We must change ourselves and surpass our complete works.

A person can mold a true self through self-affirmation. Believe in yourself completely. What kind of person you think you are, what kind of performance you will have, the two are consistent. You might as well keep telling yourself: I am the best! I am the best! When you repeatedly imagine that you are the most confident in your mind, you will find yourself truly confident, and your actions will be coordinated with your thoughts.

The important thing is to believe in yourself

It doesn't matter whether you are a genius or not, the key is to believe that you are a genius; It doesn't matter whether you are a successful person or not, the key is to believe that you will make a difference one day.

A person can be humble, poor, knowledgeable, ugly, encounter difficulties and lose the direction of life, but there is one thing you can never lack, and that is self-confidence.

We are lucky to live in this world because of the grace of nature. When nature created human beings, it endowed everyone with unique characteristics. In life, no one's genes will be exactly the same as yours, and no one's personality will be not much worse than yours. Everyone interacts with others in their own unique way, and then affects others. You have the right to live in this world, and your role in this world is irreplaceable by anyone, so you should believe in yourself.

Self-confidence is an invisible force that supports people's life and helps you overcome yourself and create miracles. It nourishes all aspects of people's lives, not only their careers, but also their love.

Recalling the love between handsome Jack and beautiful Ruth in the movie Titanic, which is popular all over the world, may give you some experiences and insights.

Jack, who had nothing, fell in love with a rich man's fiancee Ruth. In the face of wealth and status, Jack didn't feel inferior. At that dinner party, Ruth's mother looked down at Jack and asked, "How did the third class feel?"

"Great, no mice!" Jack said proudly.

"Do you find it interesting to live a rootless life like you?"

"Great, although I have nothing, I can breathe the free air, enjoy the bright sunshine, enjoy the charming scenery and listen to the music of nature. Two days ago, I spent the night at the opening of the bridge. Today, I had dinner with the richest man in the world on the luxurious Titanic. Life is so wonderful. Life is given by God, and I don't want to waste it. "

Jack's infinite confidence in life finally won Ruth's heart. Although this love was short-lived, it became eternal in the shipwreck.

However, although we all know that self-confidence plays a decisive role in a person's success, more often, it is difficult for us to stick to our own views. We always begin to doubt ourselves after others deny ourselves until we deny ourselves. For example, if you decide to do something today, someone tells you that it is too difficult to do. Maybe you will give up soon, and you don't even have the courage to try. For another example, you choose a girlfriend, but because of the opposition of your parents, you decide to give up and find another one. In this way, we are always hesitant about what we can decide.

There are 500 lunatics in a mental hospital. These 500 lunatics devote themselves wholeheartedly to what they want to do, and they all feel that they are normal and others are normal. However, one day, a normal person came to the madhouse. Five hundred lunatics said with one voice: Here comes a madman. At first, a normal person can still believe that he is a normal person, but after a long time, he becomes a little suspicious. Is he normal or not? After a period of time, normal people finally think that they are completely "normal people", and there are 50 1 lunatics in the madhouse.

If we begin to doubt ourselves in countless denials and thus stagnate, then failure is inevitable. When this failure is mistaken for evidence of our incompetence, our sense of inferiority will be aggravated, and this negative thought will bring us a steady stream of negative effects. On the contrary, if we keep telling ourselves: I can, I will. After all, one day, even a little success we have achieved will double our self-confidence. When we strive with greater self-confidence, we will certainly achieve greater success.

The power of self-confidence

Napoleon Hill, the master of success, once quoted a poem saying:

If you think you've been defeated,

Then you are defeated;

If you think you haven't been defeated,

Then you are not defeated.

If you imagine winning, but you don't think you can win,

Then, you will definitely not win;

If you think you will fail,

Then you failed.

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For our human heart, there are generally two kinds of forces, one makes us feel that we were born great; Another force constantly reminds us that "you can't do it". The struggle between such a pair of contradictory internal forces will become more intense when we encounter difficulties and failures. The biggest enemy of each of us is self-doubt and fear of failure. They often hold us back, don't let us try, or give us a blow after failure; They absorb our energy, so that we can only use a small part of our true abilities.

Many times, during our journey, we will feel that everything is over, like life has come to an end, and the music of life has disappeared from our own lives. But music is still in our hearts. No matter when, no matter where, no matter what our environment, no matter how unfortunate our experience, the music of life will never disappear. It is in our hearts, as long as we pay attention to it, we will find its beauty. Washington irving said: "People with shallow thoughts will become timid because of the misfortune of life, while people with great thoughts will only cheer up." If we want to continue on the road to success, it is very important to always believe in our own abilities.

