This is the age of looking at faces? Maybe your understanding is all wrong.

In the morning, I accidentally saw someone in the group ask Master Xuecheng, the abbot of Beijing Longquan Temple:

Master Xuecheng's answer is:

The master's answer is very good, but I'm afraid the baby may not understand.

This made me reflect on my story. I haven't lost weight since primary school, and my appearance doesn't make people look back (ancestral silver basin, big face, single eyelid and thick lips), which is undoubtedly very fatal for a girl. Fortunately, my academic performance is not bad, which may be the only source of my confidence.

I can't help it. I went to middle school and changed schools several times, and my grades got worse every day. Finally, I failed in the senior high school entrance examination-that is, I didn't even get into the high school I wanted to go to.

At this time, my dad's career also fell to the bottom. My uncle died unexpectedly and was chased by debt collectors every day.

Is this life gloomy to the extreme?

Yes, this is my most embarrassing experience. I have never felt so miserable living in the basement since I graduated from college. Later, I learned that there were worse things waiting for me to experience. )

At that time, I felt that I was nothing: my looks, family background, knowledge and connections were all shortcomings, and I was very confused about the future, let alone my career planning, and I never thought about next year. There is nothing special about hobbies. I wear fat sportswear every day just to hide my fat figure. I feel inferior and dare not speak in public. I feel so inferior that I dare not speak in front of the person I like. I am an unknown passerby. No progress in grades, no bright spots in personality, and growing up with the wind. 18 years old, I already have 120 kg.

Looking back now, I was really unlovable at that time.

I must thank those babies in the middle school WeChat group who still remember me.

Get down to business.

Yes, that's right.

You can't do it if you don't admit it, which has been verified again and again in my life. In primary school, the dance team didn't choose me, and the military band didn't choose me. In the end, only the waist drum team with the whole class took me in. . .

If you don't believe us, let's take a look at the previous US presidential elections (whether I am in Greater China politics is the same, you can think for yourself). 1960 On September 26th, presidential candidates Nixon and Kennedy held the first TV debate in the history of American presidential campaign in front of 70 million American viewers of CBS.

In the TV camera, Nixon's beard is messy, his expression is tired and his face is ill. Kennedy was free and easy, calm and confident. Kennedy won the first TV debate.

After 45 presidents of the United States, most of them are not bad. Especially the presidents after Kennedy (not to mention Trump, people live by character), Obama, George W. Bush, Clinton, George H.W. Bush, Reagan, Carter and Ford.

Is it wrong to look at the face? Is there anything wrong with "face value is justice"?

This is undoubtedly the most cost-saving criterion.

We can often see a sentence: "A woman's life is good, and everything can be understood by looking at her face." In recent years, more and more people agree with this sentence. Your appearance is your attitude towards life, and your figure is your character and accomplishment.

At the class reunion after graduation, several girls who were once plain were reborn. It can be seen that they finally lived their own lives.

There is a slogen in the classic teacher's new elite vocational training: "grow, grow into yourself!" " Thankfully, we have all grown into ourselves at last.

Regardless of people, don't we treat animals the same way? A good-looking dog is unwilling to hit him when he is in trouble. The first time is to take pictures and send friends.

It is strange that a dog that ate lotus root was not beaten by fat when it was in trouble.

Except those babies who are ugly enough to make the gods cry, most of us are human, and there is little difference in appearance. The standard of beauty and ugliness is actually-health. It's up to you to squeeze into the beautiful crowd or degenerate into the ugly crowd.

Stop blaming your parents. After the age of 20, your appearance is shaped by yourself.

So, how to save our looks?

Let's look at a set of photos first.

Lingluan Nini is the signing author of my last company, Sina Weibo and an online celebrity, Taobao's beauty cosmetics. Jianghu people call her "Sister Hua". Finally, the book was published. I don't know, but I deeply remember this face.

Nini was born in 1987, and God never gave her too much love. You also saw her small eyes, flat nose, bad skin and deep myopia of more than 700 degrees. Do you feel inferior to you?

