No More Divorce —— Case Shorthand of the 69th Family Virtue Class of Anyang Lianchi Academy

—— A shorthand of the case of the 69th Family Virtue Class in Lianchi Academy, Anyang

Wang Chongyang

If there are a lot of deviations from tradition in the rapid development of modern society, the divorce rate will be selected first.

Therefore, in the face of the "divorce crisis" in today's society, many people of insight and caring units are taking active actions and want to contribute to the resolution of this crisis. Lianchi Academy in Anyang, Henan Province is one of them. Anyang Lianchi Academy is a public welfare organization that responds to the call of the central authorities, inherits and disseminates Chinese excellent traditional culture. It holds public welfare training courses on Chinese traditional family virtues all the year round, and teaches the ways of being a man, such as filial piety, loyalty, courtesy, honesty and shame, and how to be a good son, girl, husband and wife.

To tell you the truth, in the family virtue training class of Lianchi College, which has been held for more than 6 consecutive sessions, a large number of students who are about to divorce have said that they can no longer think of divorce after attending the study. There are also cases in which divorced students want to remarry after attending the study, or resolve the resentment in their hearts and restore their health.

On November 12th, 22, in the last half-day comprehensive speech and question-and-answer session of the 69th Family Virtue Public Welfare Promotion Class, which lasted for seven days in Anyang Lianchi College, several such cases were concentrated, which made all the teachers and volunteers feel gratified.

A 31-year-old male student learned the "secret" to make his wife change her mind

A 31-year-old male student from Handan City, Hebei Province took the stage and said that he had known that traditional culture was magical before, but he never had time to take part in the study. The reason why I came to study this time is also with a problem-my wife is divorcing herself. The root of his wife's divorce is himself, because his wife found out that he was in online love with other women. His wife was very angry and divorced. Now she is living in her mother's house and will not go home.

The male student said that only by taking part in the family virtue study did he know that he had done something wrong, and that his wife's divorce was caused by her own lack of virtue. After returning, he would take practical actions to make her change her mind.

The lecturer sitting in the audience asked the male student what he was going to do when he got back. The student said, I must do it according to the principle of being a man that the teacher told me-look for the benefits of others and admit that I am not. The lecturer said that you were shouting slogans. The student smiled shyly and said, yes, I know I did something wrong, but I need more guidance from the teacher on what to do when I get back.

the lecturer said, then let me ask you, do you want face or family? Want a family or face? The student said, want a family.

The teacher said that if you want a family, you should do this when you go back: apologize to your parents and in-laws. It's unfilial of you to engage in online dating, which almost broke up your family, worried your parents and made your in-laws angry. If your parents-in-law want to scold you, you should bear it honestly. This is called "suffering hardships and suffering a crime". You should not only suffer, but also sincerely apologize. Then sincerely apologize to your wife and ask her to forgive you, understand?

the student got it.

the teacher then asked, do you have any children? The student said that there are two children, one is seven years old and the other is four years old. The teacher said, do you want your child to find a mother or a stepmother? The male student said, of course, it is to find a mother. As soon as the voice fell, there was a burst of laughter from the audience.

The teacher said that if you don't find a stepmother for your children, you should take the initiative to break the deadlock. If you are sincere, your wife will turn back; If you are very sincere, your wife will turn around. The student said, ok. Then, he was ready to step down. The teacher said, don't step down yet. I think you are a little introverted. You may not be able to do what I say when you go back. You can practice how to apologize to your parents, parents-in-law, and wife on the stage now. You can do it here, and you can only do it when you go back.

The student said in a higher voice on the stage, "Dad, Mom, our son is unfilial, which worries you.". Father-in-law and mother-in-law, I'm sorry. Wife, I'm sorry. I hope you can forgive me for my bad temper.

as she said this, she shed tears.

The teacher went on to say that when you go back, when you admit your mistake, your parents-in-law and wife may scold you. You should remember that you must not feel resentful. Otherwise, people will say that you are acting, and all your efforts will be wasted.

the student said, remember, I will do it.

Seeing that he was so determined and learned the "secret" to make his wife change her mind, everyone happily gave him warm applause.

Second, the 33-year-old female student who has filed a lawsuit for divorce in the court decided to drop the lawsuit immediately.

A 33-year-old female student from Linzhang County, Hebei Province said that she was a mother with four children, and four children seemed to be very happy, but before she came to study, she had filed a lawsuit against her husband in the court for unspeakable reasons and was ready for divorce.

the students in the audience were a little surprised when they heard this.

