What to do if you are overloaded at work and under psychological pressure?

Teacher Yang: Hello! My wife is 30 years old this year and is an obstetrician and gynecologist. Because their hospital is quite busy and the doctor has to work night shift every 4 or 5 days, she often can't sleep all night. My wife is now very afraid of going to work, because she has to face a lot of patients when she goes to work, and there are few people in her department, because most obstetricians and gynecologists are women, and they are about 30 years old when they are pregnant and about to give birth. So there are fewer people going to work, and basically everyone working now is overloaded, so my wife has become very anxious now. Every time she comes home at night, she can’t sleep when she thinks about how busy she will be the next day. My wife is very impatient. This is the characteristic of their obstetricians and gynecologists. Because it is related to the patient's life, all of them are hot-tempered and impatient. It is precisely because of the heavy workload and, most importantly, the high mental pressure, because the patient's life and the child's life are entrusted to them during delivery. Because of you, the mental pressure is still quite high. I think this is a serious problem faced by doctors. I’ve seen online that some doctors committed suicide because they couldn’t bear the mental pressure. My wife had two miscarriages this year due to physical reasons, so she might be emotionally moved by the sight of a pregnant woman with a big belly, feel sad, and become angry when she gets home. She often loses her temper at me, and I don’t know how to comfort her or relieve her of this pressure! Because I am an introvert, it is useless to say some comforting words to her. It seems useless for me to influence her by changing myself to be more sunny and cheerful, because when she loses her temper, I feel very troubled and can't talk about it. She knows something is wrong, so she doesn’t know how to control it. She is easily anxious. She really wants to see a psychiatrist. We are in Wuxi and don’t know where to find one, so I asked Teacher Yang for advice. Teach me what to do and give my wife some pointers. I will also show my wife your reply. This friend: Hello! I understand very well the working environment and the psychological pressure your wife is under, and I am very willing to work with you to discuss the issues you have raised. As your wife, the first thing you need to make clear is: work is part of life, not the whole of life, so we should not live just for work. In other words, it is necessary to work hard, but we cannot regard work as the only focus of life. After all, we have family, health, friends and soul that are more important than work, so we must treat it with a normal mind. When working, do not impose harsh requirements on yourself at work, nor add unnecessary pressure to yourself. The sky is cloudy, sunny, rainy and snowy, people have joys and sorrows, and everything cannot be perfect or flawless, so there is beauty with imperfections, twists and turns, etc. Therefore, we may face obstacles, setbacks, and even unexpected mistakes every day. Of course, when we try our best, we cannot be too demanding on ourselves. The results of being demanding on ourselves will only make us feel disappointed, failed, and lose confidence. Secondly, you should treat the situation you are facing with a normal mind, let it take its course, and don't think too much about the situation you are facing. At the same time, try to talk about the situation you are facing with your companions, friends, and family members, so that everyone can share and resolve it. Thirdly, you should try your best to take your wife out to communicate with peers in your spare time every day, or watch TV, play games, listen to music, participate in sports activities, etc. This can not only relieve stress, but also Increase family affection and friendship to gain social support, so that the wife's soul can be comforted. If supplemented by activities such as rural landscape tours, fun entertainment games, and humorous jokes, it will be more effective in relieving tension and stress. Fourth, insist on participating in physical exercise every day. Physical exercise can make the brain's excitement and inhibition processes alternate reasonably and avoid excessive tension on the nervous system. Exercise items can be selected according to your own hobbies and local conditions, such as various ball games, running, exercises, etc.; the amount of exercise should be moderate, and high-intensity activities should not be used to avoid overexertion and affect the effect of rest at night. Fifth, arrange your spare time life in a targeted manner and cultivate your various interests. If you want to sing, go sing. If you want to draw, go draw. If you want to play in nature, go play and so on. Sixth, correct self-expression. Catharsis is a method of venting inner stress to protect the body and mind from shock and destruction. By venting inner depression, anger and pain, psychological pressure can be reduced or eliminated, avoiding mental breakdown and restoring psychological balance. The so-called self-cultivation of "not expressing emotions and emotions" will not only aggravate the troubles of bad emotions, but also lead to certain physical and mental diseases. Therefore, venting negative emotions is a good way to self-regulate.

An athlete became very frustrated after being reprimanded by his coach. Soon he developed stomach problems, and medication did not work for a long time. The psychologist suggested that he use the ball or equipment as a coach's face during training and hit him hard in the face. After using this method, his stomach problem was indeed cured. This kind of self-catharsis method that does not harm others and is helpful for resolving bad emotions can be used for reference. However, this method of venting should be used reasonably. It is not advisable to simply beat, smash, yell, vent your anger on others, find scapegoats (parents, husbands, friends), or complain, say weird things, and make sarcastic remarks. Catharsis should be civilized, elegant, and humane communication. Some people say, "One happiness shared by two people will become two happiness; one pain shared by two people will only be half the pain." If you express your worries, Burying the pain in your heart will only aggravate your own distress. If you confide the sorrow, troubles, pain, sorrow, etc. in your heart to your relatives and close friends, even if they cannot solve it for you, you will get the support of your friends. Sympathy or comfort, your troubles or pain seem to be only half, then you will feel comfortable. When it's time to cry, cry heartily to release the accumulated bad energy and adjust the balance of the body. After the heavy rain and strong wind, there will be clear skies. After the bad emotions in the heart are vented, people will be happy, horses will chirp, birds will sing and flowers will smell, and the scenery will be endless. . Regarding your wife’s question of “having had two miscarriages due to physical reasons, so she may be emotional and sad when seeing a pregnant woman with a big belly”, what I want to say to your wife is: don’t cry over spilled milk. Life is unsatisfactory, nine times out of ten. If you can't change something, forget it; if you have a chance to remedy it, seize the last chance. Regret, complaint, and depression will not only not help, but will hinder new progress. In fact, as an obstetrician and gynecologist, she can regulate her body through medicine and food. When her physical fitness improves, the child will come to her as before. The above are just some personal opinions and suggestions. Your friend Yang Yonglong invites your criticism and reference. I also wish your wife to become happy through self-regulation and your joint efforts!