How to deal with the gap between colleagues

It is easiest for colleagues to form an interest relationship. If we can't treat some small things correctly, it is easy to form a gully. In daily communication, we might as well pay attention to several aspects to establish a harmonious relationship with colleagues.

Focus on the overall situation, make up more and dismantle less.

If you don't point out your colleagues' shortcomings in person on weekdays, it is easy to criticize, find fault or even attack your colleagues when you are in contact with people from other units, which will affect your colleagues' external image and damage your own image in the long run. Colleagues who come together because of their working relationship must have a collective consciousness, focus on the overall situation and form a community of interests. Especially in contact with people from other units, we should form the concept of "team image", make up more and tear down less, and don't harm the collective interests for our own small interests. It is best to "wash your dirty linen in public".

When dealing with differences, we should seek common ground while reserving differences.

Because of different experiences and positions, colleagues often have different views on the same issue, which leads to some disputes, and it is easy to hurt feelings if they are not careful. So, when you disagree with your colleagues, first, don't argue too much. Objectively speaking, it takes a process for people to accept new ideas, and subjectively, it is often accompanied by the psychology of "saving face" and "competing for strength", and it is difficult for anyone to convince the other party. At this time, if there are too many arguments, it will easily intensify contradictions and affect unity; Second, don't blindly "value harmony". Even when it comes to principles, we don't insist or argue, but go with the flow and deliberately cover up contradictions. In the face of problems, especially when differences arise, we should try our best to find common ground and seek common ground while reserving differences. If we really can't reach an agreement, we might as well deal with it coldly and say, "I can't accept your point of view, and I reserve my opinion", which will dilute the argument without losing our own position.

Treat promotion and utilitarianism with a normal heart, and don't be jealous.

Many colleagues are usually affable, but when they encounter conflicts of interest, they will be "mercenary". Or talk to each other behind their backs, or be jealous and sarcastic. This is not aboveboard, and it is not good for yourself and others. Therefore, we should always keep a normal heart when dealing with the issues of promotion and utility.

Keep an appropriate distance when interacting with colleagues and superiors.

In a unit, if several people communicate too frequently, it is easy to form a superficial circle, which is easy to make other colleagues doubt and make people feel "are you talking about other people's right and wrong again?" Therefore, when interacting with superiors and colleagues, we should keep a proper distance to avoid forming small circles.

Be tolerant and learn to apologize when encountering contradictions.

There are often some bumps between colleagues, and if they are not handled in time, great contradictions will be formed. As the saying goes, friends should make up instead of getting married. When you have conflicts with your colleagues, you should be patient, find the reasons from yourself, put yourself in other's shoes and think more to avoid the intensification of conflicts. If you have formed a contradiction and you are really wrong, you should put down your face, learn to apologize and be sincere and touching. To take a step back, if one party breaks the deadlock on its own initiative, it will find that there is not much difference between the two.

Have the skills to get along with colleagues in the workplace.

As the saying goes, a hero has three gangs. People in China generally agree with the truth that "we depend on our parents at home and our friends when we go out" and "many friends are easy to walk, but many friends are many". However, this principle seems "unworkable" in the modern white-collar workplace.

According to a recent survey released by Zhaopin.com, nearly two adults in Shanghai white-collar workers frankly admit that they have no real friends in the workplace and they don't want to be friends with colleagues. They believe that the workplace is like a battlefield, and colleagues are competitors. Being friends with colleagues can only plant a time bomb for yourself, because he or she knows your shortcomings and even holds your "handle".

Can colleagues really not be friends?

Dr. Lin from the School of Psychology of Beijing Normal University thinks it is very necessary to make friends with colleagues. Office workers spend most of their time with colleagues and have little chance to make friends with people other than colleagues. If you don't make friends with colleagues around you, you can't talk about your troubles and relieve your stress in time. Anxiety and stress accumulate in the heart day after day, which is extremely unfavorable to physical and mental health. In fact, colleagues, like you, are ordinary people with flesh and blood and feelings. As long as you get along with them in a sincere way, you can become friends. Of course, colleagues and friends are, after all, friends in a specific environment, which is different from friends in the ordinary sense. Compared with ordinary friends, the relationship between colleagues and friends is often cooperation and competition, and there are often conflicts of interest. Therefore, it takes some skills to deal with the relationship with colleagues and friends. The following points are worth noting:

First, since there is competition among colleagues, there must be good jobs and bad jobs. It is completely understandable that the party who is not doing well enough or worse is temporarily psychologically unbalanced. A well-done party must take care of the other party's delicate psychology, pay attention to lowering its posture in front of the other party, and try its best to help the other party improve its business level. Don't be arrogant and create more excitement for each other.

Second, to get along with ordinary friends, we should keep a proper distance, and to get along with colleagues and friends, we must have a "sense of distance". Try not to complain about the unit leaders and blame other colleagues in front of colleagues. If you can't hold your breath for a while, you have to complain and criticize a few words to calm down, and you should pay attention to the way you speak.

It is impossible and unnecessary to advocate making friends with colleagues instead of making intimate friends with all colleagues in the whole unit. We can make intimate friends selectively in the small circle of the unit. When you first arrive at a certain unit, you should carefully observe every colleague around you. When you find colleagues who have more in common, you can take the initiative to approach them and develop into bosom friends with them. Other colleagues should not be classified as dissidents, and should strive to maintain good relations with colleagues.

Six great arts of getting along with colleagues

As a young white-collar worker, even if he doesn't work overtime, he can spend eight hours with a group of colleagues every day, and then problems arise: affection, friendship of friends and love of lovers, but the relationship with colleagues is very complicated. How to deal with this relationship, here are some tips for you:

1, the first step in getting along with colleagues is equality. No matter you are a first-class veteran of vocational high school or a recent novice, you must absolutely abandon the unequal relationship. Arrogance or inferiority is a taboo for colleagues to get along with.

A harmonious relationship with colleagues is beneficial to your work. You might as well regard your colleagues as partners at work and friends in life. Don't keep a straight face in the office, which will make people think that you are conceited and disdainful of living with others.

3. In the face of common work, especially when it comes to issues such as promotion and salary increase, the relationship between colleagues will become particularly fragile. At this point, you should put aside your distractions, concentrate on your work, and don't play tricks, but never give up the opportunity to compete fairly with your colleagues.

When you are struggling to get along with your boss and colleagues, I don't know that your boss or colleagues may be anxious about it. Learn to be sincere when you get along. When you encounter a problem, you should first put yourself in the other person's shoes, so that disputes can often be annihilated in the cradle.

5. There must be gentlemen and villains in the world, so what we call sincerity does not mean to tell the whole story without reservation. Especially for colleagues who don't know each other very well, it's best to have some reservations and don't tell each other all your private lives.

Finally, I want to remind you that the highest level of getting along with colleagues is to always treat others as good people, but always remember that not everyone can be good people.