Chen Qiaoen was scolded on the hot search: I am 40 years old and my net worth is over 100 million. What's wrong with falling in love?

Throughout Weibo, the stars announced their love affairs, and fans all blessed them; Only Chen Qiaoen's official statement a few days ago caused endless abuse from fans.

It is common for fans not to like the other half of their idols.

But this time it is so intense because Chen Qiaoen's new boyfriend, Allen, makes people laugh.

Who's Allen?

He is a male guest that Chen Qiaoen met in his daughter's love. His original name was Zeng Weichang, 9 years younger than Chen Qiaoen, Malaysian.

His titles in the program are president of health care products company and amateur painter.

There are two main points that Chen Qiaoen fans are dissatisfied with him:

First of all, I think Allen is dishonest. He created an honest man in the program, lived a healthy life without playing social software, and played golf with the elderly every day.

But in reality, he paid attention to many women's private accounts on INS.

One of the women I often like is not only his golf friend, but also a suspect. They interact quite frequently.

Although Allen later sent a Weibo clarification saying that all he cared about were friends, Chen Qiaoen also forwarded his support.

But in the hearts of fans, Allen's image of "playing ball" cannot be eliminated.

The second is Allen's occupation.

His so-called health care product company PHHP, a Changchun enterprise, was exposed by netizens as a pyramid scheme company.

Although MLM company doesn't break the law in Malaysia, it feels very unreliable to make a fortune by this model.

No wonder some people wonder whether Allen wants to use Chen Qiaoen's reputation to do business.

In addition, Chen Qiaoen has always given the impression that she is an independent career-oriented woman.

Suddenly, Guan Xuan, a man who seems to be faking his career, certainly made her fans extremely unhappy!

What about a good woman with a career? Why did you suddenly become a brain-loving person?

The mood of fans is understandable.

What they broke was real.

However, I don't quite agree. Fans and even netizens laughed at Chen Qiaoen's "love brain" and "hate marriage".

Does choosing a boy who looks worse than himself count as loving the brain? Let's take a look at why Chen Qiaoen chose Allen in this project.

First of all, Chen Qiaoen will meet Allen, not deliberately arranged by the program group, but matched according to her own requirements:

I'm not looking for a colleague, but I hope to find a boy who is far from my job nature.

Besides, Chen Qiaoen doesn't have much demand for economy and appearance.

I'm just saying I like good-looking and enterprising boys.

In fact, Allen is exactly what Chen Qiaoen said. Fans think that Allen is not qualified, but in Chen Qiaoen's mate selection requirements, material is not important at all.

Secondly, although Chen Qiaoen wants to fall in love, she really doesn't just want to date. On the contrary, she hates that love will affect her work.

In one issue, Allen wanted to surprise Chen Qiaoen, so he visited the class, but Chen Qiaoen was not surprised by his arrival, but kept a bad face.

Chen Qiaoen was very unhappy, because she felt that the arrival of Allen had affected her work, and because she thought that the relationship between them had not reached that point, this surprise was a burden for her.

It can be seen that Chen Qiaoen is a rational and opinionated person even when trying to fall in love.

The relationship between Chen Qiaoen and Allen was not love at first sight.

At first, Chen Qiaoen was not particularly moved.

Allen, after all, is an ordinary person, just following the rules, and the chosen activity is an unconventional dating place like the art gallery, so it is inevitable that the two sides will get along with each other in the early days.

However, Chen Qiaoen was particularly generous in finding topics and encouraged others to show themselves.

Later, it was less embarrassing, because Allen, encouraged by Chen Qiaoen, slowly let go.

However, what Allen hit Chen Qiaoen's heart was not the romantic trip mentioned above, but the details of their relationship.

For example, when Chen Qiaoen went to Allen's house, he immediately smiled when he saw that all his gifts were neatly stored in the showcase.

Chen Qiaoen said that he was very moved at that moment. "It's good to be taken care of."

