It is controversial that college students practice as matchmakers in matchmaking agencies.

The winter vacation is coming soon, and many college students begin to contact internship units. Zheng Min (pseudonym), a sociology major in a university in Zhejiang, entered a matchmaking agency two months ago and volunteered to be a "matchmaker" as an internship to enrich her social knowledge.

"The matchmaking agency is the most sensitive place to experience the ups and downs of life. When you come to the matchmaking agency, you can learn more about human feelings, let yourself mature and cope with the pressure from life, employment and future families. " She said.

However, different people have different views on the sensitive profession of college students who are "matchmakers".

Emotional experience of "experienced people"

Can you understand the true meaning of life?

There are different opinions about college students being "matchmakers" in matchmaking agencies.

Father said

Don't take advantage of the convenience of work and find a boyfriend yourself.

Zheng Min's father looked very calm when he learned that his daughter was going to practice in a matchmaking agency. "He talked to me for a long time at first, and I also know the general meaning, just don't want me to go. Later, I saw that I had so many good reasons, and it was not easy to insist. I agreed to go there for an internship, but I signed a gentleman's agreement. "

Zheng Min said that the first thing Dad should do is not to take advantage of the convenience of working there and find a boyfriend himself.

Zheng Min's father told us that at first, it was a little uneasy to let an ignorant girl go to the matchmaking agency for an internship. "I'm afraid she's too young to know what feelings are. How to introduce people? Besides, it's complicated to find someone. If you involve yourself, you won't know. "

Now, after nearly two months' internship, Zheng Min's father thinks there are still gains. "She has changed, she is more sensible than before, and she is more considerate in dealing with problems than before." These are all good things, but with the passage of time, Zheng's father has new concerns: "This child handles things more smoothly than before. For these college students who have not left campus, will they lose their innocence at this age? "

The teacher said

The experience of "someone has been there" may have a negative effect.

"I heard that some students want to go to the matchmaking agency for internship. As a teacher, I certainly hope that students can choose other units for internships, so that they can better play what they have learned in their majors. " Teacher Zhang, a social science major in another university, told us, "It's not necessarily that the matchmaking agency is not good, but that it seems a bit one-sided and narrow for a student majoring in sociology to use his hard-earned professional content only for matchmaking."

Teacher Zhang said that they generally don't interfere in which unit students go to practice, but students often talk to their teachers about their ideas before internship, hoping that teachers can give guidance for better development in the future. "Some students want to go to the matchmaking agency for an internship, and the motivation is very simple. They just blindly believe that they should understand the true meaning of life through the ups and downs of' experienced people'. " Teacher Zhang said that in fact, the content of feelings is difficult to analyze rationally. For college students who are not deeply involved in the world, it is easy to doubt their outlook on life and love prematurely, which may play a negative role.

The student said

Benefit a lot from the internship experience

When he went to practice, 48-year-old Mr. Gu happened to sign up at a matchmaking agency. Mr. Gu's life experience and emotional experience deeply touched the 22-year-old girl at once.

Mr. Gu was sent to the rural areas of northern Jiangsu with his parents very early. After returning to Hangzhou, he entered the municipal state-owned enterprise unit. The unit's benefit went from bad to worse, and both husband and wife were laid off. Later, his wife went to Shenzhen to work, and Mr. Gu took care of the children alone.

Soon, his wife divorced him. With tears in his eyes, Mr. Gu choked up and said, "I have not been intimidated by difficulties for several years. I drove a taxi, sold vegetables, set up breakfast stalls and supper stalls on the roadside, and later delivered box lunches to small companies. Until now, I have opened a restaurant myself. It is precisely because of his firm belief in life that he not only sent his son to college, but also bought a house and decorated it. Therefore, I still maintain my passion for life. I walked into the matchmaking agency to find the other half of my life and let myself have no regrets on the ordinary road of life. "

Zheng Min was very emotional after hearing this: "I really feel that I have benefited a lot, just like educated youth receiving re-education. These are not in the textbook. "

Zheng Min told us that she and another student who came to practice together had this idea: "The adults' concern is that the environment of the matchmaking agency and its relationship are too complicated. They blindly think that we are just children, and the emotional problems between men and women are too complicated and inappropriate for us. In fact, many things that we accept and face frankly are far better than hiding there. "

Old Jingjing (a pseudonym), an intern in Zheng Min, told us something about her experience. "On one occasion, a beautifully dressed woman came to see us at the end of work. She pulled me aside and said that she would give me benefits and let me give him the phone numbers of some men in the computer. " Lao Jing said calmly that at that time, she was very strange. If you want to see the membership file, you can join the membership yourself.

The woman bluntly said, "I'm not interested in men who have no money, and I don't want to waste time." I just want the phone number of a man with an annual salary of more than 300,000, and I don't want to waste time on others. " Lao Jing was stunned at that time. Who would have thought to meet such a customer? Seeing the little girl in a daze, the fashionable girl tried her best to instill her "wealth" thought into the old man quietly: "You are so young and beautiful, why do you want to work by yourself?" How many bottles of Chanel can I buy with my hard-earned money? It is better to marry a rich man directly! "

Afterwards, Lao quietly refused this unreasonable request. She said: "There are indeed many external temptations in the matchmaking agency, but as an outsider, I observe the whole state and will not be involved. I will analyze the mentality of different people more calmly."

Pairing theory

College students are too inexperienced and inappropriate.

As for young college students working as "matchmakers" in matchmaking agencies, the reporter asked several matchmaking agencies in Hang Cheng. Although in the same industry, they have different attitudes.

Miss Pi, the head of a matchmaking agency on Zhongshan Road, told us that young and beautiful college students are absolutely welcome to practice. Contemporary college students' ideas are relatively trendy, and their suggestions and ideas are unique, which can meet the needs of door-to-door customers and make it easy to talk and communicate. The person in charge of another matchmaking agency put it better: Comrade Cui Yingying, the most famous matchmaker in history, had no love experience when he first became a matchmaker. Of course, this is a joke.

However, the person in charge of "Zhejiang Matchmaker Network 100 1miss" does not agree with this view. Mr. Cao of the matchmaker. Com made it clear: "We don't welcome college students to practice here for the simple reason that college students have no experience and are not suitable for this."

Mr. Cao said that they don't welcome college students' internships for two reasons. "First, as a matchmaking agency, you need to have some worldly experience, which is also the most important, but college students are basically lacking in this respect. For example, you want to find a "matchmaker" to fix up a middle-aged couple, but you can't find anything in common with each other. How to communicate? Let alone defend each other. Moreover, Zhejiang Matchmaker Network is different from other matchmaking agencies. A large part of them need technical support through the internet, which is not something that ordinary professional college students can do, so even young and beautiful college students are not welcome if they want to come to the internship. "

Mr. Cao believes that college students mainly want to know the true meaning of life through the ups and downs and emotional experiences of "experienced people", but this is not suitable for every matchmaking agency. First of all, you have to find a formal matchmaking agency to avoid being cheated. Moreover, the current matchmaking market is not particularly suitable for college students. In the future, if conditions permit, they will open up social research and social practice bases for college students to experience life.