What is happiness?

In psychology, sustained happiness is called happiness, which is different from temporary happiness. Whether you are happy or not depends on how long your happiness lasts.

The person who asked this question has actually discovered the secret of living happily:

Some happiness can last, and some happiness cannot last.

1. Happiness has levels.

When you eat a delicious snack, you are very happy and beautiful at that moment. But this kind of happiness can only last for a short while, and it may disappear if you eat a few more pieces.

But if you are pursuing the happiness of family relationships between relatives, the happiness of seeking knowledge, the happiness of achievement of being an indispensable main force in the team, and the happiness of value of career success, maybe your happiness will last. For a long time, even throughout a lifetime.

The hierarchy of human needs is divided into five categories: physiological needs, safety needs, love and belonging needs, esteem needs, and self-actualization needs.

With the upgrading of each need level, it becomes more and more difficult to satisfy, but as the level of needs increases, the feeling of happiness gained after realization becomes more and more lasting.

2. Find the source of happiness.

If we want to maintain a continuous feeling of happiness, then we must find the source of inner happiness. Everyone has a source of happiness, and we need to tap it instead of just getting a glass of water.

Each of us has a "spring" of truth, goodness and beauty. By opening up this spring, we can open the "well" of inner happiness. In this way, you can taste it all the time and feel "I am needed", "I am cared for" and "I am valuable".

To find the location of the "spring", you first need to identify your level of needs. Which level are you at now? How long-lasting is your current satisfied happiness? What level should we reach to have a more lasting sense of happiness? Layers will give you direction.

3. Do meaningful things rather than simple things, and don’t deliberately avoid frustration and pain in the process.

The emotion of happiness is like spring water, which needs to be dredged before it can continue to flow out.

The key to opening the fountain of happiness is "gratitude". Gratitude is not an external evaluation of "what should I do", "what should you do", "this is reasonable", "that is right".

Gratitude should be an internal cognition, an emotional experience, a sense of existence arising from the heart, and a sense of self-identity and value. Once this feeling occurs, it will take root in your heart.

How can we cultivate this emotional experience of “gratitude”?

We need to find our own level, gain our own sense of value, and find the meaning of life, so that we can experience sustained happiness.

All lasting happiness is spiritual. Material happiness is only temporary pleasure. Once you find the source of your consistent happiness, you understand the ultimate meaning of life.

The meaning itself is sometimes painful and sometimes uncomfortable, but it is joyful and happy at the same time. So happiness does not mean comfort.

Care and be loved, find like-minded people, so you have love and belonging; help and be altruistic, others benefit from your actions, so you gain a sense of need and value; do If you insist on realizing what you think is right in your heart with a lifetime of actions, you will have a strong sense of self-realization and ultimately achieve the meaning of life.

Find your own place, be grateful, and pursue meaning, and happiness will come naturally and last forever.

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