Family arrangement course

A. Family System Arrangement Workshop

Well, family arrangement guides you to find the root of the problem, deal with it well, and face it with a good attitude.

B. Who is the best family system arrangement tutor in China?

I have spent a lot of time on the family system arrangement course. In summary, it is difficult to say which teacher is Best, but each has its own style. I myself have taken classes from teachers Zhou Dingwen, Lei Ming and Tiger Li. I have also attended many courses taught by other teachers, but found that they are mainly divided into two factions. The above three teachers explained the laws of human relations in the form of a family system, and then taught students to continuously improve themselves by gaining insight into these laws. Ultimately, students will be able to face all problems in life through growth. Other teachers' methods are mainly "treatment", which is to "remove" students' problems using the technique of family system arrangement. My personal feeling is that even if the problem is removed, the person's ideology may not change. If the ideology does not change, problems will continue to arise. So I agree with systematic arrangement as a means of education. And not just treatment. I am deeply impressed by Teacher Tiger Li's courses because he is the only teacher in China who combines traditional Chinese culture with family system arrangement. Therefore, his workshop is very suitable for Chinese people. If you have the opportunity, you can learn more about it.

C. Who is the best family system arrangement instructor in China?

Making family system arrangement courses is really a hard work, and the courses taught by teachers Zhou Dingwen, Lei Ming and Tiger Li each have their own merits. It mainly explains the rules of human relations to continuously improve students' self-awareness. Finally, an effect can be achieved that allows one to face life's problems. In addition, the role of other teachers is mainly to eliminate students' problems. I think that even if the students' problems are removed, it is still difficult to change their dominant ideology. Among these teachers, I have a deep impression on Teacher Tiger Li. Because he is currently the only teacher in China who combines traditional Chinese culture with family system arrangement. So his workshop is very suitable for Chinese people. Worth learning

D. Introduction to family arrangement psychotherapy

Family arrangement psychotherapy is also called family system arrangement therapy. It is an emerging discipline of modern psychology. 1

E. Is family system arrangement a scam? One lesson cost more than 2,000 yuan

Family arrangement can be said to be a psychological technique. Family arrangement does not solve the so-called problem of the entire family or ancestors. It just creates an atmosphere that allows participants to try different perspectives to look at the existing facts. In the final analysis, it is a kind of cognitive therapy using hypnosis techniques.

The theory based on it has a certain scientific basis. Of course, some training institutions will exaggerate the effectiveness and create a mysterious atmosphere. This requires objective and dialectical analysis and cannot be fully trusted. As a participant, you need to understand its efficacy factors and working principles. In addition, the effects achieved by participants will vary from person to person. The key may lie in whether you can face difficulties with a more positive and optimistic attitude towards life and choose more possibility.

When your own attitude towards life changes, it will naturally have a positive impact on the people around you and form a virtuous cycle for the support system. These are also relatively scientific.

F. Is the Hellinger family system arrangement a lie?

As a die-hard fan of Ebi, let me explain:

Hellinger, among the masters The master was born in Germany, a nation rich in psychologists. He is rigorous and serious but can face it easily. Shanghai Linge’s home arrangement workshop is a kind of enjoyment. When you see such a kind and wise old man, we He will think of his old "friend" Lao Tzu. Teacher Hellinger often mentioned Lao Tzu's Tao, and we walk with the Tao.

The "field" (filed) in the family arrangement scene is the most amazing and incomprehensible part. Why does the representative not know what is happening in their family, and they have never known the client's family? members of the family can understand and express the feelings of the client’s family members and the relationships between them through physical sensations. This is in conflict with our traditional scientific education. Our belief in getting rid of superstition is deeply rooted in our minds. But what kind of science is real science and what is not science? What is visible and tangible is science? Teacher Hellinger probably said this about this phenomenon. I don’t know why this happens, but I know it can serve our needs. That’s enough. I observe it and use it.

In this regard, quantum mechanics provides us with a basis for explanation. It is said that no matter how long the distance between two interrelated particles is, a change in one particle will definitely cause a change in the other particle. , no matter how long the distance is. One person's thoughts can have an impact on another person's thoughts, no matter how long the distance.

