Why do we sometimes get jealous? What is its root?

1. In the process of interpersonal communication, people with good interpersonal relationships are often people who can accept themselves and others. Your social anxiety comes from your desire for recognition and acceptance from others. Then, if you want others to accept you, you must first accept yourself. The purpose of our socialization is not to create a perfect image in front of everyone, but to exchange ideas, exchange information and express our inner thoughts and wishes. Then, you just need to express and communicate with me. As for other people's opinions, it is not the most important. It is difficult for a person to win people's hearts, and it is impossible for a person to get everyone's approval.

2. Jealousy is a negative emotion, which refers to an emotional experience of shame, anger and resentment for many years when a person's talent, reputation, status or situation are surpassed by others or the distance between them is shortened. It has obvious hostility, even attacks and slanders, which not only hurts others, but also creates great obstacles to interpersonal relationships and eventually destroys itself. People with similar status, age and experience are prone to jealousy.

The root of jealousy:

Jealousy originates from pathological competition and is closely related to individual's personality, cultural background, experience and world outlook.

(1) People with personality defects such as self-isolation, inferiority and egocentricity are prone to jealousy.

(2) A specific cultural background, such as the Confucian doctrine of the mean, does not suffer from widowhood but from inequality.

(3) It is impossible and unnecessary to know yourself objectively and always think that you should be superman.

(4) The role positioning is wrong and you can't enjoy yourself.

(5) Only when you have no ambition and nothing to do, will you play tricks on others.

(6) When self-realization is blocked, jealousy is easy to occur.

Some ways to eliminate jealousy:

(1) Be honest with others, care about others, keep close contact and deepen understanding.

(2) Cultivate a philosophical attitude towards life and enjoy life.

(3) Try not to compare with others, but with your own past.

(4) treat the achievements of others as a contribution to society, not as a deprivation or threat to oneself, and appreciate the success of others as a landscape.

(5) Learn to praise others to show your broad and tolerant mind by praising others.

(6) Publicly show your ambition to the other party, improve your position in the other party's mind, increase the pressure on yourself to apply, and use competition to promote your progress.

(7) Enrich one's life, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, seek new self-worth, give play to one's due potential, open up new fields and establish new power sets.

(8) A truly strong person needs hard work. Bacon once said: "Everyone who is immersed in his own career has no time to envy others."

References:

China psychological network