What is real aristocratic education from two stories?

The real aristocratic education is not to let children live in villas and drive luxury cars, which can be used at any time. This is not aristocratic education, but nouveau riche education.

The real aristocratic education is to cultivate children's perseverance and will to make progress. You know, money and expensive are not the same thing at all!

Here are two stories to show you the real aristocratic education.

The first story

Dean Chen has a daughter who is a public doctoral student at the University of Tokyo, Japan. My daughter is an old maid, but Dean Chen never urges marriage or arranges any blind date. She said that the daughter will make her own decisions, and true maternal love is the appropriate export.

Hearing the idea of Dean Chen's education of children, Dean Chen is so excellent. No wonder the children educated are so excellent. What is the secret of educating children?

Dean Chen said that her parents raised four children. The four brothers and sisters who grew up together are top figures from all walks of life, and all have at least bachelor's degrees. But in their children's generation, the graduate students with the worst academic qualifications are all excellent, with high IQ and emotional intelligence.

It was in her father's generation. Because of the Cultural Revolution, her parents were classified as Rightists, and they were arrested for marching in high hats every day. At this time, their friends and neighbors tried their best to attack and humiliate them, often went to her house to rob their valuables, and even drove their family out to live in a cowshed.

Think about that era, materials were very scarce, and the most common thing we faced every day was hunger. You were so hungry that you couldn't sleep all night. Because there is nothing in your stomach, stomach acid can easily reflux and burn your esophagus. One of their children died on a winter night because of physical weakness.

However, her parents grit their teeth. No matter how bad the environment is, they never let the children stop reading. After a day's work, they are exhausted to death. The family huddled under a dim kerosene lamp to read a book, or the father told some interesting historical stories, and the children listened attentively.

It's hard to imagine what kind of spirit this is. Her parents swore at that time: although the people who attacked us can't compete with you now, my descendants must surpass you! It is with such a belief and sense of superiority rooted in their hearts that they have struggled to survive.

Her father died the day before he recovered, leaving her mother to raise four children alone. The children are very obedient, as if they all know what kind of mission they are shouldering and rarely need their mothers to worry about. Older people will help younger people and know how to help them.

Decades passed quickly, and their children all completed their respective missions, all of them were excellent, and none of the descendants of their attackers could surpass them. The children passed this belief on to the next generation, and the next generation received a good education. Every family won the first prize and caused a sensation in their local area.

Isn't this the China version of aristocratic education?

The best education parents can give their children is to convey a spirit. Parents give their children the greatest wealth, that is, "human" children, and it is better than any material thing to pass on the optimistic, positive and indomitable spirit to him!

Spirit is something that can be passed down from generation to generation as a family heirloom, while matter is very easy to be lost or broken. Look at those big families that have flourished for hundreds of years. They all have their own family precepts and their own family spirit, because this is the most precious thing.

The second story:

Wang Shuzhen, a native of Nantong, Jiangsu, lived to the age of 106. She is a great and ordinary mother. She gave birth to five men and eight women, 13 children and 13 doctors, all of whom are elites from all walks of life.

Of her 13 children, three were named "Top Ten Outstanding Young People in America". Even President Clinton and President Bush wrote letters praising her as a great mother. When she was 65,438+000 years old, President Clinton and Mayor new york went to congratulate her on her happy birthday.

Because of his belief in Buddhism, he got the name of "shore Buddha", so he is also called Li Wan 'an Buddha.

She has a son named Li Changyu, known as Sherlock Holmes in the East, and is the best medical expert in administrative law in the world. It is said that his salary is calculated at 1 10,000 USD/hour.

He also appeared in "Kangxi is coming", and Xiao S asked him, "How to judge whether my husband is cheating?" He responded domineering: let your husband come to see me for 2 minutes.

Wang took a photo of the balcony, and 40 minutes later he gave the detailed address.

He has cracked more than 8,000 cases since he became a policeman, and he has cracked the "Simpson's wife killing case" that caused a sensation in the United States. However, such an awesome detective said that the person I admire most in this world is my mother.

How does this great mother educate her children?

Although his mother Wang Shuzhen didn't graduate from middle school, teaching by example is more important than words. Her life's behavior is the best education for her children.

She was born in a rich family, and she is an educated woman. However, her husband was unfortunately killed because of the "Taiping Wheel" incident, and the family was completely deprived of economic resources. The burden of the whole family 14 people is all on this weak woman. When she was poorest, she often ate the last meal without the next one, and her death was so close to them.

In order to support the family, this former eldest wife is willing to do anything, helping people wash dishes, wash clothes and do odd jobs. In winter, the river is cold, and her hands are often swollen, but she still insists on gritting her teeth.

However, no matter how hard life is, she always insists on high standards and strict requirements for her children's education. Even if it is selling iron in a pot, she will let her children learn. She knows how important reading is to a person, so none of her 13 children drop out of school.

When Detective Li Changyu was at school, his mother bought a pair of shoes for her son, because barefoot was not allowed in the school. Li Changyu knew that it was not easy for her mother to buy shoes, so she only put them on when she entered the school. Usually, when she goes to school, she walks home barefoot with shoes in her hand.

After graduating from the police academy, Li Changyu received very good welfare treatment, but she said to Li Changyu, "You have to continue studying because you don't have a master's degree, and you have to study for a doctorate." So the detective listened to his mother's words and achieved what he has achieved.

She is also very demanding of herself. At that time, she was 62 years old, still studying English hard, and finally passed the English exam of the US Immigration Service and obtained permanent residency.

She wants her children to be top-notch talents as much as possible. In order to live up to their mother's ardent expectations, 13 all the children worked hard and finally succeeded in their careers, inheriting their mother's indomitable perseverance.

Under the education of Wang Shuzhen, a school has trained 13 doctors, which is absolutely a miracle all over the world.

What is real aristocratic education? This is it!

Howard carter Jr., a famous writer, once said what he hoped to leave to future generations: "We hope to leave our children two permanent legacies, one is the root and the other is the wing."

What is a root? That's faith. You should always know where your roots are and what your beliefs are.

And a wing. The best education for parents is to lead by example, take their children to fly, let them learn to fly, and give them a pair of wings that can fly, just as the famous German philosopher IELTS Bells said: The essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul summons another soul.

Passing on a belief to children, coupled with parents' words and deeds, makes it difficult for children in this family to be excellent.

Lin Zexu said, "If Zi is better than me, what's the use of keeping money?" ? What's the use of leaving money if my son is not as good as me? "This sentence to savor, always feel delicate.

If you really want to be kind to your child, don't leave him with golden mountains and silver mountains, but give him the right to create, let him sweat, shed tears and bleed, and let him run in the rain without an umbrella.

Let him desperately pursue the "best self", you just need to convey a tenacious belief to him and let him drink the most beautiful soup in the world with his "golden spoon".