competition and hates people who enter through the back door. Some people are not good at study and work, but they have a good personality and unite with others. Everyone likes to work with him, so he becomes competitive, so paying attention to popularity and sharing becomes his belief. Everyone has his own way of living, which is almost an instinctive wisdom.

The so-called collapse of faith, in a small sense, is nothing more than the sudden failure of faith in reality. For example, a competent business leader has struggled for seven or eight years in a large company that is eager for talents and fair competition. When he rose to the middle level, he suddenly found that he could never get on, and the high-level seats were vacant, and it was not his turn. At this time, he will be confused. He doesn't know that the high-level seats are held by people who have deep roots with the high-level, that is, the so-called own people, who may be just the boss's classmates, classmates' lovers, parents and superiors who grew up, and have nothing to do with business ability. But on the surface, the company will still adhere to the promotion principle of meritocracy. Senior management will unite and work together. In the long run, the beliefs established by middle-level personnel with their own abilities will collapse.

Generally speaking, belief is a person's overall view of the world and his lifestyle based on it. Have ideas and actions. After the collapse of faith, it is equivalent to a rebirth of human beings, and they have to adapt to the new rules again. If you get used to it, you will gradually establish new beliefs. If you are not used to it, you will fall into mental pain.

In the early 1990s, when the Miss Fitness Competition was just launched in China, the first champion was an excellent physical education teacher from a famous university. She has been honored since she was a child, including winning the national excellent title. Later, she married an American student and immigrated to new york with her husband, which made her the envy of her colleagues. In the United States and * * * just two or three years, they divorced. After the divorce, the fitness lady committed suicide by lying on the track. In her eyes, maybe the divorce made her belief in life collapse. She doesn't know how to face her colleagues and relatives if she returns to China. Stay and fight? Once again, she lost the support of her faith because her previous lifestyle was completely denied by her ex-husband. This is a tragedy.

People can't see their own life logic. When a person's logic conflicts with the outside world, his instinct is to maintain the stability of his psychological world and not be crushed. The smoother and more correct the past, the stronger the will to maintain, and the more you will do whatever it takes.

The car accident in Xiao Huang is a similar example. The horse said to him, this is a lesson of 2 billion. The shareholders of Xiaohuangche invested 20 billion RMB in Dai Wei, the founder of Xiaohuangche, and Dai Wei also absorbed two opposing business teams, Ali and Tencent, laying the groundwork for wrangling. But it was the founder's decision that ultimately led to the company's bankruptcy, because he had the decision-making power. When the company encountered a bank run tide and faced bankruptcy, investors hoped that he would focus on commercial interests and pull out to keep the company, so he chose to fight for power and profit. As a result, Sun Zhengyi's investment of $6,543.8 +0.9 billion failed to enter. Cheng Wei, the largest shareholder of Xiaohuangche, also gave him advice and asked him to be marginalized. He felt humiliated and still refused. At this point, no one is willing to contribute to resist the frenzy of squeezing the deposit back by Xiao Huang. Of course, there are various reasons, but from the perspective of media disclosure, the main reason is the personality of the founder.

The founder is the president of Peking University Student Union, and an outstanding member who has been honored since childhood. Generally speaking, the smooth sailing and successful life of teenagers not only gives people confidence, but also makes people obsessed with honor. As the saying goes, "I can't afford to lose." Care more about winning or losing than profit. This is not in line with business rules. Investor Allen Zhu couldn't help saying, "Are you stupid?" But David didn't quarrel with him, but silently refused.

If faith can't hold up the situation, let it collapse and start again after the vanity is shattered. Being willing to let go will give you a chance to be born again. As long as the heart of doing things is still there, all the pieces may be reassembled under new opportunities and become the wonderful use of this heart. But the castle peak is still there, so let it set several times. (God understands)