One-child family, daughter gets married, what should parents do in the future?

One-child family, daughter gets married, what should parents do in the future?

I am born after 60, and the implementation of family planning in Northeast China is relatively in place. The proportion of only children in cities is around 99%. I only have an only child. She's not married, so I'm not worried about her.

With the development of society, people's concept of providing for the aged keeps pace with the times. In the past, the kind of "raising children to prevent old age" and adopting daughters to support the elderly has long since become a thing of the past. Boys and girls are all the same.

As an old man, although he has raised children, the concept of expecting children to provide for the elderly has long changed. Now, in the one-child family, there are the following ways to provide for the elderly:

First, the old people on both sides live together and support each other.

Husband's comrades-in-arms bought his daughter a house of more than 400 square meters and prepared to support the elderly together.

Second, the daughter marries far away and provides for the aged in the same city.

My classmate's daughter works in Dalian, and the old couple also bought a house in her daughter's community, front and back buildings. Colleague, husband's comrade-in-arms, daughter in Changchun, Shenyang, Tianjin, Shenzhen. After the job is stable, she will buy a house for her daughter in advance.

My cousin's daughter is in Wuhan and bought a house for her mother. ...

Third, the daughter of the city should provide for the elderly.

One-child families in the same city, because we prefer boys to girls and don't want bride price, there are many people accompanying the car to accompany the house. Children are better for their parents-in-law.

My colleague's daughter got married, and both families went to their children's house for the New Year. One day at the weekend. She also often travels with her parents.

Under normal circumstances, the parents of the only child will not interfere in their children's lives, and the children can move by themselves and don't like to go to nursing homes.

Fourth, support the elderly and take care of each other.

I know a friend of an elderly group. He has four sisters and his wife has left. Last year, they traveled to Guizhou together. They often travel together at home and abroad. In order not to let my daughter celebrate the New Year, I have to worry about who will celebrate the New Year. They first went to Xiamen in June, but they couldn't rent a house in Weihai. They rented it for half a year to spend the New Year there. You can't go to a nursing home

Fifth, home-based care for the elderly

Many families take home-based care for the elderly, and hire nannies, hourly workers and caregivers when they don't want to cook.

No matter which way of providing for the aged, you must first have a large reserve. This is also the advantage of raising an only child. Because most of us have pensions and a small amount of reserves. Parents of both sides work together to create a happy family for their children. And pay for taking care of grandchildren. Therefore, you can spend your old age safely without dragging your children down. ...

I only have one daughter, and now I am married. My husband's home is in Dalian, and we are in Qiqihar! Two children work in Dalian, my wife has retired, and I still have one year to retire! This also immediately involves the question of what to do in the future!

After communicating with our daughter and son-in-law, we also bought a house in Dalian, not far from our children! Daughter-in-law means that I will live with them in Dalian when I retire! But to be honest, we don't want to live with children! A lot of inconvenience, so we bought a house! Although it's a little farther than a bowl of soup, it's a half-hour walk, which is quite good!

When we are in good health, we can help them take care of their children, get together for dinner in three days, and then go back to their homes in the evening.

Especially now, with the growth of age, the body is getting worse and worse, which is convenient for getting close to children. If something happens, the child will take care of it nearby, so as not to worry about having the strength to do it!

As for whether to hire a nanny or go to a nursing home if you really can't walk, let's talk about it later! They have to work, live and raise children! It is really unrealistic for two children to take care of the elderly on both sides!

Everyone wants their children to be filial and stay with them! But the reality is really helpless in front of us! Step by step!

As the saying goes: firecrackers ring, children are raised for nothing!

I think: parents of one-child families should not have too much hope for their children to provide for the elderly. The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment!

Cultivate children into adults and talents, thank God that they are not old, Amitabha!

It is possible to provide for the aged: by falling down every day, by sinking into the ground, by leaning against the mountain and by drying the sea!

Instead of relying on the government and children, it is better to rely on your wife and the old couple! It is better to rely on others than on yourself, and it is better to help yourself!

As the saying goes, a good son is not as good as a wife, and a good daughter is not as good as a son-in-law. Children who marry far away are not as good as neighbors: distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and close neighbors are not as good as opposite!

If the only children are married, working and living in their hometown and have their own small families, parents should not expect them to die of old age and wish them a happy life! I wish them a hundred years later, their children can honor their parents and give them a pension!

Parents of only children should not give their property and money to their children too early. The old couple had better leave a way out for both sides. In case the children are unfilial and don't give up providing for the aged, they still have real estate and money in their hands. The old couple can also provide housing and money for the elderly.

In other words: the house was transferred to the child and the money department was given to the child. Even if the children have filial piety to support their parents, what if the daughter-in-law is unfilial? Son, daughter-in-law and son-in-law are ungrateful baiwenhang. What should you do? How to support the elderly without a room ticket? Daydream: the government stipulates that only five-guarantee households without children can be adopted by the state free of charge!

