What does a happy marriage depend on?

I think, fundamentally speaking, whether a marriage is happy or not depends on several factors, such as cultural background, values, economic conditions, living habits, personality tendencies and so on.

First of all, about cultural background.

Under the same cultural background, including historical traditions, language exchange, religious beliefs, customs and people's feelings, communication between them is smoother, and it is easier to reach agreement on ideas and viewpoints, so it is easier to achieve tacit understanding and harmony in marriage life. On the contrary, there will be obstacles in communication with each other, and there will be different views on many specific issues. Over time, it will inevitably lead to tension and eventually break down. In real life, there are many reasons for the failure of some transnational marriages, cross-regional marriages and cross-ethnic marriages.

Second, about values.

Men and women with different family backgrounds, different growth experiences and different educational levels have different values. In the love stage, two of a kind's communication between the two sides is limited to pure love, and the difference in values is not obvious. After entering the married life, facing practical problems, such as supporting the elderly, educating children, the relationship between family and career, family consumption, social interaction and so on, the two sides may have completely different views. This kind of disagreement is often difficult to eliminate, and the resulting contradictions are inevitable. Either the war continues or we go our separate ways, so how happy are we?

Third, about economic conditions.

This is also a factor that cannot be ignored. In marriage and family life, income often determines the status and dominance of men and women in the family. For China families, it is the most ideal collocation mode for men to work hard outside and women to take care of the family at home. However, with the change and diversified development of social division of labor, women also have their own jobs, and their income even exceeds that of men. If both sides can't accept this reality correctly, it will lead men to feel "useless" and women will feel that the emergence of men's "cowardice" will eventually affect the emotional development of both sides.

Fourth, about living habits.

Because they come from different families, it is normal for both sides to have different living habits. This difference will bring a lot of inconvenience to married life. Therefore, the two sides should adapt to each other in their living habits, such as work and rest habits and eating habits, and finally form a synchronous state. Otherwise, it will affect the quality of married life and lead to a decline in happiness index.

V. About Personality Tendency

It is better for husband and wife to complement each other, and the strength is the best. If both sides belong to that strong type, if there is a problem and they don't give in to each other, it will certainly hurt each other's feelings. If both sides are cowards and have no ideas when encountering problems, they will also screw things up. In traditional culture, the concept of husband and wife living together is actually reasonable.

Finally, I want to say that the happiness of marriage depends on how much love both parties have. Love is there and happiness is there.