Interpretation of The Weird Life with Double Income and No Children

Double income without children, a strange name, seems unheard of among the ethnic minorities in China. Which one is it? Which provinces does it live in? I looked for it for a long time, but I couldn't find it. It turns out that it is not a minority, but belongs to some special people like the "moonlight family". These people have one thing in common, that is, there are no children at home, that is, "there are no successors." Careful analysis shows that there are many reasons for this result, but it is mainly a "concept" problem.

What is an idea? Concept is the sum total of various understandings formed in people's daily life or production practice. Once an idea is formed, it will be deeply rooted in our minds, and then we can make decisions, make plans and take actions through it. Therefore, the formation of double income childless is by no means accidental. It is the result of external influence that leads some people to form a certain concept, and then through this concept, they will "instruct" themselves not to have children.

The word "Dink" is not native to China, but comes from abroad, so it is called "Dink" in English. It turns out that Chinese has taken its homonym. However, this is not a word, it is an abbreviation of a sentence. The original words are "double income without children", which means "double income without children" Of course, this refers to those families who are obviously fertile but don't want children, not those families who can't have children for physiological reasons. The scope of this paper also refers to this point, that is, being able to have children but willing to "not have children" and leaving a "completely clean" side. Strictly speaking, this situation is a typical "DINK family". Only a group composed of this family can be called "double income without children".

The formation of double income childless is caused by external "stimulus". This is nothing new abroad. Why is the population of China, Indian and other developing countries growing explosively, while the population of European and American countries has been growing slightly, and some places even have "negative growth"? This is a riddle-like question. Is it because of the high latitude, cold weather and poor crops in those countries? Or is it too cold for the population to survive and die in large numbers? I don't think so. It is possible that both the "catastrophe" of the two world wars and the post-war economic recovery need high-intensity competition. In this case, some people can't stand it, leading to some people being "forced" not to have children, so as not to increase the pressure. Thus, the word "dink" came into being. This was in the 1950s.

The "Dink Family" spread to China in 1990s. At this time, China has been "open" for more than ten years, and the social situation has undergone earth-shaking changes. Of course, it also creates some kind of "pressure" for many people, so the concept of "not having children" appears. Now more than 20 years have passed, this kind of crowd has not decreased, but has increased, which has to attract the attention of relevant parties, so we have an interview and investigation with reporters to see what the real reason is. There was once a graduate student named Liu Shuhan in the School of Political Science and Law of Hebei University. 1992, she wrote a paper on the causes and social functions of the Dink family in China, which comprehensively discussed the subjective and objective reasons for the emergence of the Dink family in China.

The reason for the emergence of "Dink Family" is mainly caused by excessive social pressure. In the 1990s, China was in a critical period of reform and opening up, and many old systems and frameworks were gradually broken. Especially the "iron rice bowl" no longer exists. Everything is determined by production efficiency and market supply and demand, and the enterprise is finally seriously eliminated. Fierce competition has made some people feel great pressure, and they are all kicking down the bridge. How can they take into account the "next generation"? At that time, a strange saying was popular among the people: "Three minutes of happiness is a burden for eighteen years." It means that it takes only three minutes to form a life, but it takes at least eighteen years to support it. This kind of calculation is really a very uneconomical thing!

The cause of "Dink Family" is also a psychological factor. Some women are terrified at the first hurdle when they see the pain of giving birth. Then, after the child is born, it needs food, clothing and care. This requires hiring a nanny to take care of it and pay part of his salary. As soon as I went to kindergarten, I officially began to invest huge educational funds. If it is a public kindergarten, the price is not too expensive. If it is a private kindergarten, there is no depth, and some places may still be astronomical. In the nine-year compulsory education stage, although it does not cost money, it is only a legal interpretation. In fact, it takes flowers, which is a kind of "flower" to varying degrees. When you go to college, you have to pay for everything from tuition to living expenses, and you can't lose a penny. The word "subsidy" has become a thing of the past in universities. Before and after this, the prime time of life is troublesome for children, which is too uneconomical!

These are the negative reasons for the formation of "Dink Family". Correspondingly, there is another positive reason. This is the family of some senior intellectuals. They think that the population of China is too large, and it is not enough to implement the family planning policy. We should further make this road more "unique", that is, cut off the birth line forever and resolutely not give birth to one. At first glance, this kind of "self-sacrifice" smacks of worrying about the country and people. They are generally engaged in academic research and are unwilling to spend a lot of time on their children at the expense of their careers. Their lifelong pursuit seems to be for work and career. It is their children who can make "achievements". A big credit is the birth of a fat man!

