Controversy caused by a marriage-seeking Weibo

I just saw a Weibo for marriage, which is quite hot. The content is as follows:

I am from Beijing, born in 1986, with a height of 175 and a weight of 18 kg. There are three suites at home (two school districts in Haidian and one in Shunyi) and a car at home. Ben Shuo studied in a prestigious school, and now CNOOC works with a monthly income of 1 thousand. Criteria for mate selection: looks are not limited, starting with ID number 11, two or more houses in Beijing at home, graduated from a prestigious school, and the definition of a prestigious school is as shown in the figure.

He also attached a picture of "the definition of a famous school", such as 211,985 and top1, and some photos of himself.

I've heard of some marriage stickers that have caused heated discussion before, which makes me think it has even become a representative phenomenon. So I want to explain my personal feelings.

Let's talk about Weibo himself. My first feeling is that there seems to be something wrong, but there is nothing wrong with it. There is nothing wrong with it, because after all, the matter of marriage is a private matter. No matter how wonderful and weird the po owner is, what he wants is just one person. If this person happens to be in tune with him, it has nothing to do with others' business at all, and there should be no more shortcomings. On this premise, I still feel that there is something wrong. What's wrong? It's probably a sense of materialization. List your own conditions first, and then list the conditions for girls. At first glance, you are looking for a suitable marriage. There is nothing wrong with it, but the overall feeling will be: So where do you put your feelings? Neither personality nor appearance is required. This is really directed at the "portal", which is very similar to the political marriage in the old story. In the online Cinderella, the king also asked the prince to marry a princess who can make the kingdom strong. The prince said: I can make the kingdom strong without external help. The king closed his eyes with relief (or helplessness) and left the west. This is an idealistic delight. If we put aside realistic factors, we can make "marriage between the right people and the right people" seem very common and stingy-if we are not strong enough, we have to rely on external forces, and powerful people are self-strong, and then pursue true love. In fact, political marriage does not happen so much in the real Cinderella class. On the contrary, some families with some accumulated capital, that is, the "middle class" claimed by the po owner, prefer this way. Because they are too aware of the effect of multiplying by two brought by marriage. And this kind of appeal is really understandable. However, now that corporate recruitment is already talking about ideals, such a straightforward "I want to multiply my assets by 2" slogen seems inhuman-after all, in my impression, marriage and love are more emotional than the workplace.

to be more specific, for example, the condition of "the beginning of ID card 11" implies a sense of regional superiority. Sometimes the sense of superiority will be a form: I respect whatever you want, but I don't choose you in the range related to me. For example, I totally believed what A told me that he respected homosexuality, but one day when his son came home and confessed his homosexuality, he almost got depressed. "Existence is ok, but it has nothing to do with me" is the boundary of many people, and this boundary also makes people feel some hidden contempt. And if we set the boundaries in the region, it's really irritating-just as we can't choose our parents, we can't choose our birthplace. Under this standard, contempt-being despised will have a sense of powerlessness. The dissatisfaction of the spectators may also come from here.

I went to audition for a French class, and a classmate inadvertently offended the teacher, so the teacher looked for opportunities to attack this classmate in the second half of the class, and his attack method was: giving a test, as if he had passed the test, and his dignity as a teacher was maintained. I can't help crying and laughing: there are different ways to learn Taoism, and there are different professions. It's too pitiful for a teacher to find a sense of superiority for his students by learning the singular and plural changes of a certain noun first-it's a very common noun, and as long as he learns it, he will always learn it. There is also a kind of love between international students, which is based on a similar sense of superiority. When a new elementary school girl comes, the boys who are already familiar with the environment seem to have a sense of superiority of "I can take you to eat delicious food and have fun"-but you just know the place. You don't need to take it. The primary school girl will go there one day, because it's right there. The sense of regional superiority is similar to me. Although locals have local contexts, habits, values, humorous rules and so on, they are not as difficult to acquire and master as imagined. It is only a matter of time before outsiders need to learn rather than learn. Once recognized, learning is just a matter of time. In other words, we should give a person a chance to cash in his potential, and don't deny others' potential because of the difference in specific performance. However, it is simple and rude to see the specific performance: you speak uncle Benshan's Putonghua, you will fight when you see me swearing, and you ask me why I am so rude. Hum, I just don't think you understand me. I just don't want to choose you, and I just want to find a local girl to save these things. It is understandable.

However, many commentators think that this is not beyond reproach, and this is a serious matter! This is the most interesting place. Some comments describe themselves as graduating from a prestigious school, living in a mansion, earning a high monthly income, and having four generations of ancestors living in Beijing, and so on, and then add a sentence at the end: I just despise you. Then other comments pointed out that they were made up, and it was clear that the information said that the universities were not well-fed, and they had never heard of them ... < P > The more you hate the rich, the more you show off your wealth. The more you show off your wealth, the more you hate it. Luo listed so many advantages just to say the last sentence: I despise you. In this way, they can fight back the contempt they read from a marriage-seeking Weibo. They replaced their dissatisfaction with the value evaluation system itself with their dissatisfaction with being at the bottom of the contempt chain, and they are even the most deeply rooted fans of this value system. Because they dare not say: I am poor, but I can refuse to despise. They can only pretend to despise the other end of the chain-the rich, and then they think they are qualified to release contempt-in fact, it is not contempt. What they want to release is anger.

another question: how much contempt is interpreted by the poor themselves? On the day of my graduation ceremony, I wanted to take a photo at the school lake, which was quite famous, so there were many tourists among the graduates. Tourists always avoid graduates unconsciously, perhaps because we are wearing robes on the hot day of graduation season, or perhaps with a kind of "I am not a landlord" rustling. At least one boy in front of me, who is not well dressed, said to his companion: Get up and let others take pictures first. Look at your camera. I'm petrified, and I can't remember how to deal with the back. I probably asked them to pat me. I was later, and I should have waited, but I was finally afraid of that posture, so I finished filming and left first. I bought my camera myself at that time, because it was hard-earned money, so I cherished it all the more. I picked it for a long time, and the price/performance ratio was biased, which was definitely not a good camera. However, such a camera used by a student party will also sting some people's nerves, which is simply impossible to prevent. What surprised me most was that he acquiesced that the camera was not as good as mine, so he should give me the right to shoot first, even though he was ahead of me. His tone is somewhat angry at this unfairness, but more, it is contempt for himself. He even acquiesced that I would despise him, maybe just because I came from our school, maybe just because I held a camera slightly better than him (but I don't remember whether his camera is really not as good as mine, and I didn't pay special attention to his camera)-these very external things.

So they read the offense and contempt. They can't tolerate superiority, a suitor who wants to find a suitable indigenous girl, and understandable meanness and limitations. They don't seem to think that there can be a different value system, such as first come, first served, and queuing. They are at the bottom of a value system, and they are committed to climbing up within this system to a position where they can despise people. It seems that the problem can be solved. The most frustrating thing is that this value system can be quantified: there are houses to check, education to check, hukou to check, oh, no, hukou is not good, and I have an ID card, that is to say, those who moved later will not take you to play. So too many people spend too much time and energy on this. The funny thing is that even if your wealth is spelled out, you still can't have a sense of superiority, that is, you can't be proud of your efforts. Because everyone has no patience to pick out whether your pride comes from hard work or from the top of the contempt chain. In short, being rich means getting revenge.