"Internal Evidence Observation Notes" mentioned that distant stars provide specific energy support to the human body every moment every day. The interaction between celestial bodies and humans is closer than our imagination. Life is The spirit of all things receives the aura of heaven and earth and is supported by heaven and earth.

People in ancient times did not have telescopes. How did they rely on observing celestial bodies? They even knew the stars in the Milky Way. What did they rely on? How did they rely on opening their eyes to the sky! Hua Tuo didn't have a microscope, so how could he find tumors in his head? What did he rely on? He relied on the inner eye to open his eyes and be able to see through. From Fu Xi, to King Wen of Zhou, to Laozi, Confucius, Hua Tuo, Zhang Zhongjing, etc., they all Only through internal evidence can you achieve the highest achievements in your own field. Western medicine treats visible things, while Chinese medicine treats "nothing". Things that are usually invisible to the naked eye require internal medicine to open the inner eye to see the hidden parts.

Internal evidence must first be virtuous,

1. Read the classics, "Tao Te Ching" and "Heart Sutra"

2. Apply in daily life, be aware

3. Cultivation, practice

If you are interested, you can read the "Notes on Internal Evidence Observation" written by Anonymous

What we are talking about, in the modern West When medicine was popular in China, it was always questioned, but have we discovered that the more advanced science and technology are, the relative weakening of human functions, as if there is a law of conservation of energy, one waxes and wanes.

In our countryside, there is a saying of "asking the God of Death". When we often dream about our deceased relatives, we can find "the same plane" commonly known as "Goddess". They are a group of psychic people. The negative energy in the body is particularly strong, and it can easily be possessed by the deceased and communicate with us on behalf of the deceased. This is a custom that has been spread in the Chaoshan area. This is similar to our family system arrangement. In a specific environment, across time and space, people and things from different times and spaces are arranged into one field to present. This is the family system arrangement. (It is also called family constellation therapy in Taiwan. , family constellation, the human family is like the stars in the sky, each in its place, following a certain order, each one is indispensable, and human beings themselves are also a huge system, and the operation of various organs is also like a family, like stars, coordinating with each other)

In fact, all over the world, every ethnic group has its own method to create a bridge of communication between the dead and the living, so that certain emotions can be released. Around 1840, spiritualism caused a sensation in the world. The British sisters claimed that they could communicate with their ancestors. It was a similar situation. Here is an astrological allusion: Speaking of Neptune's return to Pisces, every 170 years, Neptune, which symbolizes the human subconscious, will return to its guardian constellation Pisces and stay here for 14 years. During this period, human beings In the 14 years when consciousness was highly developed, the last time Neptune returned and brought us a gift was the "Communist Declaration", which affected spiritualism. The Taiping Rebellion led by China's Hong Xiuquan was very religious and brought us gifts. , naturally also brings some not-so-good things, such as the widespread use of opium, and the phenomenon of addiction and loss is also very serious. The boundless unconsciousness brought by Neptune will cause a certain degree of addiction and indulgence! This requires us to grasp it well

Modern science has brought a lot of convenience to people, such as the Internet, transportation, daily life, etc., and the destruction of nature has also increased dramatically with the rapid development of science and technology, so It’s time to stop and ask, is what we call science really science? The ancient Chinese ancestors were very wise. We have discovered coal since the Neolithic Age, but we know what is in the ground and cannot over-excavate it. Our moderate thoughts will maintain a balance. When gunpowder was invented in the Ming Dynasty, we would use it to set off firecrackers. When the West became developed, they used it to make weapons. Now it is even more outrageous. With the development of science and technology, physics research has reached a very high level, but nuclear weapons have been invented. , used for mass destruction, whether our civilization is progressing or regressing, a civilization of love or a civilization of fear. Whether to use burning, killing and looting to change the regime, or whether it can be solved in a civilized way. No matter what, this is human beings. They need to compete like the animal world to survive, and at the same time, they must also allow the other party to have a place. Human beings are spiritual Animals have both animality and spirituality, and are a mixture of spirit and flesh.

Someone asked Krishnamurti (the wise man from India), I want world peace, what should I do? Kirsch replied: Stop being the cause of war. This is shocking. There is a war in each of our hearts. The wars and natural disasters in this world are related to our hearts. The inner state of billions of people has a great impact on the entire world and even the universe. Our inner harmony Only when there is less greed, anger and ignorance can the world become more "harmonious". In fact, this universe has always been harmonious, and what is disharmonious is our hearts.