Of course, there is another kind, which also belongs to active reasons. It's just that people with rich incomes just want to "have a good time", no matter what will happen to others, let alone the country. Their lifelong pursuit is "comfort". They want to live a relaxed and romantic life. Judging from their economic income, they can support a large group of children. Even in college, I can support three to five children at the same time. However, they hate children and think that these "things" are completely "debts". With them, there is no house, no car, no food on the table, and even the idea of traveling around the world will be dismissed. The plan to travel abroad will always be a plan.

In China's traditional concept, "there are three kinds of unfilial, and there is no queen", which has been affecting people's lives. This is what the ancient sage Mencius said. Mencius was a representative of the Confucian school in the Warring States Period. In "On Li Lou", he said, "There are three kinds of unfilial, and the last is the greatest. Get married without telling, because there is no future. This gentleman thinks he is still suing. " This means that there are many unfilial things, but no offspring is the biggest "unfilial". Shun got married without telling her parents, as if they didn't exist. What's the difference between this and his parents' "no offspring"? Therefore, as a gentleman, you should tell your parents about getting a wife in advance.

This is the moral standard of filial piety put forward by Mencius. Later generations regard this standard as an old adage, and think that no offspring is the greatest "unfilial", which is incompatible with the feudal society of China "ruling the world with filial piety", so many people dare not "cross" this red line. Besides, because social productivity is low and a lot of manpower is needed, who will have fertility and not be born? That is "self-destruction". In this way, the "greatness" of "doing nothing big" may not be "great unfilial" but "great hidden danger". Therefore, it is unacceptable for the ancients to have children but not let them "live".

Today, it seems that the result of "self-destruction" no longer exists. Because the society is developing, the era when the ancients needed "manpower" for everything is gone forever, so not many people are worried about the hidden worry of "childlessness". However, there is a problem here, which is the overall understanding and experience of the whole meaning of life, as well as feelings, attitudes and values. From the social point of view, "no successor" is a very terrible thing. Imagine that the civilization created and passed down by countless generations for thousands of years will be "suspended" by your generation? Isn't it a worthless "destruction"? Can you bear this kind of "sin"

Irish playwright Bernard Shaw said, "Life is not a short candle, but a torch we hold temporarily. We must burn it very brightly and hand it over to the next generation. " This shows that people do not live in this world for themselves. We also have a sacred responsibility to "inherit" brilliant achievements! If we all think for ourselves, we won't exist. Because our predecessors have fired us.

The high level of human civilization is gradually completed through the joint efforts of several generations. If there is a "fault" halfway, civilization will go backwards. If there are no successors, the whole civilization will disappear and the world will return to darkness. This is a very terrible thing. This point, the author has a deep understanding.

After the Wenchuan earthquake, all our children "transitioned" outside the earthquake zone. For months, there were no children on the streets of the county. Although there are people in the street, they are all adults, so the whole street is extremely deserted. Why? Thinking about it, I suddenly found that there was no scenery and no children running. Without the noisy children of the past, the streets could not be lively. Without naughty children, it's like missing a lot of life. Therefore, the stronger the desire of children, the more unconsciously my eyes search. Finally found one and ran excitedly to ask. It turned out that the county passed by here. At this point, I can't help shouting in my heart: Oh, my God! If we don't have children for a long time, the whole society will be like this. Won't we have a future? What's the point of living like this? Don't we work hard for our children all the year round? Without them, what are we worth doing? At this point, my tears flowed out unconsciously.

Personally speaking, having no children is a great worry. When I was young, I might not think so. At a certain age, you will know that it may be a serious mistake to choose "no children" at the beginning. This statement is neither alarmist nor arbitrary. This is a lesson that many people have experienced together!

Without children, you can't realize the full meaning of life. It's a pity to meet God in the future! Without children, you can't understand that there is a feeling in the world that you can never give up, that is, "a broken bone is still attached to a tendon"! Without children, you can't feel the real warmth and vitality of a family, and you can't feel the happiness of sleeping on a child's wet bed, and you can't hear the thrilling call of "father" or "mother"! Without children, no matter how hard and tired you are, you can't feel the confidence and strength to do it, and you can't feel the courage and courage of "knowing that there are tigers in the mountains and leaning towards the mountains"!

Who is closest to your heart in the world, husband and wife? Or brothers and sisters? Or friends and relatives? Neither. "Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and when disaster strikes, they fly separately" is another old saying. Nowadays, many people fly separately before encountering great difficulties. You didn't miss it. Brothers and sisters all have their own homes, and there is no time to care about anything that happens to you. Relatives and friends, only the interests of * * * have no eternal obligation. There are only two kinds of people who will never abandon you when you are in trouble. They are parents and their own children. This is a continuous blood ladder, and this is the Great Wall of Wan Li built with blood and tears! If one day you are in trouble, you will realize the weight of my words.