Thinking about life depends on me.

? -don't live up to every opportunity that this era gives you.

Life is a process of being hammered, without exception. Some people were beaten to pieces; Some people are hammered slowly, their eyes are black and bruised.

Maye Musk, the mother of Iron Man elon musk, was hit hard.

She gave birth to elon musk at the age of 23 and gave birth to three children in three years. But she was controlled by her husband and abused. 3 1 year-old, she became a single mother and raised her children alone. His ex-husband is a scum. During Mayer's pregnancy, he forced her to do heavy work, and when she stopped to rest during contractions, he called her "you are just lazy and weak"; After her father died, his only concern was how much property he could inherit; He banned Mayer's relatives from approaching their children; When a strange man praised Mayer's beauty and sexiness, he humiliated and beat her in public. Even beat her many times in front of the child; Threatened her that if she filed for divorce, she would cut off her face and shoot the knee of the child, so she would not be able to model and improve three disabled children.

At that time, neither the social form nor the legal system supported divorce. This life lasted for nine years, and she lived in fear all the time. It was not until South Africa enacted the "Irretrievable Broken Marriage" law that Mayer felt that he had legal support and could get a divorce. When they got married, his ex-husband had nothing. When he filed for divorce, his career was very successful, but he didn't want to give Mayer and his children any money or property. While waiting for the divorce verdict, he chased Mayer in the street with a knife, and she fled to a neighbor's house before being rescued. After the divorce, the children will spend a weekend with him every month, and every time he will detain Mayer's weekend clothes and supplies for the children, forcing Mayer to spend money again, and he knows Mayer didn't have the money to pay these extra expenses at that time.

Mayer said that this was the darkest period in her life, because it was too painful, so she never wanted to recall and tell it. But she is even more reluctant to deceive people who care about her, and life is not easy at all, even cruel and indifferent. However, when encountering setbacks and difficulties, don't give up easily and don't be afraid. Hold on for a while. Hold on. Maybe, life will get better. For example, Mayer grows armor on scars. Wisdom is born in armor. At the age of 7 1, Mayer shared her life wisdom in the book "Life is up to me":

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? Save yourself in time, not because you are a woman.

? Know what you want and stick to it. Never go with the flow.

? Be interesting and confident. Make up. If you want to find a dress style that suits you, you must keep a good figure and make your appearance and inner beauty wonderful.

? Socialize, create and seize opportunities. Make plans: health, finance, career, family. Have a good attitude to plan, be good at planning and dare to take risks.

? Encourage children when they are interested in something. Educate them to be independent, kind, honest, considerate, polite and hardworking people. Children will benefit greatly if they have enough independent survival ability.

? Find a job that you love, go forward bravely, I am the master of life, and find a new self. The harder you work, the luckier you are. Everything has nothing to do with age.

This book is really a gift from every woman. Mayer, a single mother not only raised three children, but also trained them into talents! She said that the most useful education for children is to let them see that you are trying to be a better yourself. Other than that, it doesn't matter. For Meyer, who appeared on the cover of The New Yorker at the age of 59, became a supermodel at the age of 67, walked the runway with a girl only one third her age, and entered the golden age of her career at the age of 7 1, she frankly uncovered her scars and tried to tell us in this way that she was not the perfect female spokesperson shaped by the media. In fact, it is this "artificial perfect woman" that has created countless pressures and puzzles for ordinary people. This book breaks the "artificial perfection", but shows how a woman gradually explores the world and reinvents herself.

Know what you want and stick to it.

1989, Mayer 4 1 year-old, finally escaped from an unhappy marriage after hardships and went to Canada for the first time. I can imagine how hard life was when she first arrived in Canada. Everything starts from scratch. Fortunately, the University of Toronto offered her a post as a graduate student, while she was still working as a part-time model, Mayer said. At first, I could only rent a small apartment, but it took three weeks to clean it up and barely lived. At that time, the second son, kimball, was still in high school, and the little nephew joined this stormy family. The daughter Tosca has a bedroom, the two sons Elon and Kimball have bedrooms, and the little nephew has a bedroom, but they have no bed and can only sleep on the ground. After a long time, I finally bought a sofa and decorated the house simply. No matter how difficult it is, Mayer has only one goal: to give children a place to sleep and something to eat, as long as they don't starve to death. Children never complain. So Mayer said that what he learned when he first arrived in Canada was: Don't get into debt, you can cut back on expenses at any time. I never envy rich people, nor do I envy others having good cars to drive. You just need to live as well as possible and look to the future.

Although he had no money to buy furniture and his life was difficult, Mayer said that leaving South Africa to immigrate to Canada was one of the most correct decisions he made. Finally leaving her ex-husband and not living in his shadow is a very important change for herself and her children's lives. So Mayer wants to tell those women who have the same experience as her, who are divorcing or want to divorce, that without him, life may change, but you no longer live in fear. Is it not worth it?

Tesla made history thanks to the hero's mother.

On May 3, 2020, the first commercial manned rocket in human history was successfully launched, and all mankind was boiling for it. The company behind this is Space Exploration Technology Company, which was founded by Tesla President elon musk in 2002. Elon musk has repeatedly talked about the influence of his mother Mayer on himself in public: "My mother is my hero, and my success comes from her cultivation and influence."

Mayer's education for children can be said to be the perfect embodiment of "teaching by example". Mayer recorded in his book that his son Elon showed signs of career and interest from the age of 12. Elon taught himself computer at the age of 12, and wrote a computer game "Blastar". At that time, his competitors were college students, and he was still in junior high school. The game later sold for $500. To be honest, I don't know how far he can go on this road. But when children are interested in something, encourage them. Educate them to be independent, kind, honest, considerate, polite and hardworking people. At our present family reunion, we still make fun of how hard life was then, but we survived and can make fun of the past. For the education of grandchildren, my idea is to give them hugs, not toys. Because living in this material society, what they lack is not toys, but the ability to love.

Undeniably, a large part of the reason for choosing me to read Life is that what attracts me more is how Mayer raised three children independently, and they all achieved something. Besides elon musk, the eldest son, kimball, the second son, is the founder of the eco-chain restaurant, and Tosca, the daughter, is a Hollywood director and producer. And how can she get a master's degree in nutrition at the age of 50 and return to the modeling industry? At the age of 63, she took nude photos for the New Yorker and other magazines to discuss the fertility of middle-aged women. At the age of 69, she became the oldest female spokesperson for the well-known makeup brand CoverGirl; After 70 years old, you still walk the red carpet and appear on the covers of VOGUE and Bazaar?

After reading this book with questions in one breath, I got an inspirational "secret recipe" for cultivating talents from the book. Mayer wrote "Life is up to me". He is an old man of 765,438+0 years old. Although he has lived a life of ups and downs for most of his life, he still wrote in the happiest words: "I am full of enthusiasm and expectation for the future." She told us never to slow down as you get older just because you are a woman. On the contrary, you should run faster, smarter and have a clearer goal.

Every decade in my life is better than the last one.

"You can always find a way to move forward. Age should never be a lock on anyone or anything."

"There are surprises everywhere in life, from taking care of yourself, your family and friends, to making your appearance and heart wonderful, to having a truly successful career and a dazzling adventure life. -She did it. "

As Meyer Musk wrote in the preface of this book, it is full of courage and compassion after going through the sea, she said; "I hope my dear readers can experience less pain caused by struggle and more joy of survival when reading this book than I do."

This is a book worthy of "all women's bookshelves should have". Mayer made us believe that every woman wants to wake up in the Force. Only a true yogi deserves "life is up to me".

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