Of course, you are not required to like facing difficulties and misfortunes, but smart people regard it as an opportunity for growth. Confident people welcome this struggle because they know it is the best way to develop their character. Their understanding of these difficulties helps to cultivate courage and generosity. If we don't practice, life seems to be in a "comfortable nest", then we will never grow up. When you encounter difficulties, it is also the time to test your success. Self-confidence is the key to overcome the test.

In fact, the power of self-confidence cannot be clearly expressed in words. When we grow up, we always believe in ourselves. When we take the first step, we believe that we will go on; Before we say the first sentence, we believe we will say it. Because we first believe that we will finish it. On the other hand, if we don't believe it at all, then we won't take action, and many opportunities just slip away from us.

The key to self-confidence is self-discipline. Self-confidence enables us to meet any challenge with intelligence and physical strength, but this can only be achieved when we can completely control ourselves. Each of us should overcome our self-doubt and give full play to our potential. We can't wait for the uncertain self to give us permission to act, we can go ahead and do it.

Get rid of the inferiority complex hanging over your heart.

Each of us has inferiority complex to some extent. Inferiority is not terrible. The terrible thing is that we are immersed in inferiority complex and lose the courage to pursue success.

A long time ago, there was a man in America who was so ugly that people in the street had to turn around and look at him. He never dresses up, and he doesn't care about clothes until he dies. Narrow black trousers, an umbrella-shaped coat, and a top hat with a high top and a narrow edge seem to deliberately set off his slender figure, with ugly walking posture and swinging hands. He was born in a small place. Although he later occupied a higher professional position, his behavior remained unchanged until his death. He still doesn't wear a coat to open the door, goes to the opera house without gloves, always tells inappropriate jokes, often suddenly feels depressed and keeps silent in public. Wherever he is-in court, pulpit, Congress, farm and even his own home-he seems to be out of place everywhere. He was born in poverty and his mother was an illegitimate child. He has been very sensitive to these shortcomings all his life. No one was born lower than him, but no one rose higher than him. He later became the president of the United States, and this man was Lincoln.

Can a man achieve Lincoln's achievement if he has so many weaknesses and doesn't overcome them? In fact, Lincoln did not make up for every shortcoming with every advantage, but relied on great wisdom and sentiment to put himself above all shortcomings and be in a higher realm. There is only one aspect, that is, to make up for their own shortcomings through education.

He overcame the early obstacles by studying hard by himself. He is very ignorant. Before he was 20 years old, he listened to missionaries and they all said that the earth was flat. His eyes sank deeper and deeper as he read in front of candlelight, light and firelight. I always feel depressed when I see my boundless knowledge and limited knowledge. He filled out a member's resume, and under the item of academic qualifications, he actually filled in: "There are shortcomings."

It can be seen that Lincoln's life is not immersed in inferiority, but a comprehensive compensation for everything he lacks. He does not seek fame and wealth, a happy marriage, and devotes himself to achieving higher goals in his heart. He is eager to dedicate all the advantages of his unique thought and noble personality to benefit mankind.

Many psychologists believe that inferiority is an emotional experience of self-humiliation caused by excessive self-denial. Mainly manifested in the low evaluation of their own factors such as their own ability, knowledge and quality; Psychological endurance is fragile and can't stand strong stimulation; Cautious, sentimental and often suspicious; Show timidity, hesitation, etc. Inferiority may occur in all ages and people. For example, if you are average in virtue and political integrity, and your life has not yet shone with brilliance, it is often easy to sigh through the world of mortals and feel helpless when the water is out of spring, so that pessimism and disappointment are regarded as the main theme of life; After hard work, I have made achievements in my work and created brilliance in my career, but I am always worried that the scenery will no longer be there, and it is easy to lament that the future is bleak and everything is empty; With the growth of age, youth is gone forever, and it is often easy to sigh the ruthlessness of the years and the helplessness of the red sun going west ... This inferiority complex is a heavy mental shackle to suppress self and a negative and unhealthy mentality. It kills people's will, softens people's beliefs, dilutes people's pursuit, makes people's spirit stiff and cringe, starts with self-doubt and self-denial, ends with self-burial and self-suppression, and makes people fall into the abyss of pessimism and sadness, which is really harmful.

Inferiority is a kind of negative self-evaluation or self-cognition, and inferiority is a negative emotion in which an individual has a low evaluation of his own ability and quality. Inferiority is not a cognitive difference, but a sensory difference. Its root is that people don't like to measure themselves by realistic standards or scales, but believe or assume that they should reach certain standards or scales. Such as "I should be like this" and "I should be like someone". Most of these pursuits are divorced from reality, which will only breed more troubles and inferiority, and make them more depressed and self-blaming. Inferiority is the enemy of success in life. Since ancient times, many people have been deeply troubled by inferiority complex, and many people have been looking for ways to overcome inferiority complex.