It seems that sometimes, we try to make money and raise children. When you are old, you still can't raise children to prevent old age. The consequences of getting old are not as good as the five-guarantee households without children, alas! What a world this is!

To sum up, I have a hunch that if the adopted children can't support the elderly, who will spend money and effort to have children in the future? Who is willing to give birth to the motherland with 5,000 years of civilization? If the number of inheritors decreases year by year or in a cliff-like way, it is not as simple as raising children to prevent old age and carrying on the family line. Possibly, it threatens the national security, the national population security, the national territory is unguarded and so on! Personally, I think.

One-child family, daughter gets married, what should parents do in the future? You mentioned that this problem involves thousands of families. At present, there are many one-child families, and the state has also issued a series of corresponding policies to help the elderly in the one-child families provide for the elderly.

Judging from the actual pension market of the elderly, it is mainly to rely on individuals to accumulate pensions and go to nursing homes for the elderly. The state provides minimum security for urban and rural residents who have no jobs or social security. Basically, you don't need much money for your children to support the elderly, and you don't have to worry too much.

First, it is mainly that individuals accumulate old-age care; In the future, the old people's pension mainly depends on the accumulation from middle age, so as to provide for the future. Usually, you can't spend all your money. Your rich children are still around you and proud of you. Really, when you have no money, your children will stay away from you. At present, people's pension owners rely on their own pensions and the money they usually accumulate to support the elderly, and basically do not ask their children for money. At this time, your child is also at a critical moment? How about training children to find a wife in the college entrance examination? This is the most difficult period in their lives.

The second is to support the elderly in nursing homes; For a family without a son, a married daughter can't always come back to accompany you. Generally, people who are around 70 years old go to nursing homes, where they are not lonely and can play cards, chess and chat. Many old people talk about the past and what's going on in the world together without much trouble, which reduces their troubles. They are in a good mood and are not worried about food. They often exercise and live a long and healthy life.

Third, the state grants 300 500 yuan/month pension subsidies to urban and rural residents who have no jobs or social security, so as to reduce the financial burden of the elderly and the burden of the daughters of the only-child families. For the elderly who have jobs, wages and pensions, their wages and pensions can basically meet the needs of the elderly, and they don't need much money from their children, so they need their children to visit their parents more, so that they can be satisfied.

In short, the one-child family, the daughter is outside, and the old couple are a little lonely. Daughters and sons-in-law should take more time to go home to visit their parents and help the elderly bring some delicious food. They can't go home empty-handed They can't just talk about the key points. They should take action, care about the elderly's food, clothing, housing and transportation, and don't let them be lonely. They should play with the elderly regularly, meet the outside world and make them happy. If their children can do this, the old people will be satisfied.

It's not just about the only daughter.

Due to the restriction of the one-child family planning policy in previous years, many one-child families, both daughters and sons, will face great pressure in the future. According to the existing laws and regulations, it is their unshirkable responsibility and obligation to support their parents, whether they are daughters or sons. Even if a daughter is married, it does not mean that she has divorced her parents, and the responsibility and obligation of support will not disappear because of marriage. There is no problem in this regard. The problem is that both sons and daughters will face great pressure to support the four elderly people. If the elderly have pension or endowment insurance, that's ok. If the elderly have neither pension nor pension insurance, and their children have no ideal job and rich income, the difficulty of providing for the elderly can be imagined.

How to solve this problem? A single person does have difficulties; It is unrealistic to rely entirely on the state. In my opinion, it is necessary for individuals and countries to work together. On the one hand, as an old man, we should have foresight and self-reliance and make preparations for our retirement as soon as possible. You can't pin your hopes for old-age care on your children or the country too early, and muddle along. When you are young and strong, you should work hard and earn more money. In addition to paying the pension insurance in full and on time, accumulate a certain amount of pension money. As children, we should try our best to be filial. When the elderly can't take care of themselves due to physical reasons, they should have a sense of urgency, make plans early, buy old-age insurance for them in time, provide necessary support and help, relieve the pressure of old-age care as soon as possible, and avoid being at a loss and getting into trouble after arriving at Cui Zi. As a country, we should pay attention to the problem of providing for the aged in the one-child family, give some support and help, and appropriately distribute the old-age subsidies. Because these old people actively responded to the call of the government, shared their worries for the country, consciously chose the one-child policy and took the initiative to take birth control measures. They are model practitioners of the basic national policy. When they have difficulties in their later years, the government should help them, and don't be chilling. Only in this way can we win the trust of the people and ensure the smooth implementation of the party's line, principles and policies.

