Eight suggestions on how to discipline monkey children

Monkeys are one of the most flexible animals in the jungle. I can't be quiet for a moment, always running around mindlessly. Monkeys are naturally curious, but lack persistence, so they are easily bored with things and will soon look for new things. In terms of temperament, monkey children have a higher dimension of curiosity and excitement, but a lower dimension of persistence. How to discipline monkey children 1 Recognize and praise children's advantages frequently. We live in sunshine and air all day, so we know the function of sunshine and air very well. Just as we all know the sunshine and air around us, mothers spend the longest time with their children, so mothers are also the people who are most familiar with their children's thoughts, feelings, advantages and disadvantages. But many times, just as we don't appreciate sunshine and air, the mother of the monkey child may ignore the advantages of the child. Vigorous, frank, not shy, unexpected and very creative, curious and curious, etc. These may be the advantages that children have. After parents give their children clear instructions, if they work hard, they should be praised. Children's attention is easily distracted, so parents should look their children in the eyes when talking to them, and the instructions should be clear. Respond to the child's behavior in a timely and appropriate manner. As the mother of a monkey child, the response and instructions should be quick and powerful. If the mother is quiet, then the child will feel that the mother's reaction is not strong enough. Mothers who belong to monkey children should take more exercise with their children, and sometimes they need to reprimand their children in a more severe tone. They need to tell their children what to do and what not to do in time, and also tell them their feelings. Of course, mothers can't always nag, but we must know that mothers care about children, which requires timely and appropriate responses to children's behaviors. Make consistent rules and put them into action immediately. Monkey-shaped children are easily attracted by things around them and often make various demands on their parents. Seeing the dazzling array of goods in the large supermarket, I can't help but say curiously, "Mom, what is that?" ? I don't want to take the shopping cart. Can you put me down? ""Mom, I want to eat that dessert. "First of all, before you and your children go shopping, you should explain to them why you went shopping today. Second, when you get to the supermarket, you should clearly tell your children what to do and what not to do, and what rewards will be given if you do well. Third, make it clear to the children what the consequences will be if parents don't want to see the behavior. When a mother makes such rules for her children, she must act immediately. At first, the child may think that his mother is just "scaring" himself, or he may not feel the seriousness of the consequences, or he may still be running around as usual. At this time, my mother will put the agreement into practice. In this way, children can realize the consequences of their actions. For example, if the child doesn't keep the agreement, the mother can warn him once or twice. When the warning is invalid, she will tell the child, "Mom told you clearly before coming to the supermarket, and then told you twice. It seems that you really don't want to keep the agreement. That mother can only take you home as promised now. "After that, the mother should decisively take the children home. In order to make children responsible for their actions, parents should also make appropriate sacrifices, abide by the agreement with practical actions, and set an example for their children. 4. Predict possible situations and make corresponding strategies. As a mother, if we can grasp the child's personality, we can predict the child's behavior more easily. If parents take their children to relatives' homes to play during the Spring Festival, but their children have no playmates at relatives' homes, they will feel bored and complain that their mothers don't play with them. If parents take their children to the amusement park together, the children may inadvertently let go of their mother's hand because of excessive excitement, and they are likely to get lost or get lost. If it is found that children are infatuated with their friends' toys (such as handheld game consoles) recently, and the mother happens to go to the toy store to buy gifts for her nephew, it is best not to take the children with them. After knowing what kind of children their children are, parents should fully consider all kinds of situations and make plans and preparations in advance. Instead of forcing children to be "good children" and "obedient and patient" by tough means, it is better to analyze the situation in advance and take preventive measures. 5 subdivide tasks to help children solve simple small problems independently. Monkey-type children have no patience, are easily agitated when encountering difficulties, and are easy to give up. In fact, whether it is dressing up, doing homework, or having a little awkwardness with friends, children are usually eager to solve the problem immediately. If they can't solve it right away, they will lose their temper and blame their parents, instead of coping calmly. When the child encounters difficulties, it is best for the mother to subdivide the tasks on the basis of understanding the child's personality, so that the child can develop the habit of solving problems bit by bit in order. At the beginning, parents should assign some specific tasks to their children, and then give him time to complete these tasks. 6 insist on communicating with children in time by writing notes. Most monkey children have poor understanding of what others say. In technical terms, this phenomenon is "auditory attention disorder". In other words, children can understand easy conversations, but they can't understand complicated ones, or they can't understand the outlines and details of several things that have been told continuously, and they inadvertently omit or listen selectively. For such a child, if parents want the child to complete a task, they should look him in the eye and tell him only one thing at a time. In addition, one of the ways to overcome "auditory attention disorder" is to provide children with visual materials and instructions that can assist their hearing. In other words, when a child does more than two things at the same time, it is more effective for him to write down what to do first and what to do later on a pad; It is also a good way to put a sign in the children's room. The mother should write down what the child will do every day on the prompt board in advance. For example: ① write Chinese characters; ② Practice English pronunciation; ③ English reading; 4 prepare supplies for the next day at night and so on. Every time a child finishes an item, he erases it. With this process, the child's thinking is also sorted out. 7 finish one thing with your child. Monkey-type children especially like to finish one thing with others. Specifically, monkey children are more willing to finish one thing with the help of their parents. So parents can also use this to let their children grow up. 8 first tell your child two things you can do, and then tell your child one thing you can't do. If the monkey children often hear their parents' "this won't work, that won't work", or their wishes are always unsatisfied, such as wanting to play outside for a while, drawing and other small wishes are often unreasonably rejected by their parents, the children will not take the initiative to find a solution to the problem, but will accumulate anger in their hearts and give up easily. So, before you say "no" to your child, tell your child two things you can do, and then tell your child one thing you can't do.