The strong are not born, and the strong are not without weaknesses. The strong man becomes stronger because he is good at overcoming his weaknesses. When Pele, the first generation soccer king, first arrived at the most famous Santos football team in Brazil, he was so nervous that he stayed up all night for fear that the big stars would look down on him. He is a top player on the court, but he has no reason to doubt himself and is afraid of others. Later, he tried to forget himself on the court, concentrate on playing football and keep a calm mind. Since then, he has scored more than 65,438+0,000 goals with unstoppable momentum. Bailey's process of overcoming inferiority tells us: don't doubt yourself, belittle yourself, go forward and put it into action, and you will succeed.

The question now is: If you have one or two feelings of inferiority and want to use them, can you turn the weak into the strong? Of course, this is not easy. But can't you do it? That was not the case. The life of several great men is a history of struggle, which shows how likely it is to succeed by lending compensation. Reading the biographies of Darwin, Keats, Kant, Byron, Bacon and Aristotle, we can't help but understand that their personalities and lives are all formed by personal defects. Like Alexander, Napoleon and Nelson, because they were born short, they are determined to make brilliant achievements in the military; Like Socrates and Voltaire, they are ashamed of ugliness, so they work hard in thought and shine brightly.

The only obstacle is not that we can't change ourselves, nor is it difficult to change, but that we don't change. As long as others or other things change, you will see how well we adjust ourselves.

Now is the time to start. Everyone has inferiority complex, but we can't affect our lives because of inferiority complex. We can live a better life. We shouldn't let inferiority bother us and make ourselves feel embarrassed. We should give full play to the original role of inferiority like ordinary successful and happy people. Although we are not sure at first, we will find ourselves no longer driven by it, but using it to make our life more exciting and rich.

If you have confidence in yourself, others will have confidence in you.

1900 In July, a psychiatrist named Lin Deman sailed into the stormy Atlantic Ocean in a canoe alone. He is conducting an unprecedented psychological experiment, and the price he is prepared to pay is his own life.

Dr. Lin Deman believes that as long as a person has confidence in himself, he can maintain physical and mental health. At that time, the whole country in Germany was watching this tragic adventure of crossing the Atlantic alone. 100 Many warriors have crossed the Atlantic successively, but all failed. No one is alive. Dr Lin Deman believes that these victims were not physically defeated at first, but mainly died of mental breakdown, fear and despair. In order to verify his point of view, he conducted the experiment in person, regardless of the opposition of his relatives and friends.

During the voyage, Dr. Lin Deman encountered unimaginable difficulties and was on the verge of death many times. He even had hallucinations in front of his eyes, feeling numb and sometimes really desperate. But as soon as this idea arose, he immediately blamed himself loudly: "coward, do you want to repeat the same mistakes and die here?" No, I will succeed! "The hope of life supported Lin Deman, and finally he succeeded. Looking back on his successful experience, he said, "I believe in my heart that I will succeed." "This belief is integrated with myself in difficulties, and it fills every cell of my body."

If a person is not disappointed in himself, his spirit will never collapse.

There is a girl who works in a hotel and is responsible for the registration of passengers' houses. I don't know when the girl had a problem. When she wrote in front of everyone, her hands trembled, so that she was either confused or couldn't write any more. However, the girl's handwriting is trembling to varying degrees. When she meets people with higher education than her, such as college students and graduate students, she feels inferior in her heart, and her hands are particularly shaking. On the other hand, when the education level is not as good as hers (the girl graduated from high school), she has "confidence", and it is much easier to write again at this time.

In order to overcome negative and negative attitudes, we should try our best to adopt a positive attitude. If you feel that you can't do it and leave everything around you behind, the situation will gradually become what you think. When we lack confidence, we should cheer ourselves up.

It is said that Napoleon led an army to fight, and the fighting capacity of the same army would be doubled. It turns out that the combat effectiveness of the army is largely based on the respect and trust of the soldiers to the commander-in-chief. If Napoleon just sat and said, "This is too difficult." There is no doubt that Napoleon's army will never cross that mountain. Napoleon's confidence and strength increased the combat effectiveness of every soldier under his command. Therefore, no matter what you do, unshakable self-confidence is the necessary and most important factor for success.

