36 years old, half-baked

I have always been a person who is aware of the past.

In hindsight, at the beginning of 216, I happily sold my house in Beijing and moved my family to Dali, a small border town. Buy me

With the down payment from the buyer who sold the house in Beijing, I bought a big house in Dali with a view of Cangshan Lake and Erhai Lake, with a big terrace and a sun room where I can lie and watch the stars at night.

In this world, there is no other way but to practice.

a fish, don't force it to climb a tree.

My daughter is in her early two years. Four months ago, we just moved here. When my daughter, who was still unable to speak fluently, told me this sentence completely, I was moved to tears.

Mom, come and shake hands with them, and you will be good friends. So I also squatted down, gently holding a leaf and a stem like her, and said solemnly, "Hello, we meet again."

I have to get to know animals and plants again every day because I have a child.

Rose the hen goes for a walk

Children never belong to the same country as adults. They are the same kind as all animals and plants, and they are all natural children. And most of us adults have become enemies of nature.

Adults say that the sky is blue and the clouds are white, but children retort, no, the sky is gray ... At that time, it was just a public service advertisement, but now it has really become a reality for many children.

On Young China

But when you really stare at a clear moon, you will feel that everything you have is bound.

3 obstacles are life.

All poems and distant pursuits will surely be given you enough indulgence.

The renovation period in Beijing is at most two months

So there are so many people who feel lonely because of the mountains and waters. When they are busy, they look forward to leisure, but they are empty.

who said that all times, once passed, will become better? But in fact, every moment is our golden age, including all the obstacles we don't want to face.

4 those "owned" in life

: I often jump out of my own life and look at it like a bystander, always thinking without fear, this person really has too much!

Our family of three lives in a big three-story house of 2 square meters.

At the same price, we can also choose a house with four floors up and down and nearly 3 square meters.

at the same price, I chose the smallest set, and the intermediary groaned, but I don't understand you.

If life is not used to create wonderful things, but only to serve this skin, then this life is like a desert, but it is old when you are young, and living is like dying.

5 escape from many unnecessary

As the ancients said, quietness makes wisdom. The ancients also said that everything is done in secret. The former talks about how wisdom is born on the spiritual level, and the latter talks about how things can be achieved on the practical level. These eight words can be regarded as the secret of ordinary people walking in the world.

I sold my house and company two years ago and moved to Dali to specialize in creation.

is a very real pastoral landscape. The environment close to nature not only nourishes the painter's creation, but also avoids many unnecessary social interactions for him.

My occupation is a novelist

From time to time, leave the field and run out to be quiet. As long as you are quiet and clean, you can see clearly.

6 What's on the other side of the mountain?

There is a gap of up to three months in the middle.

People always want to go to the other side of the mountain to have a look, not for understanding or conquering.

after my personal practice, I found that emptying is not something that people want to empty. It depends on not thinking about the future, keeping a distance from the present reality, and perhaps having bright sunshine as an external force, in order to reach the realm of emptying in some rare gaps in life.

With impermanence * * *

They have eyes but no content, and they are waiting for nothing.

I suddenly understand that what I am worried about losing is only what I have now. Like a container, we get some, lose some and get some again. The things in it never really belong to us. This container, always facing, is cold and desolate, standing alone.

7 be diligent or put down?

When they arrived, they were called to the first row to sit down. It is estimated that most people around them have just finished yoga, with rosy faces and peaceful demeanor. I'm dressed up professionally and impatient, and I feel out of place.

As long as you live, keep your body alive with as little consumption as possible, enjoy the joy of simplicity and accept everything. Let the soul live, study and work as high as possible. And leave clean. "

8 I live in a utopia of the times

We miss you, and you can enjoy the fun of life, such as reading thousands of books and going to Wan Li Road, for example, marrying a girl you like and having children. Be careful not to add children to me, but to yourself, and you can enjoy the fun of being a parent.

"There is nothing in your life that your ancestors have never experienced. Those are just illusions of life."

9 What about the self of a mother

A mother who takes care of her children full-time probably has a sword hanging from her head, which is called "out of touch with society", and she is often anxious while she is involved.

