Why did Confucius divorce?

Confucius is an unavoidable figure in history, and his influence is far greater than that of most emperors and princes. His words and deeds are recorded, but there are few records about his marriage and family life in history books. Later generations can only guess Confucius' marriage from a few words. Now there is a widely accepted view that Confucius' married life is not happy, which is also an important reason for his silence to his wife. As for his marital status, most people think that Confucius is divorced, and only some people think that Confucius is not divorced. But in either case, it is a guess, not necessarily the real situation.

Confucius' ancestor was the royal family of Shang Dynasty. Later, the Shang Dynasty perished and Zhou Wuwang was established. Wei Jianli established the Song State, the younger brother of Wei, the second monarch of the Song State and the fifteenth ancestor of Confucius. However, political chaos occurs from time to time. By the time this branch of Confucius reached Confucius, it had declined. In fact, Confucius' father is no longer in Song Dynasty. He fled to Lu and settled down.

Confucius lost his father at the age of three, and then he and his biological mother were expelled by their biological mothers. Since then, Confucius seems to have started a poor life. In fact, we see that Confucius had a rough life, and his aristocratic lineage did not bring good luck to Confucius. Confucius got married and started a family when he was nineteen. Confucius was nineteen years old and married an official in the Song Dynasty. ? This official was an official in the pre-Qin period and was in charge of women's gifts. In other words, Confucius' wife is a descendant of an official in 19800. It's hard to say what's behind this transnational marriage, but because the possibility of falling in love is very small, it's probably just a transactional marriage, because Confucius' ancestors were Song people, and the official of 19800 happened to be Song people. Perhaps it is really convenient for Confucius to return to China to worship his ancestors. In the second year of marriage, 19800, the official family gave birth to Apollo, the only son of Confucius.

With the birth of Apollo, Confucius also became an official, although his official position was very small, such as managing warehouses, animal husbandry and so on. Later, he started running schools, recruiting students to give lectures, and gradually became famous. Later, he fled to Qi for two years and returned to Lu to enter the officialdom. He once became a great shepherd, but failed to shake the influence of Sanhuan. Since then, he has been wandering for 14 years. He has been seeking opportunities in politics, never getting real courtesy, and finally returned to Shandong to study and teach.

During this period, in 485 BC, Guan died; In 483 BC, Apollo died; In 479 BC, Confucius died. One year after Guan died, another thing happened:

Book of rites? Tan Gong records that Apollo's mother died, but she was still crying. The master heard it. Who and the weeper? ? The master said:? Carp also. ? Confucius said:? Hey! What is it! ? "The fish smelled it and took it out.

Apollo's name is Kong Li, and the meaning of this passage is easy to understand. A year after Guan died, her son was still very sad. Confucius heard him cry and said that Kong Li had gone too far. It's hard to imagine what kind of feelings Confucius had for Guan, so that he thought it was too much for his son to cry after the first anniversary of his mother's death. This may indicate that Confucius did not have a good impression on Guan, and there may even be some disgust in it.

Kong Ying Da once explained this passage, one of which is:? Father was there when the fish was born. ? In other words, Confucius became a wife, which means divorce now. We all know that in ancient times, there were seven deadly sins against women in marriage, namely disobedience to parents, childlessness, lewdness, jealousy, serious illness, talkativeness and theft. If a husband commits any of these crimes, he can get married and send his wife back to her family, which means divorce.

There are too many reasons for divorce in modern times. There are all kinds of strange reasons why the husband takes the cigarette ash in his wife's orchid as the reason for divorce. All the reasons seem to outsiders to be making a mountain out of a molehill, at least not to divorce, but only the parties themselves know that these small and wonderful reasons have accumulated from countless disappointments in the past. Bottom line: I have put up with you for a long time.

The initial combination of Confucius and Guan Shi was not love, and there was no affection between them. Moreover, Confucius had nothing at that time. In fact, to some extent, Guan is not worthy of Confucius of noble descent, but worthy of Confucius who is down and out. When Confucius began to achieve something and became famous, his wife was even more incompatible with her husband. It's not that there is anything wrong with Guan, but that they don't get along.

Guan is an ordinary woman, and her man must be ordinary, but she is not willing to be a mediocre Confucius. When two people are together, they can't talk or understand each other. Officials don't understand why Confucius insisted on being an official and turned a blind eye to the difficulties of his family (Confucius made little contribution to the family). Confucius didn't understand why Guan was just an ordinary woman, and her behavior was even a bit vulgar. Confucius has many manners. He believes that a person's behavior should conform to certain norms, but an official only wants to live one day at a time, and eating and wearing warm clothes is the greatest pleasure.

Therefore, the contradiction between the two is irreconcilable, and it can also be said that the three views are incompatible and hate each other. Especially for Confucius, who couldn't make money in politics, officials complained a lot. Once a woman complains, nagging is essential. Over time, Confucius will become a wife.

Of course, this is just a guess.