Once, a soldier galloped on horseback and sent a letter to Napoleon. Because the horse ran too fast, it fell violently before reaching its destination, and the horse died. After Napoleon received the letter, he immediately wrote a reply and gave it to the soldier to get on the horse and send it away as soon as possible.

When the soldier saw that the strong horse was beautifully decorated, he said to Napoleon, "A beautiful and strong horse is not worthy of an inferior soldier like me." Napoleon replied, "There is nothing in the world that French soldiers don't deserve."

There are such French soldiers everywhere in life. They think that their status is too low to have all kinds of happiness that others have. It is precisely because of this psychology that they tend to be self-satisfied and mediocre, and gradually they really don't deserve what they will never have.

Think of yourself as a successful person.

Your thoughts determine whether your thoughts are positive or negative. Command your thoughts, control your emotions and control your destiny with a positive attitude.

Seeing yourself as a successful image is helpful to break the habit of self-doubt and self-failure, which is gradually formed under a certain personality and after several years of negative mentality. Another reason is equally important. It can help you change your world.

Now let's look at Ilvain Ben Cooper, one of the most respected judges in the United States. But this image is very different from Cooper's image of inferiority when he was young.

Irfan Ben Cooper is the most respected judge in the United States. He bravely overcame his childhood inferiority complex and achieved success. Cooper grew up in a quasi-slum in St. Joseph, Missouri. His father is an immigrant, making a living as a tailor with a meager income. In order to keep warm at home, Cooper often carries a coal bucket to the nearby railway to pick up briquettes. Cooper was embarrassed. He had to do it. He often slips out of the back street to avoid being seen by the school children.

However, those children often see him. A group of children often ambush Cooper on his way home from the railway and attack him for fun. They often scattered his coal all over the street, making him cry all the time when he came home. Cooper always lived in a state of fear and inferiority at this time.

One thing has happened, and this kind of event that breaks the failed lifestyle will always happen. Cooper was inspired by a book, so he took positive actions in his life. This book is Horatio Alger's Struggle for Robert. In this book, Cooper read a story about the struggle of a teenager like him. The boy suffered great misfortune, but he finally became a brave man. Cooper also hopes to have this kind of courage and strength.

Cooper read as many books as possible that Horatio borrowed. While reading, he entered the leading role. He sat in the cold kitchen all winter reading stories of courage and success, and unconsciously formed a positive attitude.

A few months after Cooper finished reading Horatio's first book, he went to the railway to pick up briquettes. Not far away, he saw three figures flying behind a house. His first thought was to turn and run away, but he soon remembered the brave spirit of the hero in the book he admired, so he held the coal bucket tighter and strode forward as if he were a hero in Horatio's book.

A fierce battle happened, and three boys rushed to Cooper together. Cooper threw away the iron bucket and stubbornly waved his arm to resist, which surprised three bullied children. Cooper's right hand slammed a child's lips and nose, and his left hand slammed the child's stomach. The child turned and ran, which also surprised Cooper. Meanwhile, two other children punched and kicked him. Cooper managed to push one child away, knock down another, hit him with his knee, and hit him wildly in the stomach and chin. Now there is only one child left. He is the leader. He suddenly attacked Cooper on the head. Cooper managed to gain a foothold and dragged him aside. The two children stood there and stared at each other for a while. Suddenly, the leader retreated bit by bit and slipped away. Cooper picked up the coal and threw it at the deserter, which may be a sign of indignation.

Cooper knew that his nose was bleeding and his whole body was black and blue because of being punched and kicked. It's worth it! This day was an important day in Cooper's life, and he overcame his fear from then on.

Cooper is not much stronger than a year ago, and his attacker is not as strong as before. The only difference is Cooper's own mentality. He had no fear, and he decided not to be at the mercy of those bullies. From then on, he will change his world.

The child imagined an image for himself. When he beat up the three bullies in the street, he was not fighting as a frightened and malnourished Cooper, but as a brave and fearless hero.

Another successful skill that is particularly important and can change your world is to imagine yourself as an image that can inspire you to make the right decision, such as a slogan, a picture, or any symbol that means something to you. Just like Cooper did, let you compare the images of successful people. Who do you choose?

A confident person is the closest to success.

We don't need to show our confidence to others all the time, but always show our hopes and worries. Our fame and other people's comments on us will be closely related to our success. If others don't believe us, if others think that we are incompetent and timid because we often show lack of self-confidence and negative weakness, then we will not be able to gain the trust and support of others and succeed.

If we form the habit of firm self-confidence, people will think that we will succeed more easily than those who lack self-confidence or give people the impression of weakness, inferiority and timidity.