It’s a bit far, haha

G. The difference between organizational system arrangement and family system arrangement

As the name suggests, organizational system arrangement refers to serving units and groups Yes, family system arrangement serves to improve family relationships, that’s how it should be! hehe!

H. Can the family arrangement be continued after it has been arranged once?

Generations are determined when ancestors compile family trees, or when branches are continued from the family tree, and are used over and over again. Therefore, as a descendant, you only need to check according to the genealogy and use the seniority. If there are family branches that are separated, they will be ranked according to the rules, but most of them will go back to their place of origin to recognize their ancestors, make up for the lineage, continue the genealogy, and merge into the family.

Therefore, if you don't understand the family's generational order, you can't make it up on your own. You have to meet the patriarch and ask for a genealogy review. The meaning of seniority is to reflect the relationship between individuals and families. The hierarchy that I made up behind closed doors was not recognized by my family or society, just like a dog, so it was useless to make it up myself. In addition, only those with the same surname and the same clan can be ranked by seniority. 1. The generation arrangement rules of the same clan are consistent; 2. As long as they are from the same clan, most of them have genealogies available, so they can be verified. People with the same surname but different sects may not necessarily have the same rank order, and may even be very different after hundreds or thousands of years. Therefore, seniority is not arranged casually. For example, my family has moved from our hometown to the provincial capital. Before leaving, we recorded the genealogy starting from my great-great-grandfather. Of course, there are many families whose genealogies have been recorded for hundreds of years, and we don’t have the energy to record them all (required to use a calligraphy pen to record them all). Copying, photographing, and scanning of word-for-word transcription is not allowed), and the clan members who manage the genealogy do not allow it either. In the future, the descendants of my family will have an understanding of their origins and life experience.

I. Benefits of Family System Arrangement Workshop

Family System Arrangement Workshop

This is an effective tool to smoothen relationships and a skill that supports the growth of life. , the knowledge towards happiness and harmony. The systematic arrangement is based on the "five ethical relationships" emphasized by Confucianism, the traditional wisdom of the East, that is, "father and son are related, husband and wife are distinguished, elders and young are orderly, monarch and ministers are righteous, and friends are trustworthy". The ethical thought is combined with the integration of modern Western psychology. A science that comes out. It also applies to the specific practice of family, interpersonal and social relationships. ? A workshop that can rewrite the "life script"!

A workshop that allows you to follow your own path!

A workshop that allows you to live your life again!

We often watch movies and TV shows, and often lament the fate of the protagonists in these works, especially the tragic characters! It’s just that when we walk out of the theater, reason will tell us that the fate of the protagonist is arranged by the screenwriter and director.

If life is also a show, who is our screenwriter? Who is the director?

According to the results of many years of research by psychologists: before about the age of 12, the "script" of a person's life is all written, and the subsequent love, hatred, joys and sorrows are just "scripts" of these "scripts" Just perform on stage.” It’s just that the script writers during this period are more often our parents (or important others in our lives).

Warren Bart said something: If someone says money can’t buy happiness, then he just doesn’t know where to buy it. So, if you say there is no regret medicine, you just don’t know where to look for it yet.

In a sense: the family system arrangement workshop is a unique "regret medicine"!

Family system can solve the following problems for you:

1. Gender relations

The big differences between men and women, mothers and sons, fathers and daughters, the influence of ex-partners, the influence of both families on marriage and emotions

Topics: affair, divorce, miscarriage, incompatibility Pregnancy, poor communication, revenge and reconciliation, etc.

2. Parental relationship and parent-child relationship

Life: the most precious gift

Children: the mirror of the family, the order and dislocation of love, systematic priority, loyalty and blind following

Topics: Facing parental conflicts and divorce, interruption of childhood connections with parents, children’s symptoms and bad behaviors, placement for adoption, addictive behaviors, etc.

3. Family, sibling relationships

Family: one body of destiny, cross-generational transmission, repeated family patterns, family black hole: excluded and forgotten family members, transcending victimization and victimization, respect and respect for family secrets Reconciliation, respect and inheritance of family strength, and creation of a better future

Themes: family trauma, death, accidents, immigration, past events, money disputes, etc.