This seemingly unhurried and elegant scene has been my daily life for several years. For me who once advertised that women must be free and independent, "revolving around children" undoubtedly confirmed the label of "being a mother will lose myself".

1. be calm.

2. Be aware of/let go of any thoughts that want to control her.

3. Don't give her the expectation of how she will live in the future, and give her the trust that you can live a good life. (At this point, I later saw a similar expression in the educational concept of my daughter's kindergarten: I expect to hurt people and trust to support people. I agree very much. )

4. Give love unconditionally and accept unconditionally.

5. Constantly improve your cognition and sharpen your mind.

6. Never ask her for anything in return. When she comes of age, tell her, "You don't owe anything to your mother. You can run away without care. My mother also has something she loves."

1 years since women came to the goddess

In the past, people searched for information to solve problems in life, but now they create problems in order to make useless information come in handy. "

a capable woman can really play everywhere.

No choice can make a person complete or lose himself out of thin air. Marriage, work, family, children and self are all cards touched on the road of life. Each card is not only a reward of life, but also an unfinished homework. What matters is not the size of each card, but the player.

Try not to listen to comments that exaggerate or belittle the role of any card. Enjoy the reward, try your best to finish your homework and get wisdom from it.

11 The road to freedom

An editor-in-chief once told me that everyone comes to this world with different lessons (missions), some for experience, some for completing something, some for paying off debts, and some for practitioners who have been working all their lives.

I am disdainful, but her words are still buried in my heart like seeds.

Then you either have a skill, or start a team, or you can make Qian Shengqian. You choose one of the three ways, and then make all the efforts.

Besides sighing secretly and listening patiently, I have never been able to say the hard words "Please don't bother me".

So that along the way, I listened to many stories, solved many life puzzles actively or passively, and accepted many emotions, which gave me insight and perception of the world and people beyond my own life experience.

what is true freedom? It is no longer to break away from anything for freedom, it is that there is no sense of bondage in bondage, it is that the heart has no place to live, and there are no boundaries and walls in the heart.

Heart Sutra

12 The more smooth it is, the wider it is

I sat in the corner of my cafe and watched the guests coming in and out with interest.

I'm in a trance. The river of life runs here, and I can't remember how we switched into such a picture at the moment.

Every Sunday night, the last waking up before going to bed is devoted to ironing shirts.

after handing out the last stack of unopened new shirts, we smiled at each other and said in unison, "At least we don't need to iron shirts anymore."

the so-called obedience means that you don't feel arrogant when you stand on the top of the mountain, and you don't feel humble when you walk on the bottom of the sea. Only by doing this can the river of life become wider.

13 people set up

A chicken feather in real life can't stand the crowd, and everyone has to be supported by someone who makes the public yearn for it. "

am I staying in a whitewashed world?

am I just seeing the tip of the world?

So, are all the knowledge I have based on my limitations?

Zongsa Jiang Yangqin Zhe Rinpoche said: "A completely honest person is invincible."

almost

to some extent, people go out to travel, or toss about in life, all in order to break the narrow and superficial cognitive limitations.

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"So, don't you see that the young couple do it by themselves? They dare not hire people. They open their business after eight o'clock every day and close at eleven o'clock in the evening." The gentleman said.

many times, our harsh criticism of our surroundings comes from our own ignorance, which makes us unable to understand, so we can't * * *.

I feel sad again. What gold picture books, intimate parenting, Montessori, these things that are used to in my daughter's world, some children are hard to reach.

Right View

Apart from making a living for ourselves, perhaps the most precious thing we have done and traveled is to broaden or deepen our knowledge of the world by an inch.

if you still have spare capacity, try your best to make what you are doing help others a little. The world is bitter, but there are many sweet things in this pile.

14 How hard is it to be myself

On my thirty-fifth birthday just past, I made a thorough parting, and this time I finally managed to reduce my clothes to ten sets (the clothes in Dali are almost the same in spring, summer and autumn).

too many people spend money they haven't earned and buy things they don't need just to impress people they don't like. "

15 Born to die

Looking at her back, I said to myself in my heart, I should take good care of my body and let the farewell come later. I want to love her more and let her have the armor of love for the rest of her life after we say goodbye.

