Xiao Shede: Even if Huanhuan doesn’t show off, Mi Tao will still explode. The root cause lies in family education.

Introduction: Even if there is no visit to the Huanhuan family mansion, Mi Tao will still explode, because the root lies in family education

The three families in the hit drama "Little Shede", Song Jia plays the role of Nanli, a high-ranking executive who is loving and fun-loving and has a son and daughter; Jiang Xin plays Tian Yulan, a well-off family who spends too much time studying for their children and spends 60% of their lives on their own.

Mi Tao's family immigrated from other places and lived in poverty. Although the husband and wife were not highly educated, they were both really sensible, and the children were even smarter and sensible. They were simply the warmest and warmest people in this anxious city. A gentle presence. So it is the most popular one among the audience!

But why would Mi Tao, who lives in such a warm and joyful family, blame her parents for being overly overwhelmed by her chicken baby like Yan Ziyou?

In the Mi family special episode of "Little Shede", there is a scene where Mi Tao breaks down and cries and yells at her parents, saying that Huanhuan and Ziyou don't have to be sensible, so why do they have to be sensible and complain about it? It’s no use asking for your parents, you owe them so many favors.

After hearing this, Mi Tao's father, who had always loved his daughter, lost control and cursed Mi Tao as a white-eyed wolf.

Although such out-of-control scenes happen from time to time in the other two families in the play, what we see sometimes is more of a suffocating feeling of comparison and competition for favor, but it only happens in the Mi Tao family. , which makes people feel extremely cruel.

A family that is not rich in the first place but can enjoy themselves in hardship is a pure land in the play, and the audience is delighted. But when such a piece of pure land is lost, how can one not feel heartbroken!

So, what is the reason for Mitao’s mental imbalance?

Friends who follow the drama should be able to see that Huanhuan's unintentional showing off to Mi Tao is the most direct reason.

daily income), Mi Tao seemed to have opened the door to a new world. When she and her mother returned to the small rented house with poor conditions and no bathroom, her mentality became increasingly unbalanced.

The gap between rich and poor is too big! Although it is a TV drama plot, it is quite real. When you see the world with your own eyes and see other people’s living standards that are out of reach and unable to change, adults will feel powerless and resentful, let alone child.

But you are totally wrong if you think this is the root cause! Huanhuan's showing off will only make Mi Tao feel more inferior, but her family's education is the root cause of her explosion, and the external and internal elements can only be regarded as the trigger.

First of all, he is forced to be sensible

There is a detail in one episode that Mi Tao helps her aunt weigh the peaches at her father’s fruit stall. The aunt said, oh, you are helping the family at such a young age. While working, her dad immediately told her aunt that we are no longer young, we are already ten years old, and then the camera showed Mi Tao's expression of helplessness and even disappointment.

From this, it can be seen that Mi Tao is somewhat forced to be sensible.

Because children are very sensitive, and their parents always complain about the high cost, the children can only work harder. On the one hand, they do have talent, but on the other hand, they will feel guilty because they have let themselves go. Mom and Dad are in trouble. For a child as smart as Mi Tao, she has long felt the pressure from her parents, intentionally or unintentionally.

How can a fifth-grade child bear the words that parents count on you every time they say they are dependent on you? This is the case for Midao's family, who is not financially well-off, and for Ziyou, who has a rich family. This is also true. The pressure accumulates over time, and one day it will explode!

The breaking point came after seeing that Huanhuan's world was so different from his own, which was beyond his imagination. On the way back, her mother always "forced" her to be obedient, sensible, and help Xia Huanhuan. She felt the gap in her heart. It is impossible for a child not to feel aggrieved.

Secondly, it was influenced by her mother.

Mi Tao’s mother has always taken a step back to make progress, and being a humble person can indeed get a lot of things, such as Teacher Zhong’s discounts. , but she never thought about the impact this kind of behavior would have on her children. Of course, she couldn't think about it that much in her current living situation. But it does affect the children!

Mi Tao's mother worked for her classmate's family. Mi Tao would not have thought that she was inferior to others, but because of her parents' bend, she naturally became inferior to others. Especially when parents owe others a favor and have to use the interests of their children to repay the favor. The mentality that originally thought that a family would be happy as long as they were together has gradually become unbalanced!

Poverty is not terrible, but what is terrible is that you have no dignity.

The life of Mitao's family is the most real life of many ordinary families. There is no Ziyou's family background, nor Huanhuan's Gaozhi parents. Parents worry about the family's livelihood every year and have no time to care about their children's grades, let alone their mental health. Whether a child will become a talented person seems to be a gamble, and it depends entirely on whether the child is precocious and self-disciplined.