To be honest, after watching the program, I really don't think Chen Qiaoen chose Allen on impulse or because he was afraid of loneliness.

Before making a decision, she did seriously think about whether the two sides were suitable and whether the other side treated the relationship with heart.

As for Chen Qiaoen, why did he still choose an unsatisfactory person after careful consideration?

The reason behind this has a lot to do with Chen Qiaoen's identity and situation.

Young fans don't understand because they don't realize the influence of age on a person's mentality.

If I had asked this question ten years ago, I might have criticized "blind" love like them.

However, now that I am 35 years old, watching a mature woman's courtship program will make it easy for me to substitute myself for Chen Qiaoen. When her father said, "No man really loves her for too long, so she will accept it," tears spilled on the screen.

If this sentence pokes everyone, it is two words.

First, "too long."

Although a lot of chicken soup will tell you that you can meet love at any stage of your life (I believe so myself), the reality is that after 30 years old, there will be fewer and fewer people suitable for falling in love.

Although female stars are rich and beautiful, their dilemma in choosing a spouse is the same as ours.

When Chen Qiaoen was on the show, she revealed that she hadn't been in love for more than five or six years, because her circle of friends was very small and she knew all the actors, but she didn't want to find colleagues.

Excellent As Liu Wen, 3 1 year-old, said in Adventure Life, she is still a maternal solo.

Is it true that no one likes such a beautiful girl?

Of course not.

However, please note that there is a second key word in Chen Qiaoen's father's sentence-"sincerity".

Because of their experience and wealth, their requirements for the other half are actually more spiritual.

They want to understand, they want to be warm.

Therefore, Chen Qiaoen will be moved by Allen's "heartfelt feelings".

It can be seen that the first condition for Chen Qiaoen to choose a partner is that he can feel "warmth" in the relationship.

This request doesn't seem too much.

But in the marriage and love market over 30 years old, it is a scarce product.

30+ mature women want to find someone who can meet their spiritual needs, which is very difficult for men of the same age.

Most of them are either married or exhausted by life and work, and have no leisure to take care of your emotions.

Find someone younger than yourself, with a little difference in experience and conditions. They may really have nothing but sincerity.

You don't know how long their sincerity will last after the dopamine fades.

Or, even more frightening, this sincerity may not be true at all. ...

In such a dilemma, there are fewer and fewer opportunities for love. If you are Chen Qiaoen and meet someone who is likely to be loyal to yourself, will you choose to try?

With Chen Qiaoen's experience and emotional experience, it is impossible for her not to know what her fans are saying.

As for why continue?

I just want to bet that he is the right person within my tolerance.

Moreover, although this gambling love is likely to fail, we should not underestimate the survival wisdom of women because of their age.

Chen Qiaoen, who gave up her family ten years ago because she chose to film in the mainland, will never give up on herself because of a man ten years later.

So many excellent women can't find suitable partners. The problem really doesn't lie in these 40-year-old people who are still waiting for true love.

But our society has never given them enough respect and care.

Why is it unrealistic for older women to find someone to look at? Why do women sacrifice the best opportunity to choose a spouse when fighting for their careers? Why is it difficult for older women to get mature and equal love even if they have wealth, beauty and wisdom?

It is often said in chicken soup that when we become better, we will meet better people.

Ten years ago, I really believed this sentence. I've been working hard, expecting that better person to appear.

But ten years later, I finally understand that this sentence is actually a lie.

Working hard on this matter will always change you. As for that person, he can only have a very low probability until a better world comes.

There is only one way to untie the shackles of women's age in this society:

That is, never measure your value on the scale of the marriage and love market.

Is there love? Are you married?

It has nothing to do with whether we are good or not.

Let efforts belong to efforts, and fate belongs to fate.

Being stronger will only give us the confidence to try when the opportunity comes.

As for whether it is successful?

Really, it depends on luck.

Finally, even those who are richer and more beautiful than us, such as female stars, are not necessarily lucky.

Let's relax.