4. The relationship between career and money

My relationship with money, the relationship between love and money, common obstacles towards money, money and guilt, excessive addiction to money

5. Various addictions

Various addictions to cigarettes, alcohol, addiction to sex, food, shopping...

6. Common emotional distress

Feelings of powerlessness, inexplicable emotions, fear, anger, sadness, insecurity, anxiety, low self-worth, sense of meaninglessness in life...

7. Special issues

Adoption , abortion, special fertility, infertility, premature death, remarriage, divorce, breakup, affair, homosexuality, domestic violence, family discord, single-parent families, children's psychological disorders, learning disabilities, adolescent love, suicide, death and mourning, Hospice care, major decisions, career planning...

If your life is not as you wish, you will continue to endure it, eking out an ignoble existence, and "pass on" this survival model from generation to generation (your children will definitely inherit it faithfully) What about the life patterns of our parents)? Or face it directly, take action immediately, turn around and embrace the sunny comedy of life!

?This is a problem! But for smart friends, this is not a problem!

?You and I deserve a good life!

Come into the workshop class together and embrace a sunny life together!

Canada International--Family System Arrangement Workshop Training Time: March 21-24, May 16-19, July 17-20, September 11-14, 2013 Location: Beijing Lecturer: Instructor Zhou Dingwen

--Training time: March 01-03, April 01-03, April 25-27, April 01-03, June 13-15, 2013 July 12-14, August 20-22, September 22-24, October 26-28, November 11-13, December 21-23

Location: Beijing Speaker: Lei Teacher Jian

J. Where did the emphasis on seniority come from when sorting family generations and naming them?

Seniority is a Chinese word, the pinyin is bèi fen, which means in The position occupied by the family, relatives and friends. It also refers to the lineage order among families, relatives and friends. It is mainly divided into elders (great-grandparents, great-grandfathers, grandparents, parents, etc.), ordinary generations and younger generations. Also known as "generation".

The arrangement of seniority is often reflected in people’s names. Using seniority characters is not only convenient for ranking and identifying seniority among the same clan, but also for compiling genealogy. Generally speaking, those who use characters to determine seniority will put these characters after the surname, such as Zhang Xueliang, Zhang Xuesi, and Zhang Xueming. From the royal family to the common people, there are seniorities. However, ordinary people are not particularly particular about seniority. For example, in the novel "White Deer Plain", Bai Jiaxuan's sons Bai Xiaowen and Bai Xiaowu brothers, the word "filial piety" is derived from words such as loyalty and filial piety, and there is no particularly strict history of the use of seniority. For another example, in the names of our parents, the word for seniority is generally used with the word that has a better meaning. Under this clan concept, the general hierarchy is mainly reflected among men. Women are not included in the genealogy, so they are not adopted. Nowadays, it seems that sisters in many families use generational characters, but usually they just choose the same character and use it to express the sister relationship, without any meaning of generational order. The characters of "Xingsei" are arranged in a certain order within the clan, and are not something that parents or I can choose arbitrarily. The Xingsei style of genealogy is used to strengthen the patriarchal system, so its wording fully reflects this purpose. There are three main categories. One category is words for virtue or auspiciousness, such as: virtue, benevolence, Ming, filial piety, blessing, Lu, auspicious, auspicious, virtuous, etc.; the second category is words that hope for the continuation and prosperity of the clan, such as: Yong, Chuan, Chang, Sheng, Xing, Yan, Succession, Success, etc.; the third category is to commemorate ancestors and praise the kindness of the emperor. The words, such as: Ze, Zu, Xian, Rong, En, Xi, Qi, Xian, etc. The Xingdaizipai of the family tree is a particularly important content in the family tree. It is usually formulated by a certain celebrity in the family and compiled into a few auspicious words. Some literati even wrote it into poetry, such as the "Tang Family Genealogy" in Zhejiang The Xingsei style of writing is "Fu Lu Yong Chang Long, harmony and good fortune, and wisdom and wisdom." The Xing generation style of Hubei's "Wang Family Genealogy" is "upright and bright, success comes first, prosperity is extended, and the family is harmonious" There is You.