Why do Americans like to adopt children from China?

Carey Jr.' s story is just one example of thousands of orphans in China who have been taken care of in the United States. During the Spring Festival of the Year of the Monkey in China, the largest China restaurant in Chinatown held a special Spring Festival get-together. Three or four hundred white ladies and gentlemen with blond hair and blue eyes all brought China children as young as one or two years old and as old as six or seven years old, most of whom were girls, to attend this holiday dinner with strong China flavor. In the meeting place, the childish voices "Mommy" and "Daddy" kept calling, and a very interesting program was held at the meeting place. A huge colorful map of China was placed in the center of the meeting place, so that children with dark hair and black eyes dressed like American Barbie dolls came forward and planted small red flags in their birthplaces: Guangdong, Guangxi, Liaoning, Anhui and Henan. Among them, Anhui, Guangdong and Liaoning have become the places with the most red flags. Sometimes, when children are misplaced, parents will come up to correct them with a smile, lovingly caress them and correct them in nonstandard Chinese. There is no indication that these children are orphans they just adopted from China. Title: Americans love to adopt orphans in China. There is a little girl named Guo Shu, who is very cute. She has a small round face with an aura smile, black hair and two China pigtails. She stepped forward lightly and planted a small red flag in Guangxi, a province in the south of China, which happened to be planted in Nanning, her adoption place. Then put it down, and the audience applauded for its agility and wit. She nestled in the arms of her mother Susan Martha and smiled childishly.

This scene shows members of Southern California celebrating the Spring Festival in China. It can be said that in the United States, this is a group of American families who have the most affection for China. The children have closely linked them with China by blood, and it is difficult to separate them in this life.

I came to Susan's home to learn about life in a small country.

Susan Martha, who lives in San Marino, an upscale residential area in Los Angeles, is a professor at California Institute of Technology. Her relationship with China dates back to 30 years ago. Her husband works in the American Consulate in Hong Kong, and she teaches in Hong Kong. Since then, they have developed a strong interest in China culture. Walking into Susan's house, there is a Chinese painting by Liu Haisu, and on the left is a picture of Riverside Scene at Qingming Festival. There is a pottery and bronze unearthed in China on the bookshelf and treasure chest in the study living room. Susan's husband died a few years ago, and their children have grown up. When Susan is alone at home, she often thinks of the good times she spent with her husband, so she wants to adopt a girl from China.

Susan said that although I can't speak Chinese yet, my experience in Hongkong made me interested in China culture. China's profound history and culture, especially its philosophy of doing things, shines with eternal light. We have many English books about China's philosophy here, such as Tao Te Ching, Zhuangzi, The Art of War and so on. As long as you read it, you will become more and more interested. My husband is an expert on China. He speaks Chinese very well and knows a lot about China's cultural relics. We collected many cultural relics in China. Snuff bottles in China, in particular, were bought very cheaply in Hongkong decades ago.

After a period of paperwork, Susan got a notice from the domestic adoption agency and began to get some photos of adopted children regularly. From the photos and introductions sent, Susan immediately took a fancy to a quiet and beautiful little girl with black hair and big eyes. That's proof.

This is a lovely little girl from Guangxi, born in 1997. Her name was given by the aunts in Guigang Motherly Love Orphanage in Nanning. Susan said that the Chinese name was very atmospheric, and I liked it very much, so I stopped giving her an English name. She wrote "Martha's credentials" to me in English on a piece of paper. Her nickname is a book. Susan talked about the adoption process, and Susan was filled with emotion. It took a lot of time and energy to adopt books and books, and it took more than half a year to file back and forth. Finally, in the photos sent by China, Susan picked out exquisite books and books, but she hadn't finished her paperwork at that time and had to wait. But Susan misses little books, so she asks China if she can read them. China was a little embarrassed at first, but things were always flexible. The aunt in the orphanage promised to take the children out and let Susan read books from a distance. So Susan happily got on the plane and came to Nanning.

This is an unforgettable scene. My aunt in the orphanage took the book to the Cultural Palace. Susan watched them from a distance. She said that as soon as I saw these books, I knew she must be my little baby, and I fell in love with them at once. "I left some photos with my camera in the Woods. When I returned to America, I often looked through them.

A year later, Susan adopted a book, which seems to be a mother-daughter little reunion. In order not to make Shu Shu feel lonely, but also to make Shu Shu feel more about China culture, Susan sold the house where she lived in Pasadena for more than ten years, and bought a house in San Marino, a community where China people are concentrated, and was willing to pay tens of thousands more as an agent. She said that there are many families in China, as well as Chinese schools, where books and books can receive more China culture education. Susan opened the album she made for the book, which contained photos of the book one month after it was sent to the orphanage, recording the time when the book was almost young until today. Susan said that in this orphanage, the temporary mother and temporary dad took good care of them. You should take a photo every month. I saw the sanitation and cleaning facilities in the orphanage. Aunties are all dressed in uniforms, sunny and smiling.

