What's it like to fall in love with Koreans?

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Tell me my own story. My boyfriend is from Busan. Speaking of how we met, it is actually fate. When I was in college, I joined an international exchange club. There are many Korean students in our school, but there is no Korean department, and there are very few Korean students. I am a Han Chinese. When chasing Han Xing in high school, he spoke a little Korean. This club was just established after I went to college. No students who can speak Korean can help Korean students in their daily life. Since then, I have been dragging my three-legged cat to talk to them in Korean. After talking for more than three years, the spoken Korean is really 6 or 6, just like others think that I have studied Korean for many years, but I am actually a typical illiterate. I am one of the few boys in the Foreign Languages Department, and I don't like to get in touch with boys, so I have never had a boyfriend. Whispered, I still feel that I am a good-looking girl. Either nobody chased me, or because of this club, eight out of ten boys who chased me in college were Koreans. But I always feel that there is definitely no result. I just chat and play with them. After returning to China, most of them lost contact and didn't want to really communicate or anything. Later, in my junior year, I really met a super handsome Korean boy. He looks like the actor Nan Gongmin. He's a little evil, he doesn't talk much, he has a good figure and a tattoo. At that time, he had confessed to me indirectly. I refused in self-defense. After he returned home, he really regretted it more and more. At that time, he decided that if he met someone he liked again, he must not miss it. Then fate is, when the third year of high school starts. I met my current boyfriend. I said a lot of nonsense before, so I won't describe it anymore. Anyway, we will get along. The Korean pronunciation of the two words after his name is very similar to "lake water", and later I called him lake water. It's natural for us not to say who we are, and it feels right. There is no such thing as being my boyfriend/girlfriend. In fact, many people will think that Koreans are male chauvinism. They are strong, but they are not. There are male chauvinists, but not all, at least not my lake. He is the kind of big boy who is the same age as me, likes coquetry and is a little cute, 180 or above. This depends on personal preference. Some girls like mature boys and think that boys with this personality are not to their liking. Actually, I like this lovely boy very much. I don't usually like the angry type. He pesters me every day to show him anger. This is very different from the character of men in China. There is also image. If he takes a bath twice a day, he will bring out a lot of clothes to show me how to wear the best clothes before going out. When going out shopping, he won't say that he is tired, but he will sit down and let me go shopping alone or follow me silently. I really like this attitude towards life. It doesn't mean that boys must not pay attention to their image. We seldom quarrel. I think the biggest tacit understanding is that you can't quarrel for the night. No matter when we are together or in a different place, as long as we are dissatisfied with each other and have any contradictions, we will not sleep after quarreling. The result is not a unilateral apology, but that both sides analyze their mistakes and apologize to each other, and will not let one side compromise. The highest record is that I talked from 10 in the afternoon to almost 4 am, and my eyes were swollen the next morning, haha.

The most difficult thing about cross-border love is language. It's impossible for a couple not to know each other's language at all. If you can't express your views to each other well, you will eventually have problems if you keep holding back. But you don't need complete language skills. Just like us, I speak Korean unilaterally, but as I said before, I have never learned it at all. Although my spoken English is easy to communicate, it is impossible to express everything that Koreans want to express. His Chinese is almost expensive. In this way, after a long time, you will find that the tacit understanding between the two of you will form a new "language" that only you can understand. The picture below is about it.

Now tell our story. I dated him in June of 16, when I was a senior. Holding a kind of, I graduated after he returned from studying abroad a year later, and the fearless psychology was over. Later, when he was chatting with me, he also told me that he had the same idea as me, haha, a pair of love rat love rat. But who can control this kind of thing? After we have sex, many people around us will tell the truth and think that I am just "showing off my skills", not falling in love, not playing, and no one believes our feelings. There are many around, yo-ho, looking for a Korean Ouba? Really tired of this. It's really not easy to manage transnational love. It was Valentine's Day, because it was a winter vacation. I was at home and he was abroad for two months.

"Suddenly there was greed."

