I am unemployed at the age of 36. Should I take care of my children at home or go to work?

I am also facing the same problem. But after thinking about it carefully, I decided that if there was someone to help take care of the children, I would still go to work.

First of all, in terms of personal character, we struggled to get into college and leave our hometowns to work hard in big cities, just to be independent and self-reliant girls. Taking care of our children at home every day will erase our inner yearnings and forget our original intentions when we set out. Eventually, we will feel unwilling to do so.

Secondly, my family’s financial conditions do not allow me to have no income. I can’t ask my husband for living expenses. Besides, we still have a heavy mortgage to repay, so I can’t ignore the financial accounts. She only cares about her husband and raising her children. When I have no source of income, I feel very panicked, so I feel most at ease relying on myself.

What’s more, I am most confused at the moment and have decided to go to work. But in my 30s, what kind of job can I find? You look down on those with low wages, and look down on you with good pay. It’s annoying to not be good at what you do in your old field, and you don’t have the courage to hope for new fields, let alone the opportunity. Take myself for example, I am engaged in foreign trade. From last year to now, due to the limitations of my own products, trade wars, epidemics and other influences, my business has suddenly dropped sharply, and now I am restless at home every day. I want to try to enter a public institution. Many of my classmates work in hospitals and schools in second-tier cities. I am very envious. But when I opened the official recruitment website of Beijing's public institutions, I shuddered and collapsed instantly. It was too difficult. I took a short break and continued searching.

The above answers seem to be answering questions, but they are actually written for myself. Who puts us in a similar situation? I hope it can be encouraged.

Is your family well off? Are you still beautiful? Can you believe that your husband will love you as much as always? Do you have colorful hobbies? If not, please choose to go to work. .

Children are not the reason why you don’t work. The fact that you are already working and unemployed means that you are qualified to work. Your children may be more independent, or there are elders to help you, so you are not because of your children. No time to go to work.

A child's growth requires the company and dedication of his parents, but he is also an independent individual. As he grows, he needs to become independent and gradually have his own space. He will take exams, work, start a family, You have your own world, that's you. What is your world like? I think we don't like to hear what our elders say, I'm all for you. No matter what, your children won't like to hear it in the future. , and today’s society is full of comparisons, so do children. They also want to have a radiant mother who they can be proud of.

36 years old can be said to be an embarrassing age, but it is not an age that is too late. You can still have your own career at this age. Even if you do not achieve any results, at least you have your own career. Work responsibilities, your work circle, the happiness and satisfaction you feel when you complete your work well are also the source of your self-confidence. When you receive your salary, you will have more courage to buy what you want, and more Be confident.

Don’t make excuses for your laziness. We only live once. Don’t look back on our lives when we are over seventy years old. There are too many regrets, too many regrets, and too many wasted years.

First of all, I think whether you want to work or not depends entirely on personal psychological needs. For example, the highest level of Maslow's need theory is self-worth realization. It depends on what you have thought about. What kind of life, what kind of person do you want your children to become.

Secondly, I think that no matter what, women should have enough time and space, have their own hobbies, do things they like, exercise more, maintain good living habits and peaceful emotions, and often Pay attention to current affairs news, often participate in some growth-oriented social activities, maintain links with society, continue to learn, and keep pace with the times.

I have been a stay-at-home mother for 6 years. During this period, I read a lot of parenting and growth books. I took a self-study undergraduate degree and graduated at the end of this year. Last year, I worked part-time in an educational institution for a year. My children were sent to kindergarten and I worked half-day classes. This did not affect the care of my children and also expanded my horizons. The most important thing is that I am in a better mood, have more topics to communicate with my children, and have learned a lot of social etiquette. I started learning financial management and writing at the end of last year, and have made some gains so far. In September this year, my child entered elementary school. His physical fitness and psychological needs have grown a lot, and he can stay in school during the night. Therefore, I plan to study PPT during the summer vacation, and then find a full-time job to realize my own value. Next year, I plan to apply for a master's degree in educational psychology to realize my ideal. Of course, the Internet era is good for mothers. They can work from home, take care of their children and work at the same time, and they can realize their dreams even if they work hard.

Yang Lan said: "Third-rate mothers serve as nannies, second-rate mothers serve as coaches, and first-rate mothers serve as role models." I strongly agree, keep learning and be an inspirational role model for your children.

Jaspers said: "Education is like a tree shaking a tree, a cloud pushing a cloud, and one soul awakening another soul."

Finally, blessings We accompany our children to meet their better selves. [Heart]

Let me share my real personal experience.

We immigrated to New Zealand in 2014, and I had been working in China for a long time before that. It can be said that she is a typical working woman. Even after giving birth to a child, she only took a 4-month break before reentering the workplace. She has never taken care of her children at home for a long time.

But in a new environment, due to differences in language and culture, the range of career choices is very narrow. In addition, there were no parents around to take care of the children at the time, so there was no way to take care of the children. I stayed there for more than a year.