Death is a concept, which is clear intellectually, but not emotionally.

I'm a granddaughter, and I need to take on such a role, but I can't cry at all, so I quickly hid when I saw someone approaching the mourning hall.

I knelt in the glistening crowd, my mind was blank, I was extremely shocked by my behavior, and I decided in my heart that I was probably a thorough cool thin.

some people say that living to death is the most active way to live. Only when we truly know that we are going to die can we know Zhi Zhi.

Tell my daughter "Never save my consciousness", please let me live and die completely.

How cold it is in the winter in the north

We can grasp it, but these years are ahead of us. Take advantage of impermanence and cold heart, do everything at hand and love everyone who passes by.

16 whether to buy a school district or travel around the world

As for the "best" standard, which is rooted in the three views of parents, each family will inevitably be different, and there is really nothing to compare.

The essence of Muslim Funeral

Poem for Children

is that children should have the following cores when they grow into a perfect person:

1. The inner small universe is not suppressed-the independent motivation to live.

2. The interest in learning and seeking knowledge, which depends on all one's life, will not be damaged-a person's ability of sustainable growth.

3. The motivation of communication with people is not out of comparison and competition-it is easy to develop intimate relationships.

4. Have a good health and reading habits that will accompany you all your life.

17 The decision to seize the "Apocalypse" and follow the precepts

"Take one stroke and move the whole body" can be classified as "important events in life".

I like his works too much.

follow your heart in big things and follow your feelings; Small things are rational and rely on iron discipline-I think it is very appropriate to sum up Haruki Murakami's half life.

There is only one exception-every time she meets a man with a crush,

She proudly says to me, "As long as a man shows a good impression on me, I will quickly generate an analysis table in my mind, and after a few minutes, I will know whether this man is suitable for continuing to associate."

In this rational way, she wants to find a marriage partner based on love. However, after more than ten years, few men can pass her analysis table, let alone make progress.

When walking on a road of free choice, you should be willing to bear its hardships, use all your reason and mind, develop discipline and follow the precepts.

18 I can't miss it. I run away from wine.

I drink good wine. I don't know where this preference comes from.

I'm the lightest

I remember her appearance. She was sixteen or seventeen years old, thin, with big and cloudy eyes and yellow face, like the yellow sun when the yellow sand filled the sky.

unlike my husband's hometown, Confucianism is the only thing that worships Buddhism and Taoism, and it is imbued with all kinds of norms, codes and manners. On the surface, some people try their best to serve their country, but hypocritical faces are common behind them.

Because at least at the banquet, you can see a person's true temperament.

Anyway, I remember that when I was discharged from the hospital, the doctor told the four-or five-year-old girl seriously, "Eat less salt and don't drink too much."

Lin Qingxuan Dao, an excellent way to drink, is to drink by yourself, till, raising my cup, I asked the bright moon, to bring me my shadow and make us three. But now this kind of drinking method will inevitably be dismissed as "melodramatic".

wine is really good. Pleasure, sex, heroism, compassion, soften the shell that is getting harder and harder in the world, and settle the lonely heart that has nothing to rely on and nowhere to rely on.

19 The flowing water, the predecessor of the bright moon, today

makes a kind of "quiet collapse" popular in the post-8s. You see a person always laughing and joking smoothly, but when no one is looking, he will quietly collapse.

Wei Xi wrote a short history of China's landscape,

It's a kind of wide-ranging scenery. People stand in the landscape and can see a little bit of ancient literati landscape.

Wild Goose in Pingsha

Farewell

Book of Songs

After interviewing craftsmen in Kyoto, Gao Xiaosong said with emotion, "Economy and politics are reinforced concrete; Those cultures that have been passed down for thousands of years, those centuries-old shops, those beliefs, like the net knitted by hooks, don't look at it soft, it is the most solid thing to hold this country, it is the bottom line. "

2 My favorite lonely heart

Xiao Suo

She asked me, do you often feel that the farther you go, the more lonely you get.

I said, yes, because intimate friends are scattered.

Every morning, I bother to match my clothes, draw exquisite makeup and stand on high heels, ready to go out to cater to the picky world.