However, God gave her a pair of skillful hands. Every time she puts on makeup, it's like "a different person". Suddenly, men and women, Chinese and western, all of a sudden, my sister and the queen were amazed by the makeup technology. This is the magic of makeup. If it's really ugly, you can try Korean semi-permanent besides makeup. If you can bear the pain with money, you can do a micro-plastic surgery (there are too many examples in the entertainment circle, so I won't talk nonsense).

But, with a new face, will everything get better?

Not necessarily.

What's the point of living like this? It is better to exercise than to complain.

It doesn't matter if the face value is not enough. At least we can have a fishing line or a vest line, or we can have a charming ass.

Fitness can make you look like you have had plastic surgery, don't you believe it? Give it a try!

Speaking of which, I will first think of Zuckerberg's Chinese wife Priscilla Chen.

Why did Zuckerberg, who is worth 230 billion yuan, marry the "Nanjing Little Fat Girl" with dark skin, slightly fat figure and plain appearance and become a dazzling wife madman? Priscilla is not a beautiful girl in any way. She has no touching appearance and no distinguished life experience. Her father is from China who lives in Viet Nam. In the 1970s, she immigrated to the United States as a refugee and opened a small restaurant with her Vietnamese wife to make a living. Priscilla and Xiaozha met at Harvard University. At that time, Xiao Chen was an excellent student in Harvard's most difficult medical school. Xiaozha is a computer major, and Xiaozha climbed up.

After getting a bachelor's degree in biology from Harvard University, she didn't choose to work at facebook (how wise! ), first worked as a science teacher at the most famous San Jose Huck School in Massachusetts for two years, and in 2008, he was admitted to the top medical school of the University of California in the United States (awesome! Absolutely a female schoolmaster), and successfully passed the pediatrician qualification one week before the wedding. However, Xiao Zha has been infatuated with Xiao Chen for more than ten years. On the day of graduation from the University of California Medical School, Xiaozha also claimed that he was attending the graduation ceremony in Priscilla Chen through the "sign-in" function of Facebook, and left a message: "I am proud of you, Dr. Chen."

Xiao Zha once said in an interview with ABC TV that Xiao Chen had a pervasive influence on his life and even his work. It was Xiao Chen who prompted him to add an organ donation registration tool to Facebook: "Priscilla saw that the children's illness was getting worse and worse, and suddenly she had a transplantable organ, so that a child's life would be better. When she got home, her whole face lit up."

Xiaozha also posted a warm photo of the two when Chen was pregnant on Facebook, and wrote: "This is a stunning photo of Priscilla. I love her expression: strong and kind, brave and full of love, leading and supporting. Thank you, Leibowitz, for capturing her charm so well. " You can feel Xiao Chen's position in this family from the photos.

Today, the couple are committed to charity, donating 99% of facebook shares, and publicly announcing that they will invest more than $3 billion (about RMB 20.5 billion) in the treatment of diseases in the next 10 year, hoping to realize the treatment, prevention and management of all diseases in this century.

Xiao Chen expresses her personality charm, a goddess with high emotional intelligence and high IQ.

If I knew her, I would like her too.

In short, if you like your job, do it well; If you don't like it, do what you like, even those who plant flowers and grass, do manual work and are dedicated are the most attractive.

Don't try to rely on anyone, be yourself.

What if you have no hobbies? Then go to charity or temple to volunteer.

What should I do if I can't do the above? Then please always keep a sincere and lovely smile.

As thich nhat hanh said in "Hard Training":

As long as you have more good thoughts and do more good deeds, you will become a dignified person. If all my heart is full of greed, ignorance and suspicion, if it hurts people, I will haggle over every ounce and stir up trouble ... everyone will avoid it.

That's what it means, the phase is born from the heart, and the environment is turned from the heart.

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Your face is a display of yourself. Whether it looks good or not depends on how you fill it with your heart and how you carve it.

After the age of 20, please stop complaining and be responsible for your appearance. .