What kind of life is happiness when you immigrate to Vancouver?

Yesterday, my college classmate and good friend Mei Mei told me that her sister was going to have a second child in Vancouver. I want my parents to visit relatives in Vancouver in the next month and take care of their food and daily life, but because of insufficient income, I applied twice and was rejected twice. The baby will be born at the end of the month, and the family can't do anything in Vancouver. I feel very sad after hearing this. When I was in college, Mei Mei's sister came to Beijing from Shanghai on business. We have met several times, and she gives the impression that she is a very beautiful and intelligent woman. At a young age, I have worked as a department manager in a foreign company in Shanghai. It is definitely a model for women in the new era in our minds. Then I worked and immigrated. I heard from Mei Mei that her sister, brother-in-law and niece also immigrated to Vancouver. From several conversations with Mei Mei, I know that Mei Mei's sister is not doing well in Vancouver. Brother-in-law used to be a national cadre in China. Because of his poor English, he has never found a formal job and can only make a living by doing odd jobs. I also tried to go to school, but I had to give up because of my old age and poor English understanding. Mei Mei's sister is good at English, and soon after she arrived in Vancouver, she found a job as an office administrative assistant. However, because she is used to doing management work in China, she can't stand such trivial work as administrative assistant. She quit her job less than half a year and went home to take care of her daughter. Mei Mei's sister and brother-in-law have been thinking about a comfortable life in China, and have always wanted to go back to China directly for three years. But I didn't expect to accidentally conceive a second child when three years were about to expire. Helpless can only disrupt the plan until the second child is born. I've been immigrating for almost three years, and I've heard many such stories. It's not hard to understand when you think about it. People who can emigrate overseas through formal channels should not have particularly bad domestic conditions and will have a certain economic foundation. Moreover, China's previous "book-style" English education was not practical. Most immigrants can read and write after leaving this country, but their listening and speaking are in a mess. This makes many skilled immigrants feel that they have a skill, but they cannot display it. People who have been abroad have a deep understanding that when they come to this strange country, even if they can find a so-called "professional job", their positions will be reduced more or less than those at home. It used to be a senior position, but now it is a junior position; I used to be a manager, but now I'm an ordinary employee ... In fact, it's really not easy to immigrate. In addition to work skills, there is also basic knowledge of English, which tests people's mentality. Starting from scratch is really a difficult choice for people in their thirties and forties who emigrate overseas. Like Mei Mei's sister and brother-in-law, they have been regarded as "successful people" at home, and their living standards are superior at home. In this strange country, it is almost impossible to live a happy life if you can't let go of the box and accept the changes in the living environment, material level and even spiritual level. This reminds me of another friend, Xiao Heng. Xiao Heng immigrated to Toronto with her husband six years ago. When I first arrived in Toronto, Xiao Heng's English was poor. Go to the YMCA rating, only rating 3, from LINC-2. In addition, after coming to Toronto, Xiao Heng and her husband separated because of emotional discord. Xiao Heng is also the only adopted daughter in China, and her living conditions have been good. The sudden blow made Xiao Heng at a loss, but Xiao Heng didn't lose confidence in life. She spent three years doing odd jobs in LINC class. Three years later, Xiao Heng's English improved by leaps and bounds. She entered the university to study social work. After graduation, I found a job as a resettlement consultant in a non-profit organization with a very good reputation. During my brief contact with Xiao Heng, she has always maintained an optimistic, positive and uplifting attitude towards life. Even when I talked about her sufferings and tiredness in recent years, I didn't find a trace of depression in her face. I secretly asked her, "Have you ever cried?" She smiled and said, "I must have cried. I have complained about the injustice of fate, but I have cried and complained, and the days have passed. " I always believe that life will get better. "I asked her again," Have you ever regretted emigrating? " Xiao Heng was silent for a moment and said, "There is no medicine for regret in this world. We chose our own path. Since we have chosen this road, we must go well. "A simple conversation made me sit up and take notice of this girl. Indeed, people who have become rich in China always like to compare the immigrant life with the domestic life. In contrast, on the one hand, I feel that the comfortable life, cheap prices and rich entertainment programs in China are unforgettable, on the other hand, I feel that Canada's fresh air, free culture and relatively good public security are unforgettable, so I have been immigrating. No immigrants? Reflux? Struggling in the whirlpool of no return, wandering, wandering ... let yourself be shaken. In fact, China is as good as China, and Canada is as good as Canada. If you want to enjoy Canadian fresh air, bright sunshine and free medical care ... you have to give up the colorful entertainment in China and live a comfortable and free life. Everything is not perfect, so is a country, and so is the life of immigrants. It is said that if you are willing to give up, you will get it! Often asked by prospective immigrants in China: "Is it difficult to live in Canada? How much money do you have to bring to live in the past? "This is really a difficult question to answer. Perhaps the most appropriate answer is: people with a good attitude can live happily without money; People with bad mentality, with hundreds of thousands of millions, still frown every day. Therefore, the key to the happiness of immigrants' lives lies in their mentality. Source: