About Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman, Lin, Zhang Youyi, Liang Sicheng, etc.

Xu Zhimo —— A Hot Spot in Cultural Circles

Since that abnormal death, Xu Zhimo has been a hot spot in the cultural circle, enduring for a long time. If nothing else, his emotional entanglement with several women alone is an endless topic. Among several women, Zhang Youyi's birthright is the noblest. She was originally married, and her feelings were the most insipid. After seven years, she divorced.

The women Xu Zhimo has experienced are: Zhang Youyi, Lin, Ling Shuhua, Lu Xiaoman and Han. Quite a few, but this is only China's.

And Zhang Youyi's feelings, in addition to half a divorce notice (the other half is not found) and a big letter from Xu Zhimo, there is no conclusive evidence. There are always people who say that they are not harmonious after marriage, but they understand each other after divorce. These words were said by Xu Zhimo's friend. I'm afraid they are unreliable, even if they are reliable, they are just appearances. The fact is that Zhang Youyi never said a word before or after the divorce, even more than 50 years after Xu Zhimo's death.

This is Zhang Youyi's wisdom, and critics will say: That's outrageous. Why don't you think about it and let her say something? Say Xu zhimo ok, I divorce you. I don't know. You have to add a jealous woman to your abandoned wife. Grapes that cannot be eaten are sour. If you eat half of it yourself, the grapes taken away by others will be more sour.

After decades, the bad man finally told the truth before he died. She lived to the age of 88 and died in new york on 1988. 1In September, 1996, her niece, Miss Zhang Bangmei, published an English book "Feet and Suits-Family Changes between Zhang Youyi and Xu Zhimo" in the United States, which was published by Daubry Publishing House. The truth of their relationship finally came out.

Zhang Bangmei is the granddaughter of Zhang Youyi's eighth brother yu zhang IX. Her father is a professor at Yale University. She is a third-generation immigrant. She graduated from the East Asian Studies Department of Harvard University, majoring in China literature, and obtained a law degree from Columbia University. She used to be a lawyer in new york. From 1983 to 1988, before Zhang Youyi died, she talked with her aunt for five years, first writing her graduation thesis and then enriching it into a biography. "My aunt has read my paper", and the authenticity of the content can be trusted. Will it be vilified? Don't worry, the author has repeatedly stressed that the Zhang family will always be proud of Xu Zhimo, and told his granddaughter before he died that writing a book should be "loyal to Xu Zhimo". It was this grandfather who asked his family to recite some poems by Xu Zhimo at his funeral in his will.

At first, she explored the marriage between Xu Zhimo and her aunt with admiration, but the fact caused her suspicion and resentment again and again, and was humiliated by her aunt, which made Xu Zhimo heartless.

It never occurred to her that Xu Zhimo despised Zhang Youyi so much from before marriage to after marriage. When I first saw Zhang's photo, I curled my lips and said in a tone of disgust, "Hillbilly!" " "I have never looked directly at Zhang Youyi after marriage." You ignored me except for fulfilling the most basic marital obligations. Even when fulfilling his marital obligations, he only followed his parents' wishes to have grandchildren. "

/kloc-in the winter of 0/920, Zhang Youyi went abroad to reunite with her husband. In the past, people thought that Xu Zhimo missed his wife and wrote this letter to beg his father. Now I know that most of this letter was written at the request of Zhang Junmai. After a few years apart, I had a child. At that time, there was no reason not to let Zhang Youyi go abroad. It was not Xu Zhimo who sent her, but her husband's family. The reason why my in-laws sent her was just to remind Xu Zhimo of his responsibility to the family. Nothing is more reasonable than Zhang Youyi's own explanation.

If he misses his wife, he won't meet her like that.

Three weeks later, the ship finally sailed into the ship dock in Marseille port. "I leaned on the stern deck and waited impatiently for landing. Then I saw Xu Zhimo standing in the crowd and looking around. At this moment, my heart cooled a lot. He is wearing a slender black fur coat and a white silk scarf around his neck. Although I have never seen him in a suit, I know it's him. I can see his attitude at a glance, and I can't make a mistake, because he is the only one who doesn't want to be there. "

On the plane from Paris to London, Zhang Youyi vomited due to airsickness. Xu Zhimo turned his head and said, "You are really a hillbilly!" Not long after the words were finished, he also vomited. Not to be outdone, Zhang Youyi blurted out softly: "I see you are also a hillbilly."

During his life in London, Boston and later Berlin, what he often talked about was Xu Zhimo's kindness and kindness. Now he knows. Xu Zhimo is very unfriendly to Zhang Youyi, which can be said to be inhuman.

They stayed in Boston, and soon Zhang Youyi got pregnant. At this point, Xu Zhimo was frantically chasing Lin and had no time to take care of it. Say whatever you want, "abort the child."