(Continue tomorrow night)

The issue of state relations is actually quite interesting. In fact, it is better to avoid this problem. This is no joke. At that time, it was a question of park geun-hye stepping down and Sadr. I can't help asking him what Koreans really think. He said park geun-hye was a crazy woman. We have also talked a lot about Sadr, and the attitude of their nationals is actually very opposed to the deployment of Sadr. Once Sadr is deployed, it means that their country will also be monitored by the United States, but the government will benefit from it and there is nothing they can do. In fact, most of the shares of Lotte Group were sold in Japan under the banner of Korea. Even without Sadr's support, its reputation in South Korea is stinking. In short, his final attitude is, can you not hate me because South Korea deployed Sadr and I am Korean?

We went to Shanghai in May this year. Our stay is not long, mainly because we all want to go to Disney.

When traveling, if there are not too many quarrels and conflicts of opinion, two people should be very suitable. After I went to Shanghai, I confessed to my family about my boyfriend, and they didn't object and expressed their understanding.

This is a photo taken in the New World. Show your face. It's just mine anyway. It's not anonymous anyway. Ha ha laugh

You have experienced a lot since you came back from Shanghai. I was busy preparing my graduation thesis defense when he was suddenly told to return to China. I originally planned to return to China in July, but I was caught off guard by the sudden advance to May. At the same time, it was a stressful time. At that time, after the defense, I decided to go to his home in Busan for a week in June, but I was still poor before I started making money, so I decided to go shopping to earn at least some money. But I don't have many tourists. Most of them are college students like me. However, to my surprise, I left my wallet in the first taxi when I landed at Busan airport. There are RMB cash and bank cards in it, and the money in the card is full in an instant. Although he still has a little money, he can't support us for a week. At that time, I really searched all the way, and even looked at all the monitors at home. I went to UnionPay to apply for rescue funds, and they said there was no such business. They went to the embassy in China and said they didn't care. In desperation, I can only go to the police station to sign the lost and found. However, when I met an excellent police sister at the police station and heard that I lost my wallet and was about to become a beggar, I called more than a dozen taxi companies in Busan one by one and asked if anyone had found my wallet. After an hour's phone call, I finally found my wallet and all the money in it in one place. But during this period, he has asked for money from his family many times. On the last day of dinner, I said I would pay for the meal. But he insisted on paying the bill with his last money and told me that I really felt sorry for you. You came to play, but I didn't let you enjoy the good things. Instead, I let you spend this week so wronged. When he sent me home to the airport, he couldn't even take out the money for taking the light rail, or I gave him all the rest of the change. At that time, I felt that Korean boys, although not as good at showing off as China people to let you know how good he is to you, silently gave you the best he could. I suddenly want to say here that many people think that Korean boys will be stingy, and going out for dinner and dating with their girlfriends is AA, but it is not. Most of the time, he takes money to eat. At most, he takes the money for dinner. I am responsible for buying a cup of coffee and a snack. I won't calculate exactly how much I spent today, and how much you will give me. In fact, this way is quite good. Not one person bears all the expenses, nor are they careful with each other.

Busan Ganchuan Cultural Village and the most famous little prince in it.

Night view night view

Actually, it's no different to associate with Koreans or anything. We're all human, right? As long as we love each other, there will be no problem. We've been together for almost a year now, and now we're out of town. I have already started to work. He was learning Chinese when he was working in Korea. When he passes the exam, his father will let him live in China for a while, and then continue to study in China. Sometimes I think a lot about the future. After all, our identities are different now. I have started working, but he is still a student. He hasn't been to the army yet, although he may do charity work because of his leg injury. There are still many uncertainties. All I can think of now is that today we are still together, today I still love him and he still loves me, and today I am still very happy. Do it.

It's really not easy to talk about a cross-border love. It is also a process to maintain this relationship and accept different cultural habits and concepts. There are also many people who say that Korean men love to play and have bad personalities? At the end of last year, I introduced a good Korean Oba to my friend. Now the trend of two people is to get married soon. That boy is really good beyond her imagination, so he can't judge all men in a country with his own inherent ideas.

If any girl or boy has a favorite Korean who wants to start a cross-border love, or if there is a problem with cross-border love, they can come to me. I am very happy to share my experience with you.

Extended reading:

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1. Four-year undergraduate degree holder.

2. Foreign language ability reaches the level of daily communication.

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3. Love China culture and teaching profession.

4. Always keep learning attitude, and constantly improve and enrich your professional ability.

5. Internationalized world outlook and ability to adapt to the new environment

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