A brief discussion of Shanghai women

Inscription:

"The Book of Songs·Xiaoya·White Colt": "The bright white colt, in that empty valley, grows a bunch of cud, and its person is like jade."

1. Advocating equality between men and women

Shanghai women are often evaluated as having strong personalities and being vigorous and resolute in their behavior. What is strength? I have summarized the following three points:

1. Strong opinion and self-centered.

2. Use your own will to force the actions of others. The style is relatively tough and decisive, and you dare to speak and act.

3. Refuse to admit defeat and admit your mistakes easily.

After my careful observation, I feel that Shanghai women have a strong subjective consciousness, but they never impose their will on others. He has a tough and resolute style, strong execution ability, and a balance of strength and softness, but he never forces the other party to comply with his position. Never give up easily, and be compassionate.

"Women can hold up half the sky, but without them there would be no food and clothing."

This sentence has been spread among the people since the founding of the People's Republic of China. Reversing the common phenomenon of "men are superior to women" has always been the mainstream social value we are committed to promoting.

The more developed a region is, the proportion of manual labor is gradually decreasing.

The fundamental reason why women have low social status is that manual labor has occupied most of the means of production for a long time.

Women’s physiological advantages in this regard are obviously weaker than men. As the proportion of mental work increases, women's social status gradually rises.

Without exception, developed areas basically rely on mental work as the mainstay.

2. Everything is low-grade, only reading is good

Do you think I have no feelings because I am poor and plain-looking? I swear to you: If God grants me wealth and beauty, I will make it as difficult for you to leave me as it is now for me to leave you. God didn't plan it this way. But our spirits are equal. Just like you and I walking through the grave and standing before God as equals. ——"Jane Eyre"

Basically, in every Shanghai woman's native family, her parents attach great importance to her education and the cultivation of a perfect personality.

We have been educated since childhood to be an independent generation, not to be dependent on anyone, especially the only children of our generation.

The influence of the one-child policy directly caused the parents' generation to abandon the old concept of "preferring sons over daughters". Because we only have one child, not to mention that we were born in Shanghai, how to become an educated, caring, and polite intellectual woman is all the ardent hopes of our parents for us.

Read good books, study hard, everything depends on yourself. ——These words are the family motto that has been ingrained in our ears and eyes.

Parents give us all learning opportunities within their ability. Whether it is basic subjects or hobbies, such as music, chess, calligraphy and painting, we are good at at least one. It's not about getting extra points in exams, it's about cultivating your temperament. So that when we become adults in the future, we will not become so worldly, so superficial, so greedy and vain.

Shanghai women have always been subtly taught to be independent and capable ladies. You can get out of the hall and get into the kitchen.

And ladies do not necessarily come from aristocratic families, they can also be of their own sect, as long as we respect ourselves and love ourselves and do not objectify ourselves.

3. Innate character advantages

Looking at the vicissitudes of a century of history, you will find that Shanghai women inherit three powers in their genes: affinity, vitality, and willpower.

Whether we are facing the flames of war or famine, whether we are going through changes or ordinary times, we can turn danger into safety and support a family with our strong hearts and weak shoulders. He is willing to give everything.

We are strong in compassion; we learn to forgive in slander; we endure and contribute in times of hunger; when the current situation changes, we have a sharp vision and make the right choice.

Because we are from Shanghai, because our ancestors were the first to come to Shanghai during the migration process of nearly a hundred years and dared to be the first in the world.

This kind of bravery and valor in overcoming obstacles has long become a blood root and is passed down in the genes from generation to generation.

My grandmother was born in 1924 and was originally from Chongming. When she was born, Chongming still belonged to Jiangsu Province.

In 1945, during the war, she was independent and came to Shanghai alone in order to escape the feudal patriarchal marriage contract.

Only then did our descendants come into being.

Although she has not received a complete education, she has an independent personality and has never been dependent on anyone. I worked hard on my own and won happiness for the rest of my life. She is full of optimism.

She has loved beauty all her life and behaved gracefully. No matter what the circumstances, always maintain noble conduct and a kind attitude towards others. Even in the years when the financial situation is very difficult, it is still possible to maintain a clean appearance.

She lived her life elegantly and calmly.

When she was alive, she used a few words to resolve many neighborhood disputes and became a core figure that was unanimously respected by everyone.

Although he didn’t say much, every word was precise and straight to the point, which left a deep impression on me.

Not only was she generous and loyal, she was also kind-hearted and helped the poor within her ability. Although she herself is not rich.

What she has always taught us is - autonomy, independence, optimism, and great blessings.

Having experienced the vagaries of life, she has made decisive decisions in her life. She can actively pursue her own happiness in the rough road of life, without fear of any judgment from others or worldly ideas.

Her life has been full of ups and downs, which can be called "a woman's epic". But she is so humble and low-key, tolerant and kind.

I think there are countless Shanghai women like her. She is just the epitome of our Shanghai women.

The water is as low as the sea. Only by treating others with humility and neither being humble nor arrogant can we take the initiative to grasp our own happiness in life.

Epilogue:

Other cities may imitate Shanghai, but Shanghai will never follow others. Especially us Shanghai women. Blessed people@Shanghai, Shanghai women are the embodiment of perfection?.

Shanghai is a city of immigrants. As long as you recognize Shanghai, Shanghai will accept you. It is said that the sea is open to all rivers, and it is great to be tolerant.