Ted talks about immigration.

Reading at night, I was deeply touched when I saw such a passage.

? I find that people who are afraid of speaking in public will say some terrible things to themselves, which they will never say to others:

I'm not good at making statements.

I used to be nervous, which ruined me. I'm a terrible public speaker.

Nobody wants to listen to me. I am bored.

If these are phrases that you repeat to yourself day after day, it is not surprising that you are nervous! You can't control what others say about you, but you can control the story of your inner channel.

? -The Secret of the Storyteller Garmin Gallo

The general meaning of the whole paragraph is that many people who have stage fright when speaking in public often look down on themselves and say something derogatory to themselves that they will never say to others, such as "My speaking ability is really poor" and "I am a terrible speaker. I screwed up my speech before. " "No one should want to listen to my speech. I am bored. " If you belittle yourself in your heart day after day. It's weird not to be nervous. Many times, we can't control what others think of us, but at least we can control our self-awareness and self-identity.

Looking back on the past, we often say a lot of cruel words to ourselves like those people who have stage fright in speeches. In life, we often feel inferior to Amy Cuddy. (Amy Cuddy, a famous TED speaker, translated "Your body language may shape who you are" into "Body language shapes yourself", and Youtube has more than 65,438+700 million viewers).

Seven years ago, I graduated from college. The winter before graduation, I took the postgraduate exam. At that time, I applied for Nankai, hesitated during the preparation, and my self-confidence bottomed out. No surprises. Looking for a job in graduation season, influenced by the results of postgraduate entrance examination, has low expectations for the future. I thought that as long as I could teach in high school, I would be satisfied. Because the postgraduate entrance examination missed the golden period of running recruitment, there were fewer application opportunities for the school the following spring. But fortunately, all the submitted resumes have been interviewed.

Teacher interview generally consists of written test, interview and trial lecture, and some schools sometimes have lectures. Interviews and lectures are the most difficult to control. On-the-spot question-and-answer and on-the-spot lesson preparation require high adaptability and basic skills in peacetime. Before the interview, I had little experience in interviewing and lecturing. But I have been a TV fan since I was a child, and I have many fantasies about the scenery on the podium. Before the interview and trial lecture, my mind was full of my own imaginary scene on the podium. Since I was a child, I have always been introverted, and I seldom speak in public or in public. However, there is never a lack of imagination in my head on stage. It's a pity that graduation season that year, I always pretended to talk about Kan Kan on the podium, and those affectations made me return home full of food. As long as I participated in the teacher interview that year, I basically took all the positions. I finally chose the position that I was most satisfied with. I choose to stay in Wuhan and become a teacher in a key high school in Wuhan. This high school has six rounds of interviews, which last for four months. I finally broke through the encirclement. I remember that the other teachers recruited in the same period were all graduate students and doctoral students from famous universities except an undergraduate from Beijing Normal University.

Although I have been teaching in a high school in Wuhan for one year, my enthusiasm for teaching Chinese as a foreign language remains undiminished. Near the deadline for Chinese teacher registration, I finally got up the courage to submit my resume. Although I knew that I couldn't meet the graduate education requirements required by Hanban, I finally signed up and tried my hand. I weighed my expectations against the matching of resources. I applied for the position of Chinese teacher at Sao Paulo State University in Brazil. Fortunately, I successfully passed the screening of my resume and the written test, interview and trial lecture organized by Hanban. However, due to the temporary adjustment of the post in that school in Brazil, Hanban adjusted the teachers who passed the examination on the basis of comprehensive results. Finally, I was told that I would be transferred to the most demanding American school. After accepting the transfer, Hanban arranged the last interview for the American teachers. Only by passing this American interview can we finally succeed in changing jobs. There is a week's preparation time before the interview, because I have never dealt with Americans or even talked with foreigners in English, and I feel very uneasy. During the preparation for the exam, I have always fantasized that I can have a smooth conversation in English, and my self-satisfaction in using foreign languages skillfully arises. After a week's interview, although I was a little nervous at first, I soon entered a "pretend" state. In fact, at that time, I also knew that I might have made grammatical dislocation because many sentences were spoken too fast, but this did not prevent me from communicating with them, and the more I spoke, the more excited I became. Finally, I successfully transferred to this position in the United States.

After my two-year tenure in the United States, I returned to a domestic technology company specializing in head-up display and took an overseas operation position. In the interview, I pay attention to my English communication ability. The CEO of the company is an English major. Although I changed my career and lacked post experience, my self-confidence began to take off again because of the fake English play and interview.

Now, I often attend some international exhibitions and hold telephone conferences or face-to-face meetings with overseas customers. I also moved to America recently. Nowadays, English has been integrated into life and has become a tool for a new way of thinking. I still remember when I first came to America, before I could speak English, I always had to translate what I had to say into English in my mind. Over time, the translation action of the mind no longer exists. English can blurt out most situations in life.

Looking back, the "pretend" in the past seems to have really become a fact.

However, after moving to America recently, I spent too much time looking down at the road, and I blamed myself more and more and pretended less and less.

Before going to bed at night, I read the paragraphs in the book again and read them to my husband softly. He repeated Amy Cuddy's words: pretend until you succeed; ; Pretend it until you become it.

"Pretend", starting with daily body language; "Pretend", starting with praising yourself; "Pretending" is also to get more scenic scenes from fantasy.

As a new generation of immigrants, I "pretend" to be in the center of the world stage, shining with the light of China.

Recommendation: Amy Cuddy's speech "Your body language may shape who you are" (translated as "Body language shapes yourself"), as she said at the beginning of her speech, is a gift that everyone who is not black technology can do. This is not an inspirational speech, but a revelation of human psychology with scientific basis and a concrete and feasible methodology.