When you reach middle age, it’s actually not that bad.

Author of this article | Wuyou

After Thanksgiving every year, the birthday season of our "Sagittarius Family" comes one after another.

No matter how reluctant I am, no matter what standard I use, I have truly entered the ranks of "middle-aged people". (The United Nations World Health Organization has made new regulations on the age classification standards: young people under 44 years old; middle-aged people between 45 and 59 years old; young elderly people between 60 and 74 years old; old people between 75 and 89 years old. People who are over 90 years old are long-lived people.)

When I was eighteen years old, I still vividly remember the words I wrote with a pen on the title page of my diary: The greatest opportunities in life are always overflowing with joy. Optimism and joy in your life. Even though I am wandering around, I still want to sing while walking!

Having experienced the stumbling blocks of fate, walking through the ups and downs of life, leaving home and traveling across the ocean, I often inadvertently think of this passage in my mind.

Having experienced the uncertainty of life, I have always believed that no matter what falls from the sky, life is always beautiful. As I enter middle age, I should be knowledgeable about world affairs and sophisticated in human feelings. Perhaps it is because of this belief that I still retain an optimistic and frank "girlish heart".

When we were children, we always thought that happiness was a thing, and if we had it, we would be happy. Therefore, during the New Year, festivals and birthdays, we will be happy because we receive the long-awaited gift; we will be happy because we put on beautiful new clothes; we will dance because we eat the sweet cake...

When we grow up, we think that happiness is one goal after another, and we will be happy when we achieve it. So, you are ecstatic when you are admitted to your ideal university; you are overjoyed when you catch up with the girl you like; you are full of ambition when you find a high-paying job...

After reaching middle age , suddenly understood that plainness is the truth. Happiness is actually just a state of mind. If you have it and feel it, you will be happy.

I am happy to have a pair of healthy parents;

I am happy to have a careful and considerate lover;

I am happy to have a beautiful, self-disciplined and independent daughter. Happiness;

I can eat, sleep and not gain weight, I am happy...

(I accidentally attracted hatred, especially the last sentence [picking my nose])

Day after day, year after year, we are all growing, maturing, and getting older without knowing it.

I met a new immigrant couple in Los Angeles who I liked very much. That year I went back to China to visit relatives, and my husband happened to be in the city where I was going. So he made an appointment with me on WeChat, and he would receive me as a landlord.

After making an appointment with the man, I sent a message to his wife in the United States to inform him. Although we are all friends, I should still say it myself to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings.

Although I was not as beautiful as a flower when I was young, I was still more or less attracted to the opposite sex, so I was used to maintaining a sense of propriety and thoughtfulness in my interactions with married men.

However, I forgot that I am no longer that young woman in her prime.

After meeting me in a certain city in China that day, the man smiled and said to me generously and politely: You even went out of your way to say hello to my wife! You're so thoughtful, and it actually doesn't matter.

My first reaction from his expression and tone when he said this was: We have a very good relationship as a couple and my wife will not be jealous. The second reaction is: You are a highly respected (Milf) person, so we won’t be too worried about it.

At that moment, I suddenly had an idea that I had never had before: getting older is actually a good thing. At least it saves a lot of trouble in interpersonal interactions, especially in interactions with the opposite sex.

As I get older, although I am no longer a charming young woman, I can be an understanding and caring elder sister, a gentle and considerate best friend, and a kind and tolerant aunt. .....

I accept different roles in different stages of life and enjoy them.

That year, when my daughter celebrated her eighteenth birthday, I said to her sincerely in the tone of someone who has experienced it: "You are already eighteen years old. Soon you will be nineteen or twenty years old. Life is very difficult." It’s short, cherish it!”

My daughter, who had just started her independent life after going to college, laughed disapprovingly when she heard this: Mom, you are like a philosopher! I'm just eighteen years old, and you're saying such things to me! ?

Last week, my daughter celebrated her twenty-first birthday. I told her again: Do you still remember that when you were eighteen, I said you would soon be nineteen or twenty? Look, you are twenty-one years old this year! How quickly time flies!

The daughter still disagreed: Mom, of course you are right. But this is my life, and I need to experience it bit by bit. You should not use your experiences and ideas to condescendingly influence me.

You are not me, and I am not you. I need to taste the taste of growth by myself.

My daughter is right!

Just like me, in my forties, I have listened to a lot of "old people's words", but I am still confused, still learning, still growing, and still enlightening:

About the human nature I am still an afterthought to the ugliness and dirtiness;

I still yearn for the beauty and miracles in life;

I am always grateful for the gentleness and kindness shown by others inadvertently. I still have tears in my eyes...

