Speaking of immigration pressure

Some people say overseas Chinese are under great pressure. Indeed, immigrant life will bring people anxiety and depression, and long-term depression will make the mood in a state of "detonation", and if you are not careful, you will show "expression and language violence."

The pressure of age, memory, housing, income, children, family and health has evolved into a lasting emotional pressure that oppresses sensitive nerves. Internal and external pressures come on, and the life of immigrants in different places is particularly helpless and tired.

The most common thing is that a man is often very reasonable and polite in the workplace. But as soon as he got home, he showed his true colors, and even vented his grievances outside on his family.

It is reported that a lady was still cleaning the room when her husband came back from work. Her clothes are dirty and old, her hair is unkempt and her face is covered with dust. Her husband said, "I came home after a tiring day and saw you like this ghost?" A neighbor, Mrs. Wang, happened to be there. Hearing this gentleman's words, she hurried home, carefully washed and waited for her husband to come home. However, when her husband got home, it was very late. He opened the door and saw his wife's enchanting dress. He immediately swore: "Dressed like a slut, what do you want?"

I remember that another reader once confided to the media on the phone that her husband was definitely a good gentleman outside, but as soon as he entered the house, the situation suddenly changed, and his six parents denied him. Not only is she afraid, but even the children are afraid to eat with him. Even every time a child sees his father parking downstairs, he will tell his mother loudly: "Mom, the boss is back!" " "Why do children call dad' boss'? It turns out that this man always goes home with a straight face, so the whole family secretly calls him "dead boss"

Really, living in today's world, the accelerated pace of life, the increasingly cruel competition and endless desires make people bear more and more pressure, and everyone lives under the stimulation of various pressures almost every day.

A friend once told the author, I don't know why, I have been better with my father since I was a child, and I always talk to my father when I encounter difficulties. Although we talked about it at first, because of different concepts and ideas, it often turned into an aggressive quarrel, and even broke things and ran away from home.

To tell the truth, there are more and more opportunities for people's emotional frustration. Due to various conflicts of interest, interpersonal relationships are becoming more and more complicated, and emotional communication between people is becoming less and less. Even if you encounter difficulties and setbacks, you can't find a place to vent. According to the survey, 85% of China people think they are insecure, worried about unemployment, unstable income, lack of spiritual belonging and possible failure in the future. Especially in the face of strange cultural shocks, many people often sigh helplessly: the living environment has changed, but life is sad.

Is it because people's psychological pressure is too great or their psychological endurance is limited?

The author also pondered for a long time, until recently, I found that in the traditional China people's mind, the strange world outside is always a reasonable but somewhat indifferent world, and the family is the place to talk about feelings. In addition, the family has become the last refuge of emotion. Therefore, when people are depressed, they usually get angry with the people closest to them. On the one hand, it may be because only family members want to take off their masks most, on the other hand, it may be that only family members can tolerate you most. In fact, it is unfair to family and relatives.

It is human nature to make mistakes. Living in this era, who has no pressure?

When people are in a bad mood, they deliberately find someone to vent, or control their unintentional venting, sometimes it is an emotional problem. In fact, no matter who you vent your dissatisfaction on, you are dumping a pile of garbage on others.

Immigration is under pressure, which is understandable. If you know that everyone is under pressure, you should not blindly emphasize your own pressure, but try to be considerate of others. When we have to break out, we should also choose a more private occasion and take it out on whoever we don't see. Moreover, if it is serious, we may be suspected of disturbing public order. Instead of solving the pressure, we may have more troubles.

In fact, I have heard many people say that proper stress is not a bad thing. If properly adjusted, it will be transformed into motivation, which will not only reduce the occurrence of diseases and make us live more comfortably and meaningfully, but also drive us to challenge our own abilities and stimulate our personal potential. The problem is, don't think that you are the closest person, you can overdraw the tolerance of others.

Really, the joys and sorrows of the Chinese world are closely related not only to natural attributes such as food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also to social attributes such as money, power, fame and fortune. People who can really enjoy spiritual life beyond the world are always rare. Sometimes, the mystery of happiness disappearing with wealth is that life becomes busy because you want to become rich, and you have no time to enjoy simple happiness, and these plain lives are often the source of self-enjoyment for the poor.

In China, where people make a living, external pressures such as human feelings, face and interests are indispensable in daily life. Emotion makes our immigrant life in a state of constant surprise; Stress makes our wandering life throb with expectation; Yes, people abroad, such as being in rivers and lakes, are mixed with loneliness, danger and hesitation. If you want to avoid injury, you must concentrate on practicing for several years.

People in this life, living in the colorful world of mortals, will face a lot of distress, contradictions, confusion, a sense of crisis, but everyone's helplessness in the process of growing up is something you can never change.

Zen, Buddha's heart, let go, that is, freedom.

According to philosophers, lasting happiness often comes from a common heart of gratitude and tolerance. ...