You envy others' free and easy lives, but you don't know the bitterness behind them.

Wen/Xia Xiao Mushroom

I've heard many words like this:

She just has a rich father, and all those things are made by her partners, or she is married to a rich man.

Some people say:

If I have money, I can open a shop. If I have a good husband, I don't have to go to work. If I were her company, I would be bigger.

Is your inner subtext like this:

I also want to have a rich dad, I also want to marry a rich man, and I don't want to work.

I also want to open a coffee shop, and I also want to start a company to do it myself. Why do they have me?

The so-called others in your eyes:

You see the glamorous side. Xiao A is young and owns an international trading company. As a Chinese, Xiao C became the general manager of a department of the four major banks just after he was 3 years old, sitting in a tall building overlooking pedestrians; Little J married the rich second generation, and he was carefree all day, with Louboutin on Chanel's left hand.

Xiao A has a good family condition, and now he runs an international trading company. In just two years, he has been a top 3 organic dry goods in North America. Others only saw her partner's ability and helped her take care of the company's big and small things, only thinking that Xiao A was a young lady's family and casually paid for a company to play. As everyone knows, Little A started the company from scratch. There is a 16-hour time difference between the company's location and China. Xiao A has meetings with domestic companies in the middle of the night every day, and has to get up early to arrange work during the day, and sleeps less than four hours every day.

Xiao C has a high emotional intelligence. He is now the general manager of the bank. As an immigrant, he has become the youngest MD in history. Others only saw him sitting in the office every day, drinking coffee with his fingers moving, and earning thousands of dollars a year. As everyone knows, Xiao C has several jobs every day, and he dare not relax when he is busy in the company during the day. At noon, he socializes and sets himself the rule of eating with a new friend every day. He never expands his contacts repeatedly for 365 days. He runs the largest local Chinese community outside the company, and has established several large and small projects to invest in, and has never taken a day off for several years.

after marrying the rich second generation, little J acts like a lady. He often has English afternoon tea and only goes to the most expensive shopping malls. Others only saw her luck. She married the rich second generation. She spent all day and gave birth to twins. God cared for her so much. As everyone knows, little J has an MBA in Australia, and his family conditions are similar to those of the other party. He worked in Australia for two years and was able to buy big names before he got married. Little J gave up his job for his family. He had to sit and never slept on his back for a whole month before giving birth. When giving birth, the line between life and death went around, leaving a stretch mark that could never be removed after giving birth, and he could no longer love beauty and wear bikinis.

As for me, I write and draw every day and travel a lot. I am free, and my life seems rich and colorful. Others only saw my freedom. As everyone knows, I used to work hard to accumulate today's material security.

The so-called self in others' eyes:

Everyone has unknown troubles, and what you see is only what others want you to see. What we have is a fluke, and everyone has worked hard and struggled for what we have achieved today.

Xiao A's stepmother is only a few years older than her. Xiao A secretly loves a boy for 8 years and is told that he is gay. Xiao C didn't spend a day with his wife and children, and his parents were not around when they died. Xiao J and her husband's primary school are deskmates, and Xiao J has no regrets and silently accompanied him for 18 years.

As for me, I used to make money by photography, but I still go out to take photos in heavy rain. When I am sick and have a fever, I still stay up late to finish the client design. When I have no money, I often deal with various emergencies in the middle of the night as an Airbnb landlord.

You envy my free and easy life. In fact, I'm staying up late typing, and I'm exhausted at the end of the day. Get up at 7 o'clock every morning to learn French. Domestic teachers video one-on-one classes for two hours, then walk for half an hour at 9: 3 to attend the fashion design Bootcamp, and then walk home after class at 5 o'clock. They often have appointments or attend social activities or meet friends every night. No matter how late they go home, they insist on fitness or yoga for half an hour, and they must arrange entertainment activities on weekends. Since I joined the writing course yesterday, it is a new challenge for me. My sleep time is less than 6 hours a day on average.

Be someone else in your own eyes:

I envy your talent, hope to have a job like you, and yearn for you to accompany your parents.

I have worked hard for two and a half years to become someone else in my eyes, and finally passed the United Nations exam. I am waiting to go to new york to start a new life in September.

If you are like me, you want to be someone else in your own eyes, and try to act. Confusion is never an excuse, and the good birth of others will not affect anyone, let alone an excuse. God will open a window for you if he treats us fairly.

Your sadness and failure will more or less become a part of your life experience; Your efforts and persistence will be rewarded sooner or later, perhaps more.

I hope we can all be what we want to be.