In those days, abortion was dangerous. Zhang said: "I heard that someone died of abortion."

Xu coldly said, "Someone died because of taking the train. Don't you see people don't take the train? "

Soon after, Xu Zhimo brought a female student from China to dinner at home. The book called her Miss Ming. Zhang Youyi found that the young lady in a woolen navy dress was wrapped around her feet. After seeing the guests off, Xu asked Zhang what he thought of Miss Ming. Zhang said, "She looks fine, but her feet don't match her suit." Walking around, Xu Zhimo turned his heel, as if Zhang Youyi's comments had vented his irritability and frustration, and suddenly screamed, "I knew it, so I want a divorce."

The title of the book comes from this. Zhang Youyi was Tianzu, and Xu Zhimo seldom wore a suit later. This is just a symbol, symbolizing the conflict between two cultures, China and the West, tradition and modernity.

Xu wanted to divorce immediately, but Zhang refused, so he left, leaving Zhang alone in Boston. As the delivery period approaches, Zhang writes to her second brother for help. She came to Paris and later went to Berlin to have a baby. Xu knew Zhang's whereabouts for a long time, but ignored it. I found Berlin when I had to go through the divorce formalities. After giving birth to a child, Zhang Youyi quickly recovered from grief and entered Pestalozzi College, specializing in early childhood education. After returning to China, she founded Shang Yun Company and took charge of Shanghai Women's Savings Bank, both of which achieved great success. Finally, she came out of the shadow of her little feet and became a striking new woman in a suit and tie. What is more commendable is that after she returned to China, she still served Xu Zhimo's parents (as a daughter) and carefully raised her and Xu Zhimo's son. The Complete Works of Xu Zhimo in Taiwan Province Province was also compiled under her planning, in order to let future generations know Xu Zhimo's works.

Xu Zhimo did this to Zhang Youyi. What about Zhang Youyi's feelings for Xu Zhimo? This is a very delicate problem. Let's listen to Zhang Youyi's self-report:

You always ask me if I love Xu Zhimo. You know, I can't answer this question. I am puzzled by this question, because people always tell me that I have done so much for Xu Zhimo and I must love him. However, I can't say what love is. I have never said "I love you" to anyone. If taking care of Xu Zhimo and his family is called making love, then I probably love him. Of all the women he has met in his life, perhaps I love him the most.

Not maybe, it can be said with certainty that Zhang Youyi loves Xu Zhimo the most, because her love for Xu Zhimo has no strings attached, and even whether Xu Zhimo loves her or not.

The writing of this book is novel and unique. I really admire the painstaking efforts of foreign scholars in writing. It is a strict biography, even an oral record, which is no less than a detective novel. Start with a black silk yarn in a heart-shaped wooden box, which leads to interest in family history, and end with black silk yarn and heart-shaped wooden box. The text is divided into two clues, which cross each other, both external and internal. One is the main clue, which consists of Zhang Youyi's narrative; One is a vice clue, writing your own thoughts and pursuits in marriage. The proposition of "feet and suits" has been further deepened here.

The poet passed away.

193 1 year165438+1early October, Lu Xiaoman sent a telegram urging Xu Zhimo to return to the south, because it was difficult to maintain ostentation and extravagance in Shanghai. 165438+1October 1 1, Xu Zhimo flew to Nanjing by Zhang Xueliang's special plane and returned to his home in Shanghai on 13. Unexpectedly, the couple quarreled as soon as they met. The reason is more complicated. According to Yu Dafu's memory, "Lu Xiaoman didn't listen to advice and lost his temper. He threw his pipe at Xu Zhimo's face, and Xu Zhimo quickly dodged. Fortunately, he missed, and the gold-rimmed glasses fell to the ground and the glass broke. " In a rage, Xu Zhimo ran away angrily. 18, Xu Zhimo took the early train to Nanjing and lived in Hejia. Xu Zhimo originally planned to take Zhang Xueliang's Ford plane back to Beijing. Before leaving, Zhang Xueliang informed him that something had to be rescheduled. In order to catch up with Lin's lecture on ancient buildings in China given to foreign guests in Peking Union Medical College Auditorium that night, Xu Zhimo couldn't wait to fly to Beijing by postal plane the next day, that is, 193 1 19. Before boarding the plane, he sent a short message to Lu Xiaoman, which said, "There is heavy fog in Xuzhou, and I have a headache and don't want to go. I'm going back to Shanghai. " But in the end he left. Due to heavy fog, the plane crashed into a mountain and exploded near Dangjiazhuang, Jinan at noon 12: 30. Even the three people on board, Xu Zhimo, just turned 36 and didn't survive. Lu Xiaoman was 29 years old.