Almost everyone knows Hilton, a high-end hotel with chain stores all over the world. But did you know that its founder, Hilton, the king of hotels in the world, started his business with only $200? Then you may ask what makes him so successful, and all the answers are only two words "confidence".

When Hilton started her business, she turned her attention to the hotel industry. But he has little start-up capital, but his strong self-confidence makes him feel that he will succeed. So he lobbied around with his confident words and deeds, hoping that bankers and venture capitalists could inject funds into his project. Finally, under the influence of Hilton's strong self-confidence and the feasibility of his project itself, many financiers made investments.

With funds as the foundation, the project will start soon. But in the middle of the hotel construction, an investor became suspicious of Hilton because he listened to the rumor and clamored for withdrawal. Anyone with a little financial knowledge knows that if someone suddenly withdraws his capital at this time, it is likely to cause an avalanche-like chain reaction. When the situation is bad, all investors may make such a request. Because a large amount of money had been invested at that time, Hilton was unable to repay in full, and insolvency was likely to be prosecuted.

In the face of this sudden change, the confident Hilton is as calm as ever. He prepared a lot of cash and checks in advance, then invited investors who were clamoring for withdrawal, and then asked him frankly: Do you want cash or checks? When people saw Hilton's drawers full of cash and checks, they were still unmoved. Hilton said to him: "When you leave, if you still insist on withdrawing your investment, you can choose a cash check." Undoubtedly, Hilton's confident words played a certain role. The man doesn't talk about returning to the investment for the time being, watching him stabilize the other party's mood. Then, Hilton pursued the victory, but did not directly refute his decision to let him withdraw. Instead, he rationally analyzed for him: "Look, the project has started now. If it is carried out as planned, you will definitely get the due return on investment. However, if you announce your withdrawal from your investment at this time, you will not only get any income, but also have to pay compensation for breach of contract, which will even exceed the loss. " That person was finally infected by Hilton's self-confidence and optimism, and decided to continue to invest. The hotel construction went smoothly, and Hilton's career began to flourish.

Self-confidence can infect people around you and bring more achievements and wealth. If you are a leader or initiator, your self-confidence will directly affect the confidence of subordinates and followers, especially at critical moments, you should show your self-confidence and calmness. If you have lost confidence yourself, others will be more flustered and at a loss.

In other words, self-confidence is almost as important as Thaksin. To make others believe in us, we must first show our strong self-confidence and winning spirit.

People who pretend to be confident, who live with the winner's mentality, who walk proudly in the world with the conqueror's mentality, will have a completely different life path than those who live with the unconfident, servile and submissive conquered mentality.

People all over the world will like people who are extremely confident and have a winning attitude, and always like people who give people confidence in winning and always look forward to success.

It is the magical power of self-affirmation that convinces people and gives them a vibrant image. If your mentality can't provide you with spiritual motivation, then you can't leave a reputation as a confident and positive person in the world. Some people always wonder why they are so humble, so insignificant and so insignificant in society. The reason is that they can't think and act like confident people and conquerors. They have no self-confidence, winner or conqueror mentality. They always give the impression of weakness. You know, people with positive thoughts are attractive, people with negative thoughts are disgusting, and winners always have psychological advantages.

There are still some people who often leave such an impression on us, although they are not quite sure that they will succeed. However, with their extraordinary self-confidence and positive attitude, they can exert extraordinary strength and win by surprise.

Cai Zhenhua, a table tennis player in China, rarely loses in foreign competitions and is known as the "table tennis magician". It is said that his technology is not the best, and there are many foreign opponents who are stronger than him. So where did he win? According to people who have seen him play, he always shakes his fist to cheer himself up during the game. Whenever he serves, he stomps his feet hard. When he hits a good ball, he will run around the court several times. In the match with Sweden's famous Linde, his score has fallen behind Linde 15 20, but when Linde served, Cai Zhenhua pointed his finger at Linde's head and glared at him. His actions made Linde suddenly nervous, and as a result, Linde lost to Cai Zhenhua 20-22 because of nervousness.

As a result, he won confidently. There is no doubt that his tenacious self-confidence played a vital role in winning the game in the end.

If we have an unparalleled self-confidence, if we show people an image of self-confidence, courage and fearlessness, then our cause will surely achieve great success.

Affirm ourselves. If we begin to doubt ourselves in countless denials and thus stagnate, then failure is inevitable. When this failure is mistaken for evidence of our incompetence, our sense of inferiority will be aggravated, and this negative thought will bring us a steady stream of negative effects. On the contrary, if we keep telling ourselves: I can, I will. After all, one day, even a little success we have achieved will double our self-confidence. When we strive with greater self-confidence, we will certainly achieve greater success.