When I was a child, my grandma always told me: Don't laugh at the white-headed weed, as a good flower can bloom for a few days.

When I was young, I felt that I had a lot of youth, and I didn’t really understand the meaning of these words.

When I was young, I was willful and decisive. I would ignore it when I was angry. But now I rarely get angry. Occasionally I don’t need anyone to coax me to digest it when I’m unhappy.

When I was young, I was sharp and full of joy, anger, sorrow and joy. Now I still can't hide my inner emotions, but I no longer show my sharpness. I learned to respect others and accept differences.

When I was young, I called friends and never knew what loneliness was. And now I no longer force myself to waste time trying to accommodate those I don't like. If they get along, they will have a deep friendship; if they don't, they will stay apart. Enjoy your own time alone: ??reading, studying, drawing, writing, watching TV shows, doing crafts... it's a lot of fun.

Only in middle age do people understand that true wealth lies in a healthy body, a simple life and a bright mind.

When I reach middle age, I gradually taste another feeling called loss.

Last year, I lost my father-in-law - that kind, hard-working and lovely old man, my husband's favorite father!

Not long ago this year, I lost one of my high school classmates. When I was studying, the boy who was strong, talented, and always liked to joke, didn't have time to celebrate his forty-fifth birthday, but his heart stopped working!

He will stay in my WeChat circle of friends forever and we will never see him again!

I remember an English sentence I once saw: Don't regret growing older. It's privilege denied to many. - Probably means: Don't regret growing older, many people die before they get old. .

So, cherish every candle added to the birthday cake!

Life is unpredictable, we never know which one will come first, tomorrow or the accident. So, before it's too late, go meet the people you want to see, do what you want to do, and live the life you want without any regrets.

As I reach middle age, I gradually understand another kind of happiness, which is called cherishment.

Due to the epidemic this year, my daughter moved back home in March. It has been nine months now.

Although she has to rack her brains every day to cook her favorite vegetarian meals. I'm tired and I'm happy. I cherish this rare opportunity to spend time with my daughter day and night.

I also want her to remember that home will always be her warmest harbor and her mother will always be her most trustworthy person. I hope she can pass on this warmth and trust in the future.

I cherish every opportunity to accompany my parents - they are thousands of miles apart, and the time I can spend with them in my lifetime is very limited.

I cherish every opportunity to have a heart-to-heart talk with my best friend - in this complex and impetuous world, there are people who are willing to speak their minds and lend me a pair of listening ears. We are unguarded and very precious!

As I reach middle age, I have gradually learned another kind of wisdom, which is called letting go.

Like Mrs. Xianglin, she used to talk endlessly about her experiences to everyone. Those unexpected betrayals, disappointments and grievances have been with me for many years, and I still hold them in my heart and cannot let them go.

Once I was talking to my husband about the hurt I had suffered. I didn’t understand why people are so bad. He said to me gently: "When people are hurting others, it usually means they are in pain." (When people are hurting others, it usually means they are in pain.)

That I was suddenly relieved for a moment.

The woman who lost her husband when she was young had to raise three sons on her own; the boy who lost his father when he was young grew up subtly in his mother's hysteria... < /p>

Their world is deformed, they are unfortunate, it is not that they do not want to be kind, they may just be in pain and use this extreme way to release the pain in their hearts.

At that moment, I chose to forgive and let go—let go of the past, let go of the grievances in my heart, and let go of those who had hurt me.

Mark Twain has a famous saying about age. He said: "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter."——Age is a spirit More questions than facts. If you don't mind, then it doesn't matter.

Others say "Growing old is mandatory, but growing up is optional." - Growing old is mandatory, but growing up is optional.

Age manifests itself differently in everyone, and everyone’s attitude towards age also varies widely.

On the stage of the Golden Rooster Awards Forum recently, the 50-year-old "Berlin Best Actress" Yongmei told everyone: Can you please not trim my wrinkles? They have grown out with great difficulty.

She said: "Now, not only am I not nervous about wrinkles, but I am a little proud. Age is not my enemy, my story is written on my face. And this face is the most sensitive to time." A true tribute. ”

The nobility, elegance and calmness revealed in Yongmei’s bones are also given to her by the years.

When we reach middle age, although our appearance is no longer young, please keep our hearts young forever! Please let us always be full of love for life! Please keep love in our hearts forever! Please let us do what we like!

1206——Happy birthday to me!

Beautiful scenery pictures come from the Internet