Is it inevitable to encounter setbacks in life?

when encountering setbacks, we often give up our efforts quickly and stop trying, and the reasons why we stop trying are usually insufficient. We often say: this is impossible. Or, "I can't change myself." In fact, we can change.

In psychology, frustration refers to a complex emotional state when a person is engaged in purposeful activities and encounters various obstacles and interferences in the environment that cause his motivation to be unsatisfied.

Frustration makes people feel a sense of frustration-a negative emotional state, which some people call "psychological stagnation". This state can sometimes cause very serious or even irreparable consequences. And this kind of consequence could have been avoided.

In an open recruitment of senior management talents in a famous Japanese enterprise, such a thing happened: a college graduate with excellent grades and full of confidence in the future committed suicide because he was not admitted.

three days later, the recruitment ended. When the person in charge of the enterprise inquired about the information compiled by the computer, he unexpectedly found that the candidate who committed suicide was actually the best, and it was only because of the computer error that he was dropped from the list.

this is indeed an unfortunate event that people deeply regret. What is even more thought-provoking is what the person in charge of the enterprise said after the truth came out: "I am deeply sorry for the computer operation error and feel sorry for the misfortune of this college student." But from the enterprise's point of view, I am grateful for this incident and this special exam. I am glad for my company. "

what he said makes sense. People who can't deal with setbacks correctly can't do many normal jobs; People who can't overcome frustration can never be successful in their careers.

everyone, even in the most ordinary daily life, will encounter all kinds of setbacks, some of which are short-lived, while others are long-term; Some are more serious, while others are less serious. People react differently when they encounter setbacks. Some people will challenge setbacks and persevere to overcome them; Others are often depressed or even have a nervous breakdown.

Different attitudes and different reactions are actually differences in frustration tolerance among individuals.

Frustration tolerance refers to an individual's ability to avoid mental disorders when encountering setbacks, and refers to an individual's ability to withstand blows or setbacks. Being able to endure setbacks and have good adaptability to maintain normal psychological activities is a sign of mental health and one of the important psychological qualities that a successful person must have.

frustration is not equal to failure. Failure can still be transformed into success, not to mention those temporary setbacks that may happen at any time.

Napoleon Hill, a famous successful scientist, once explained failure and frustration like this:

Here, let's explain the difference between "failure" and "temporary frustration" first. Let's see if what is often regarded as "failure" is actually just a "temporary setback".

Sometimes, I even think that this temporary setback is actually a kind of luck, because it will cheer us up, make us adjust the direction of our efforts, and make us move in a different but more correct or better direction.

Thus, if a person can have a correct view of frustration, frustration is not only a bad thing, but also a positive psychological motivation. It can increase a person's ability to solve problems and guide a person to achieve goals in a better way or a better way.

It is setbacks that inspire one's courage to challenge oneself.

once this inner impulse to challenge yourself is turned into action, no setback in the world will make you yield.

Let's take a look at the frustration of a famous American:

21 years old-business failure;

22 years old-running for parliament and losing;

23 years old-business failed again;

26 years old-the lover died;

27 years old-nervous breakdown;

34 years old-losing the election for the Federal House of Representatives;

36 years old-running for the Federal House of Representatives and losing again;

47 years old-nominated vice president lost;

49 years old-lost the election for the Federal House of Representatives for three times.

Maybe you don't believe it, this man who has experienced numerous setbacks is Abraham Lincoln, the 16th president of the United States.

Repeated setbacks have not discouraged him, but inspired his confidence and courage to challenge himself and realize his ambition. Finally, at the age of 52, he ascended the presidency.

For a successful person, encountering setbacks is the right time for him to challenge himself.

He wants to challenge cowardice and turn cowardice into fearlessness. If he can't overcome cowardice, he can't continue on the road to success.

he wants to challenge misfortune and turn it into luck. For a person with a positive attitude, there are hidden seeds of luck in every misfortune.

He will challenge all kinds of problems he faces, because the problems already contain the solutions.

he wants to challenge poverty and turn it into wealth. A man who works hard will not be poor forever, at least mentally, he will not bow to poverty.

He wants to challenge the difficulties, because he knows that every difficulty in life is a test of a person's ability to overcome them.

He wants to challenge everything he is dissatisfied with, change his destiny and change his world in the challenge.

the more sinister the environment, the more powerful it is.

Only the strong can survive in hardships and setbacks, have the courage to meet difficult challenges, and have the perseverance to overcome adversity and achieve new success.

Dr. Shuler, a famous American TV presenter, once gave a very interesting example:

Farmers in Iowa make a living by planting potatoes. Every year, they are used to dividing the harvested potatoes into three categories according to their volume, and then packaging them separately and selling them at different prices. Classified packaging takes up a lot of their energy and time.

But there is a farmer who never does this. He has the highest income among local farmers.

One day, one of his neighbors couldn't help asking him, "Why don't you ever classify potatoes?" He replied: "In fact, the reason is very simple. I just loaded all the potatoes into the car and drove the car to the most rugged road. After 8 miles of mountain bumps, small potatoes will naturally slide down and around, while larger and medium-sized potatoes will naturally stay in the upper layer and center. "

This truth is not only suitable for potatoes, but also enlightens people: rugged life path and difficult environment often make a strong person fully reflect their own existence value.