As long as the above three parties shoulder their respective responsibilities and work together, the problem of providing for the elderly with only children will be properly solved and provided with a sense of security. Don't worry about this, I believe that the country must have the means and ability to solve this problem. May all the old people have a sense of security and happiness!

The daughter of the one-child family got married. Economically speaking, providing for the aged is not a problem. Most of the two old people have pensions. The focus of the problem is that the daughter is married and no one takes care of the two old people. This situation is divided into several aspects. First, the same one-child family, the man also has the same problem. If the man is also an only-child family, he also faces the problem of providing for the aged. Some people will suggest that the man can live with his wife and parents. Similarly, a woman can live with her husband and parents. This phenomenon is quite common. No matter which parent you live with, you cannot abandon the care of the other parent. A couple have to take care of four old people, but they can't.

Second, reality. In fact, in reality, whether it is a one-child family or a multi-child family, few children live with their parents, unless there are some filial children or neets. Two generations live together, and because of their different living habits and ways of doing things, conflicts will inevitably arise after a long time.

Based on the above situation, it is unrealistic to rely on children to take care of the elderly. How to solve the problem of parents' support for the elderly in the one-child family?

The key problem is to save some pension money in hand, and the problem of pension can be solved with money. First, go to a nursing home. At present, nursing homes have no welfare attributes, and most of them are social nursing homes. Although the state has support in land and taxes, the investment and salary of nursing homes must be supported by people who enter nursing homes. So now nursing homes are charged. If you have money, want to live a collective life in a nursing home, want someone to take care of you, and think that in case of an accident, a nursing home is a better choice.

Second, hire a nanny. This is also a way of providing for the aged. Ask the nanny to do housework and take care of yourself. However, the nanny fee is relatively expensive, and the third-and fourth-tier cities generally cost 4,000 yuan a month.

About, if you are a retired worker, your one-month pension will be given to the nanny. If both old people are alive, that's fine. One person's pension is used to pay the nanny's salary, and the other person's pension is zero. If you are alone, unless you still have money in your hand. Therefore, if you are rich, you will not panic when you are old.

Third, if you can't bear to use the abacus of money, you can only support the elderly by yourself and live one day at a time. If you are ill, you have to arrange for your children to take care of you. If you are not sick, you are lucky. Enjoy your old age.

When the national policy was implemented, their parents both stepped into the ranks of the elderly and were fine in the same city. If the husband and wife come from two cities, their parents' pension problem really makes them want to cry. Let me give you an example:

Ms. Huang from Huangshan, Anhui Province, was admitted to Zhejiang University with excellent results fifteen years ago. After graduation, she worked in Hangzhou, got married, got married and had children, and a foreigner was completely integrated into Hangzhou.

In recent years, her parents' pension problems have made her want to cry. She is an only child with working-class parents. Their retirement wages add up to 8000 yuan. Her parents, who are nearly 80 years old, are increasingly unable to take care of themselves.

She tried many methods, but all to no avail. 1. Hire a nanny: In Anhui, the salary of a live-in nanny is nearly 5,000 yuan, and parents do not have much savings, so they are rejected. 2. Hire hourly workers: They can only solve the problem of three meals a day. 3. Going to the nursing home: The per capita cost of the nursing home is 2,000 yuan, and the price is reasonable. There are doctors, chaperones and canteens, and all aspects can meet the requirements. Now relatives must be on call within 24 hours, which is stuck. 4. Take your parents to Hangzhou: Private nursing homes are expensive and unbearable. It's no use calling the hotline to ask the municipal government for help. She really wants to cry.

We understand Ms. Huang's pain. She has her own job, children and family in Hangzhou, and she has to pay back nearly 4,000 yuan in mortgage every month. She is indispensable at home and abroad. If she goes back to take care of her parents, her husband's salary will certainly be difficult to cope with all this.

She is depressed, she is helpless, and she doesn't know how to solve her parents' pension problem. Thanks for your support. What do you think after reading this topic? You are welcome to express your opinions in the comments section. [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] [Rose]

After retirement, if conditions permit, the old couple can go to the city where their daughter lives and buy a house near their aunt's house, which is convenient for them to take care of each other. When nothing happens, the elderly can help with the children, and if the elderly are sick and have difficulties, the daughter can also take care of them.

The only daughter and the only boy are only children! The only child is male and female. Daughter is better, and it is better to raise' old'. Now, as you can see, those who gave birth to only children have a very good life in their later years. Times have changed, boys and girls are all the same, and they are all inheritors. Girls are all married and married. And some boys are worried that they can't get home. Enlarge your heart, have a good daughter and be healthy, which is the real blessing of people.

Today's sons are all antiques. How many sons have you seen "supporting the elderly"?

If you don't have the money to give your son a bride price and buy a house, do you want to wait for your son to support the elderly? Dream on!