What does marriage need to maintain? Marriage needs love and material things.

What does marriage need to maintain 0 1?

There is no love for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason.

Feelings that can last forever need to be grasped by yourself. Otherwise, no matter how good the fate is, we will still miss it.

How long a relationship can last is fixed, which is a cycle.

Some caution when husband and wife get along is the "secret" of emotional preservation. No one can say for sure, but we need to know it carefully.

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First, when happiness comes, feel it with your heart.

I have seen this sentence: "Love has a pair of eyes that know everything."

If you love someone, you will carefully observe his every move and remember him.

Love is beautiful, even a casual word and a look can arouse ripples in my heart.

For example, a man forgot his umbrella when he went out. Near the end of work, it suddenly began to rain. At this time, the woman immediately called the man to remind him that she was going to send an umbrella. Or, the woman asked him to take a taxi home, not to get caught in the rain.

A little care is always touching.

"When you look at a person from different angles, the effect is very different." .

Some people just stare at the painful side and lose all their happiness over time; Some people seek happiness from pain, so the happier they are.

British writer William Ralph Inge once said, "The happiest people seem to be those who are happy for no special reason. They are happy just because they are happy. "

As long as you feel happy, even a simple meal is happy and you don't feel shabby at all.

As long as you observe carefully, a cup of tea, a look, a? Are the shadows of happiness, and can leave beautiful memories.

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Second, the three views are out of date and generous.

There is a question in Zhihu: How long can a marriage with different views last?

In the highly praised answer, there is such a sentence: "The essence of the disagreement between the three views is actually due to lack of money. Or the interests of both sides are inconsistent. So don't carve a boat for a sword. "

We are all familiar with the story of "carving a boat for a sword". A Chu man fell into the water when he was on a boat. He didn't go fishing at once, but made a mark on the boat. When the ship landed, he jumped into the water from the marked place to look for his sword.

The boat will move, but the sword will not move in the water. How can it be compared?

In other words, a person should be good at changing himself.

Everything is not static. If you are stubborn and ask people around you to do things according to your ideas and follow the direction you designed, then you will be disappointed.

Everyone is free and has different pursuits.

Couples who can be happy until they are old have learned to "accommodate". When the three views are inconsistent, one of them shall prevail.

For example, in educating children. The wife advocates sending children to school and not letting them lose at the starting line; The husband resolutely opposes it and thinks that it should be gradual and not encouraged.

Arguing is useless, but "seeking common ground while reserving differences" is useful.

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Third, when arguing endlessly, bow your head and be patient.

Once, my friend and I discussed such a question: What should a husband and wife do if they quarrel?

My friend said, "My wife and I made a rule. If there is a quarrel, the person who bows his head first can have 100. Therefore, we always rush to bow our heads. "

The way friends and wives get along is wonderful, but it is commendable.

When two tigers fight, there must be a wound. Some people bow their heads, which means "combining rigidity with softness", so that angry people can't continue to be angry, thus avoiding mutual harm.

Be a man, just like a sponge, let the other person squeeze you and you won't get hurt; As soon as the other party let go, he immediately returned to his original state.

Be patient with each other, find an "emotional outlet", and the family will always be harmonious; The rift in the quarrel will disappear.

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Fourth, when suffering is imminent, sincerely encourage.

The famous Austrian writer Zweig once said: "It is difficult for a person to cope with the endless suffering in life. Therefore, you need the help of others, and you have to help others yourself. "

A family can't give a difficult problem to one person, but husband and wife can solve it together.

Husband and wife are United, and loess becomes gold. At the critical moment, no one gives up on anyone, no one complains about anyone, and holding hands is strength.

Couples who can grow old together must have experienced ups and downs, and they have never been smooth sailing.

A psychologist said: "The short board effect is also applicable in the family. The quality of intimate relationship is often determined by the person whose intimate relationship is worse in the early years of husband and wife. "

Between husband and wife, whoever is weak will be married with children. If the strong turn a blind eye to the weak, then the strong will not make the family happy.

There was a couple who took out a loan to buy a house together. Later, his wife was seriously ill, and the man looked at his wife in pain and was unwilling to sell the house for treatment.

When the wife is desperate, the marriage is over.

See the truth in the storm. A good couple, even if they have no fixed place all their lives, should walk hand in hand and never give up.

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Fifth, the old pearl and the yellow stone are accompanied by tenderness.

Why do more and more young girls like older uncles?

Many people think that because uncle has a successful career, he is stable and attractive.

In fact, in uncle's body, there is a heart that likes "girls". He hates the yellow-faced woman around him and doesn't want to face the fact of getting old.

A good couple never tires of watching it, and their feelings will get better on the way to old age-I love your white hair, and you love the wrinkles on my face; I see your inner sadness, and you know how helpless I am.

A good couple, through the stormy time, can also watch the long stream of water together.

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There is a line in The Godfather: "The fate of a person who sees the essence in one second is naturally different from that of a person who has spent half his life not seeing the essence of a thing."

People spend their whole lives paying for their own cognition. Whether it's making money, starting a business or falling in love, you just look at the appearance of things and can't grasp them correctly.

Love a person, don't be so superficial, only deep love can last forever.

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The above is about what marriage needs to maintain, and it is about marriage sharing. Seeing that marriage needs love and material things, I hope this will help everyone!