Why do we dislike making friends more and more?

1, everyone has their own way to go, and it is normal not to walk together. Miyazaki Hayao said that life is a train to the grave. There will be many stops on the road. Some people will come and some people will leave. Even if you don't give up, learn to wave goodbye. Indeed, many friends in life can only accompany us for a short time, and then leave. It is difficult for a person to accompany us from beginning to end, so everything we have is lucky. 2、

Separation is a normal life, and different life experiences will produce different views and pursuits. Over time, the distance is out of reach. In the first half of my life, Tang Jing and Zijun were two completely different life trajectories. Tang Jing worked hard in the working environment in the first half of her life, and met her lover in the second half, so she returned to her family and became a full-time wife. Zijun's love is the most important thing in his first half of life. I met a man who was willing to raise her and got married naively. It was not until he was betrayed by the other party in his thirties that he completely woke up. As a result, he returned to the workplace and completed the transition from a full-time wife to a female workplace. 3、

Different life experiences will produce different life trajectories. When the gap is getting bigger and bigger and there is less and less common language, this relationship is basically over. So finally Tang Jing and his lover immigrated to Australia, and Zijun felt that Tang Jing had completely disappeared. The better the relationship, the greater the hope and much more fragile than usual. The better the relationship, the easier it is to separate, because the initial hope is too great, but the greater the hope, the easier it is to disappoint it, so compared with ordinary friends, the damage is doubled. If they are just ordinary friends and encounter some differences and contradictions, they may choose tolerance out of common interests and overall situation.

If you are good friends, you may care too much about each other and can't tolerate each other, leading to an irreparable situation. It's not that I feel fragile, but that I care too much and have too much hope, which will lead to a greater psychological gap. Once you see each other's real faces and people, you can't hide your ears and continue to get along. The better the relationship between the two people, the less the sand in their eyes will be rubbed out, but if it deteriorates a little, it will eventually end. When we were young, we felt that friends were too important, and it seemed that we couldn't live without them.

But when you live to a certain age, you will find that what you get is luck and what you lose is normality. In the final analysis, life depends on yourself, and no one will accompany you. As my friend Zhang said in my original book in the first half of my life: the population is mobile, and no one can accompany you for a lifetime. Train yourself as soon as possible. If you are interested, you can also arrange flowers and raise fish when you are old. I hope that in the future, all of us can learn to be friends with ourselves, face the sudden change of life with a smile, separate joy and sadness, and keep as clear and transparent as possible.