Although I have children, I have never given up my studies. Language is a very important aspect when looking for a job in a new country. Although I have been working in English before, when it comes to actual life scenes, it is a different story!

In order to greatly improve my language proficiency, I never gave up studying while taking care of my children. It took a long time to study from the beginning of the language training to the graduation of the master's degree.

Since I obtained a New Zealand degree, my job options have become wider and wider. Perhaps because of the lack of labor, the competition in the workplace in China is not as fierce, so even though I am already 35 plus, But age has no influence on finding a job.

Because I have many years of work experience and a local academic qualification from New Zealand, I have already started working in a local school after my children entered primary school!

There are many people who came to this country at the same time as me! Many mothers I knew at that time, due to various reasons, had given birth to their second child and therefore had no time to study. After so many years, they are still raising their children at home!

I can’t say that this kind of life is unhappy, but if you have certain pursuits in your career, then you must make corresponding efforts. I think this whether in China or It is equally applicable in foreign countries. I hope this answer will be helpful to you.

If you have someone to take care of your family and you don’t want to be a housewife, then you should find a job to work, something that can take care of the family at the same time.

First, if you take care of your children at home, you will have no income. How much do you need from your husband every month? What if it’s not enough? If your family is under great financial pressure and seems to be looking for a job more, you can have an additional source of income.

Second, raising children at home makes it easy to lose touch with society. It will be even more difficult to find a job in the future. Some mothers, in order not to lose touch with society, insist on going to work, even if the salary is low. But now that I am unemployed at the age of 36, what kind of job will I look for? It will be a bit embarrassing to start over in a new industry, but you can learn new things, so be embarrassed. You can also go back to your old job. Unemployment is only temporary.

Being at home is also better than being at home. You can have more time to take care of your children and home. It depends on the individual. If you are under great financial pressure, working may be a better choice.

Q: At the age of 36 and unemployed, should I take care of the children at home or go to work?

A: Of course I’m going to work! But if the child is under 3 years old, that is, has not yet entered kindergarten, and there is no one to help take care of the child, it is recommended to work part-time while taking care of the child at home. Even if the salary is very low, you must maintain 5-6 hours of working time every day. .

First of all, the 36-year-old has weak vitality in the workplace. If you leave the workplace at this time, you are likely to be eliminated quickly, especially as you grow older. , personal physical strength, thinking power, and concentration have all been significantly weakened. Compared with young people, older workers are not competitive enough. If they face family changes, they are likely to be in trouble!

Therefore, the only thing we can do well is to keep ourselves deeply involved in the workplace and maintain a sense of professionalism. This alone can save ourselves from decline!

Secondly, work can weaken parents’ control over their children and create more space for children to grow independently. We have seen that most children who are attached to their mothers stay with their children for a long time. Life helps children deal with more things. In fact, this method is not conducive to children developing good habits of doing things on their own. Especially after children go to kindergarten, mothers should learn to let go!

Finally, compared with raising children at home, going to work can make mothers more confident. No matter how good the family conditions are, if the mother does not go to work for a long time, her partner will be "idle every day". "Illusion, even if we know deep down in our hearts that being a stay-at-home mother is not easy and is not understood, but in the eyes of men, a mother who does not work is a dependent.

Even the enviable wealthy wives in front of the screen ultimately hope to prove themselves through their careers rather than increase their status through housework!

So, if you don’t believe in career at the age of 36, don’t be discouraged. Study, read, continue to work, and stay connected with society! This is not only to answer this question, but also to remind yourself to stay professional.

Of course you have to go to work, otherwise when your children grow up, you will be out of touch with society.

Both men and women must have their own careers. In fact, life is like this. You should move forward step by step. Don't be discouraged even if you are unemployed. Then, by stopping, thinking about it, seriously evaluating your professional abilities, and re-planning your future development. At this time, you will find that there are many roads to choose from, and all roads lead to Rome.

Maybe you think that starting your own business is too hard and you may not be able to make money. It is better to find a job steadily without taking such big risks. It is true that starting a business is not an easy thing, but I think the sooner you start a business, the better.

I don’t know if you have noticed that in addition to management and core positions, many companies now prefer to use labor dispatch, personnel outsourcing and other methods for relatively unimportant, replaceable and temporary jobs. Strong labor relations with employees have changed. Under this development trend, we need to re-manage our careers, require lifelong learning, continuously improve our capabilities, establish personal brands, and turn ourselves into indispensable talents. If you can't grow into an irreplaceable core employee of the company as soon as possible and work cautiously, why not become your own boss?

Of course, if you choose to start your own business, it is necessary to do your homework in advance.

First of all, when it comes to project selection, you should choose projects that can give full play to your own advantages, and do it well rather than raw, so as to save time and not waste resources. At the same time, don’t aim too high, but start from small to large.

Secondly, we must consider the issue of resource integration. In the early stage of starting a business, we should start with low-cost operations. We must save whatever expenses can be saved. We must carefully consider whether business planning, market expansion, human resources management, etc. can be used. The power of others lays the foundation for the enterprise.