At first, the book had no name. The aunt in the orphanage found that she likes to write with strokes, so she took the name of the book. Susan put all the documents in the adoption process in this commemorative book, and the Chinese name "credentials" was written in print and put at the front. Even the plane tickets and hotel invoices when she and her companions went to get the license were spelled out. She said that when the book grew up in the future, I would give it to her to let her know where she came from. Books and books are swinging happily on the swing in the yard, and another companion is a China girl adopted by several families in this area. They are busy with their milk-filled English and gardening in the garden. When asked about China, Susan proudly said, "My daughter's Chinese character teacher writes very well." As soon as I saw it, I was sure that the Chinese written in the grid, with a dash in the middle, did have the basis for writing "credentials".

There has always been a question hovering in my mind. Adoption is also a common thing in China. The most important thing is not to let the child know any facts about his birth, so as not to bring unnecessary trouble to find his biological parents when he grows up. When American families adopt China children, they not only don't hide it, but also encourage them to understand China culture and their own life experiences, and even try their best to create conditions for them to understand their own life experiences. Will this bring trouble in the future? What do Americans think? I put this question to Susan, who said it might be related to different cultures. People in these two countries have different views on adoption. American families believe that children are God's most precious gift to human beings and the embodiment of holiness and purity. It is also a sacred obligation to raise angels like children. In the end, children will belong to this country, not their own private property, so children can be independent and move out of the family when they reach the age of 18. Nowadays, more and more people don't want to have children, so the concept of treating children as private property is very weak in adopting children. Letting children know where they come from is the embodiment of this concept. Even when they grow up and go to China to find their roots, Americans as parents are very happy. She said, of course, our biggest wish in adopting China children today is to hope that China and the United States will be friendly. Many of us love China culture. No matter what the adoption motivation is, as long as China is adopted today, she must be a lover of China culture. This is also the reason why we often get together and let our children receive cultural education in China.

There are many adopters like Susan in America. They are infatuated with Chinese children and hope to make some contribution to society with their meager strength. They are a group of "parents" who love China culture the most, have the most affection and the most hope for Sino-US friendship. Take China Children's Adoption Association as an example. Each branch can move freely. Parents of families adopting children from China basically get together once a month, so that children can get to know each other and parents can exchange experiences in raising children.

A few days ago, I met Francis Mayer and his wife Jennifer at a party in the coastal city of West Los Angeles. They just adopted the boy Kim from China four months ago. Jennifer is a lawyer of a consumer association. The little boy Jin Jin is five years old. Jennifer said that they were brought from Tongling, Anhui. The whole process took eighteen months and the total cost was nearly twenty thousand dollars.

I asked Francis where he worked, and Francis replied "at home". "At home" I repeat, that's the Ministry of the Interior. Unexpectedly, Francis shook his head and said, "I am taking care of the children at home." I'm a little surprised. I didn't know until we continued to talk. Mr. and Mrs. Merlot remarried and both had children. After marriage, they decided not to have children, but to adopt a child, and soon decided to adopt a child from China.

I asked them why they adopted children from China, and the answer was that I was interested in China culture, and it was a report in the LA Times that inspired me to adopt children in China. The report described in detail that girls were abandoned in rural China to continue their labor force, and the situation of these children was very tragic. The report also described the situation of an orphanage in Anhui, so the Franciscans decided to go to China to adopt a child. At first, they planned to adopt a girl. Later, they adopted the little boy through the photo catalogue sent by China. Then he gave me a more surprising reason: "In order to take care of Jin Jin, who just came to the United States, I quit my job to take care of my children at home." He greeted the child with a smile and said in simple Chinese, "Jin Jin, tell me where you are from?" Kim can speak Chinese. He speaks Tongling in Mandarin. His wife Jennifer said that Francis went to St. monique Community College to take Chinese as an elective in order to communicate with Jin Jin and travel to China in the future. Now she is Jin Jin's full-time nanny. Francis added politely, "Now my children have just come from China and are not familiar with the environment. I want to spend more time with my child at home and help him adapt to the environment. Maybe I will look for a job in three or four years. " On some forums, I saw other attempts by Americans. We refute them with a fact: an old American in my graduate class found a Canadian wife after graduation, who was eight or nine years older than him and could not have children. So they decided to adopt. At that time, they could choose Romanian orphans, African orphans and China orphans, and they chose China orphans. In 2000, it took more than two years to adopt a 7-month-old baby girl in an orphanage in Hunan. At that time, Ben flew to Guangzhou to help them with the formalities and asked them why they adopted orphans from China. They said: First, they feel sorry for the abandoned and tortured baby girls in China; Second, I feel that the mothers of orphans in China do not have drug problems like Romanian or African mothers; Thirdly, I think girls in China are very beautiful (but to be honest, baby girls are really ugly). This classmate's parents are Ukrainian immigrants, but they were only small government employees before retirement.