Painting skin and bones is hard to draw heart. Would you like to make friends with someone with a deep heart?

Being honest with others is a friendly way to communicate with others, which represents your trust in others. If you want to establish a good personal file with others. I don't know, but I don't think so. I talk about the cleverness of Guiguzi, but few people use it to sum it up. Many of his disciples were loyal ministers of later generations, such as Zhang Yi, Zhang Yi, Sun Bin and Pang Juan. But why does such a smart person hold a negative opinion on the way to treat people that should be advocated? Then let's analyze it together.

As soon as Zhang Qiang and Wang Li left school, they were recruited and interviewed to work in the same company, because both of them just came out of campus, and they both had a certain atmosphere of students and were about the same age. Because when I first arrived at the company, many of them were old employees. They obviously look contrary to others, and they can't integrate into the circle of old employees for a while, but they are ok and become brothers who talk about everything. Zhang Qiang, in particular, seems to rely heavily on Wang Li. He will tell Wang Li everything, such as being scolded by the leader today and breaking up with his girlfriend yesterday.

Although they work in the same company, they are neither relatives nor for no reason. People who don't know always think that they are brothers. However, in this strong vision, it is true that Wang regards brothers, and there seems to be nothing to share. In Zhang Qiang's view, this is his great concern for this friendship. He feels that only by doing his best can he be called a confidant.

As a holiday, Wang Lijia can't go home in other provinces. Zhang invited Wang Li to his home in the city for dinner. Zhang Qiang's mother also spared no effort to treat Wang Li as her own child, so she had a good weekend. Until after Wang Li, Zhang Qiang's mother told Zhang Qiang to keep a certain distance from Wang Li, because Wang Li did not devote herself wholeheartedly to herself. After my mother's education, I really said that I was sincere about Wang Li, but I didn't know that I didn't know much about Wang Li.

In this way, Zhang Qiang followed his mother's advice, no longer said anything as before, and kept a certain interval, but it didn't help. After a while, Zhang Qiang heard some personal information from himself in the company, and even some embarrassing things scolded by his boss were widely circulated in the company. I asked my colleagues in the company to understand that the fundamental reason is that Wang Li is spreading everywhere. At this time, Zhang Qiang regretted that he was so sincere to others, but he was fooled by others.

Regarding the method of getting along with others, Guiguzi teaches us not only to treat others sincerely, but also to grasp a degree. If you are too kind to others, you may not be able to really grasp others. But I don't know, some people still don't know how to be honest. Is there something wrong? In fact, what is said here is only the limit of sincerity to people. Being sincere to others and telling others everything about yourself, big or small, are two completely different concepts.

There are some things you can tell others, and some things you can't tell others even if they rot in your stomach. Because once you expose everything about yourself, it is easy to be used by serious people. Smart people will not easily express their opinions on other people's opinions, whether right or wrong. You should know that when you first entered the workplace, people who were basically at your level were interested. When you are too simple and think of others too simply, it is inevitable that the loss will outweigh the gain.

Therefore, if you want to gain a foothold in interpersonal communication, you must learn to store some of your own mentality and opinions appropriately. Store your thoughts naturally, not to deceive others. Keep your mouth shut about what you can say, but make sure what you say to others is completely true. It is by no means to take some deceptive methods to better store yourself, and it is also incorrect.