Furthermore, it is necessary to study the country’s preferential policies to encourage entrepreneurship, such as preferential tax policies for small and micro enterprises, small business financing and loan policies, preferential policies for settling in industrial parks, etc. These are the national policies for entrepreneurial enterprises, especially Supportive policies provided to enterprises in their early stages of entrepreneurship.

Since you are resigned, you should take care of yourself as you come. When I graduated from my undergraduate degree, I was eager to find a job. After working for more than ten years, what I learned has become obsolete and I have forgotten a lot. Although you can also learn and accumulate knowledge at work, it is not systematic. It is better to study for a Ph. D. and comprehensively and systematically supplement some new ideas and new knowledge, which will be beneficial to future entrepreneurship and job hunting. If you feel that academic education is time-consuming, go for short-term training in various skills. For example, participate in skills training in this major to improve your professional level. It’s also good to learn English. The benefits of being proficient in English are certainly not limited to job interviews and earning a high salary. Otherwise, you can learn design, drawing, and writing to stimulate your own creative inspiration.

In the past, there were too few self-study resources, but now the Internet resources are too developed, and there are various online learning projects to choose from. In the past, we felt that the cost of self-study was too high or time was not allowed, and we felt distressed and frightened. Now the Internet economy The cost of learning has been greatly reduced. There are many free courses online, and you can learn knowledge without leaving home or spending very little money. As the old saying goes, having too many skills doesn’t overwhelm the body. Therefore, you should make full use of this time, learn more, fully recharge yourself, and enable yourself to cope with the next career development with your ability and strength.

During the rest period when you temporarily leave your job, you should seriously reflect on your past work and ask yourself why you want to leave? Ask yourself if you love this industry? Ask yourself: "What did you do well in your past work, and what did you do not well enough?" Ask yourself: "If you continue to do this, what is the direction of your efforts?" Ask yourself more questions, Then make a career positioning and evaluation for yourself.

If you regard work experience as a competitive advantage and choose to work deeply in this industry, you should choose positions in the industry with large scale, high positions, generous salaries, and large development space as your first choice for job hunting. However, good positions are not limited to hardware. In addition to the strict requirements, the responsibilities and pressure are also relatively high. During the job search process, you must be fully mentally prepared.

Secondly, you can challenge a certain area in the industry. For example, those with experience in HR third-party services can choose to work as HR in a company as Party A; those with experience in human resources and legal affairs can also choose to work in related positions such as recruitment, salary and benefits, and trainers. Furthermore, those with HR experience can also consider administrative management positions. In fact, some companies do not have particularly detailed job divisions in terms of administrative and logistics management, and some companies may wear multiple hats.

In addition, when applying for a job, you also need to weigh various factors such as company size, personal development space, corporate culture, etc. Whether you can achieve a job promotion depends on opportunities. As long as we have a lifelong learning awareness and learn and accumulate while working, we will definitely achieve extraordinary results in our positions.

First of all, if you stay at home full time, you have no source of income and you have to either spend your capital or rely on your husband to support the family. Can you guarantee that your husband will always recognize and respect your efforts and choices, and affirm your family work?

Secondly, are you a sufficiently self-disciplined and mentally strong person? A housewife's daily job is to provide her husband and children with three meals a day, so it is easy to neglect herself.

Body image management, psychological and emotional control, and self-study and improvement. Can these ensure that my condition is at the same level as when I was working? After all, my husband and children don’t like yellow-faced women and mothers. I think the most important thing is that if your husband and children disappoint you, you still have a job to entrust. If you were at home full-time, what would you entrust yourself to?

Spending time with children after get off work and on weekends is possible, and because time is limited outside of work, it is easier to promote quality companionship.

I have also had such an experience. I was very hesitant at the time. Because of my age, I always felt that life was extremely stressful. But in order to accompany my children, I stayed at home for a whole year. During this period, I would go crazy. I didn’t know what my life would be like if this continued. Many real problems were also faced. My parents were getting older and older. I am older, my child is about to enter kindergarten, and my husband is the only one making money. It is not an easy life these days. If you find a job, you can at least pay for your family's daily expenses.

While I was raising my children, I also bought some books on communication, and occasionally read some. After a year of this, I started looking for a job again. Although it was not very smooth, I finally found one. The job pay and benefits are good.

You can have short-term hesitation, but you must be confident and don't let your age limit your development. Although finding a suitable job may be a challenge, as long as you believe in yourself, you will be able to find a job that suits you.

After spending a year with the child, the child has grown up a lot, becomes cheerful, confident, and understands how to say goodbye.

If family conditions permit, you can stay at home with your children, but if you don’t work inside, it will be very uncomfortable.

If there is someone at home with children, it is recommended that you go to work for the following reasons: 1. With a source of income, financial independence and personality independence; 2. Parents are their children’s best teachers. As a mother, you must establish your own A good example is better than preaching. The mother's positive attitude towards life and open mind will have a subtle influence on the child's life.