My boyfriend and mother think that my job requires frequent business trips and want me to change my job. Should we break up?

I think work is more important than my boyfriend. Many people will face the problem of choosing a job or an object. My best friend met such a choice. My girlfriend likes painting since she was a child, and now she works as an illustrator in her favorite studio and sometimes works as a part-time graphic designer. Designers who have just entered the industry have a lot of work intensity, and it is very hard to work overtime to revise manuscripts.

My best friend's boyfriend and she are college classmates, and they have been together since they were studying, which has always been very sweet. Boys are very kind to her. In the senior year, my best friend took the postgraduate entrance examination, and the boys kept downstairs in the dormitory to send her breakfast every day, rain or shine. But unfortunately, my best friend didn't pass the exam and went to work in Shanghai directly.

Boys are still quite disappointed with their girlfriends' career choices. He thinks it is good for girls to read more books, take an examination of a civil servant, or find a public institution and have a stable job. How did you go to Shanghai to float? Since my best friend worked, the attitude of boys towards her has gradually changed.

Every time my best friend tells a boy how harsh the boss is, the boy will say "You are probably not cut out for design" or "Don't push yourself too hard, or you will come back if you can't". This often frustrates girlfriends. After a stalemate for almost a year, my best friend got a promotion and was anxious to tell her boyfriend.

But her boyfriend said, "Girls, is it useful to earn so much money?" Do you think you can become a master of design by doing things in bad karma? "My best friend is very painful, but this blow made her resolutely choose to break up.

I support the practice of girlfriends. Everyone is an adult. Although feelings are very important, if you bring too many negative emotions to yourself and even affect your work and life, giving up seems to be a better option under consideration. In fact, as we all know, even if girls don't give up their personal pursuits and follow boys, there are countless thorny things in life. This is not romantic, nor is it an easy road.

And girls who insist on personal pursuit can at least exchange their contacts, economic sources and self-sufficiency and better quality of life in the future.

At the age of 20, I was faced with a choice: whether to immigrate to Singapore with my boyfriend who is 9 years older than me, then get married and have children, and live a dull life, squeezing out my last "imagination" in trivial things, or to jump out of this love that will hinder me and pursue self-realization first.

Not without hesitation. But fortunately, I finally chose the latter at that time. So if your boyfriend and mother think you need to travel a lot for work, they want you to change jobs and break up decisively.