Money can't get into Shanghai International School, and her son cries and refuses to study. Yang Lele shows inferiority. what do you think?

On June 9th, 2065438+0165438+10, Yang Lele gave birth to her son Jiang Mumu Jr., and later she vowed to be a good mother. Two months after giving birth, Yang Lele insisted on going to work again. While working in Shanghai, she heard a phone call from the nanny, saying that her son was going to Xue. At that moment, she gradually collapsed and her son was alone. After that, Yang Lele decided to move his working hours to his home. She wants to wait for her son to grow up full time.

In this involution period, everyone is constantly galloping forward. Yang Lele is no exception, seeing his son reach the age of 6, that is, the age to enter school. Yang Lele made a decision, and she moved from Changsha to Shanghai. When Yang Lele moved to Shanghai a year earlier, he had his own overall plan. The first is to understand the natural environment and integrate my son into the daily life of colleges and universities.

Unexpectedly, it hit her hard. In Shanghai, a big city, reading is not easy. There are three options for studying in Shanghai: public schools, international schools and private universities. Let's start with public schools. You must have a household registration to enter. If you don't have a household registration, you need a temporary residence permit, and you also stipulate various mandatory standards such as five-year social security. To attend an international school in Shanghai, you must have an international passport and visa.

Therefore, Yang Lele only reported his son's private colleges and universities in Shanghai, where the teaching resources are the best and the environment is very strong. Sign up for 8 classes for my 6-year-old son. In private primary schools in Shanghai, they will acquiesce that you are a freshman in grade one, and your English has reached the level of grade four or five. Private primary schools must have a recruitment interview, and there will be an exam in the recruitment interview, which is to write a simple English essay.

If you can't write a small English composition, it means that your child can't even touch the door of job interview. In order to better let children develop in all aspects, they can smoothly integrate into Shanghai's cultural and educational natural environment. Yang Lele enrolled his 6-year-old son in 8 classes, majoring in sports culture and art, swimming, taekwondo, basketball, programming, social science, painting and songs, plus Chinese, mathematics and English.

After signing up for this class, Yang Lele was safe and relieved in an instant. She thinks her children can catch up with other children. But the 6-year-old son cried and didn't want to learn. Yang Lele gave his son chicken blood every day to study and train, and the trip was assigned to full. Son doesn't even have time to play. That's it. Three months later, the 6-year-old finally collapsed. He doesn't want to wake up, cry and roll around, and he doesn't want to study. The 6-year-old son cried and asked his mother Yang Lele: Can you give me a day off?

This sentence shocked Yang Lele's heart, and she was in tears at the same time. Clever as Yang Lele, why doesn't she know that a 6-year-old child is naturally fond of playing? She often makes her son feel insecure in fact or deep down. Yang Lele forced his son at the same time, in fact, he was also pushing himself. She always looks forward to ensuring the best. In Yang Lele's circle, there are also a large number of excellent children, and she certainly expects her son to shine.

As a stay-at-home mother, there is another connection. Yang Lele must let his son prove his excellence. Since I grew up with you full-time, you must be excellent. She can't let her son lose to others, which is also her strength. A son is not good, that is, he is not diligent enough to be a mother, and he is not good enough. It is the powerlessness of stay-at-home mothers. Yang Lele's anxiety is lack of self-confidence. He should deal with his son's crying, noisy and refusal, plus the guidance of his son's director. Yang Lele quickly adjusted his mental state. She didn't expect to have a talented but unhappy child.

Three months later, Yang Lele fled from Shanghai to Changsha in frustration. Yang Lele also admitted that he was in a hurry. Behind anxiety is actually self-distrust. She has always wanted to do well, forcing her son, but she is actually forcing herself. This is the sorrow of a stay-at-home mother and an outstanding woman with a successful career. After giving birth to a child, she has only one real identity, and that is her mother. Since then, her daily life has closely revolved around her son.

As a mother, you don't have to invest in 100% parenting education, give up being an "extreme" mother, and stipulate that you can only guarantee 60-80% "good". Spend 20-40% of the saved time on yourself. Women's extreme self-regulation is a kind of self-squeezing and contempt, which will destroy their sense of self-worth and satisfaction rate. Yang Lele, whose name is Happy, is not happy. what do you think? Welcome to leave a comment and tell me your unique opinion.