The female student went on to say that I came here because of my mother's strong recommendation. My mother is an old student here and also works as a volunteer here. In the past, when I was in conflict with my husband, my mother often reasoned with me that divorce was not good. I understand all these reasons, and I know that divorce is not good, but I have to fight for breath, so I still insist on suing my husband to the court.

after the complaint was handed to the court, my mother insisted that I come here to study. After studying, I discovered that I am a very proud person, and I am too competitive. In fact, I don't want a divorce either, but why should I go to court to sue? I just want my husband to come to me, beg me, apologize to me, and then I will drop the lawsuit and go back to reunite with him.

at this moment, someone in the audience asked, how come you have four children at the age of 33? The student said, I gave birth to three children, the eldest is seven years old, the second is four years old, and the third is twins, two years old.

after listening to the female student, the lecturer asked, you have four children, or the old question, do you want your children to be with your father? Or with my stepfather? The student said, father.

The lecturer said that you want your child to live with his father, but you have sued the father of the child to the court. What should I do? The female student said, I will drop the case when I go back, and I will drop the case unconditionally. I feel now, what face, everything is not important, only home is the most important.

Seeing her resolute attitude, everyone in the audience gave her warm applause.

but as soon as everyone encouraged her, she got excited, and when she got excited, she put her foot in her mouth. She said loudly, I hope all the young people in the audience will be "proud of me", don't make mistakes like mine, cherish family and family ties, and don't divorce lightly. The lecturer in the audience corrected her, saying that it should be "take me as a warning", and she took her husband to court. Can she still be proud of you?

when the teacher said this, all the students in the audience burst out laughing. The female student also smiled and said, yes, yes, take me as a warning, take me as a warning. With that, he walked off the platform with warm applause and laughter.

The reason why I wrote this slip of the tongue joke is to tell everyone. Anyone who has accepted the guidance of the traditional standard of self-cultivation and morality will cry and laugh. Such people are probably the "real people" in our traditional culture.

to tell the truth, the scene of everyone laughing at that time is hard to see on other occasions. As a volunteer of traditional culture, I always feel that that smile exudes the dazzling brilliance after the awakening of life.

And this kind of laughter will appear frequently in the comprehensive speech session of each family virtue class in Anyang Lianchi Academy.

Third, the divorced 41-year-old female student sincerely admitted her mistake to her parents.

There are about 6 students in this family virtue class, and the happiest one is the group of five who came to study.

why do you say that? Because it is rare for a family to take seven days off for closed study at the same time. If the whole family understands it, they will all establish the correct three views, and the harmonious life of a large family will be available immediately. How can there be so many chores that are difficult for honest officials to break?

This family comes from Xiaogan, Hubei Province. They are a 63-year-old father, a 66-year-old mother, a 41-year-old eldest daughter, a 35-year-old son and a 33-year-old second daughter.

Of course, the reason why their family came to study collectively was to treat their 63-year-old father. The old father has been suffering from cancer for two years, and a friend who has studied traditional culture recommended the family virtue class of Anyang Lianchi Academy, saying that if the old man can learn the traditional way of self-cultivation and morality, and know how to be a man and how to admit his mistake, maybe his illness will be greatly alleviated or even better.

So they came to Anyang Lianchi Academy.

(1) The eldest daughter, divorce is the greatest unfilial

After taking the stage, the 41-year-old eldest daughter first picked up the receiver and talked about her feelings. She said that she had come to Lianchi College with the purpose of improving her father's condition, but after attending the study, she found that what needed to be changed most was her personality.

What impressed her most was studying the filial piety class taught by the teacher in the class. She said that after listening to this filial piety class, she found that her divorce was the biggest unfilial. Because children divorce, parents are bound to worry, which is also an important reason for parents to get sick.

With that, she stood in front of her parents, made three sincere bows to them, and loudly said, Dad, Mom, I was wrong. I shouldn't have divorced, which worried you.

After bowing, she said that she was deeply impressed by learning the husband-wife relationship taught by Mr. Wang in the class. She said that Mr. Wang's husband was extremely fond of gambling. Mr. Wang did not divorce, but eventually ushered in her husband's change with his own change, and he did not do as well as Mr. Wang. She said that she was very unkind to her husband, and even though he had many faults, she should not divorce him. After divorce, children should not be poisoned to make them hate their father.

She said that through her study, she finally understood the truth that "everything will be fine if I get better". When she goes back, she should be filial and educate her children well so that they can become useful people to society.

Everyone gave warm applause to her statement.

(2) The second daughter, the son and the old man all understood the truth of being a man

Later, the 31-year-old second daughter and the 33-year-old son also talked about their feelings. Their feelings are the same as their sister's: they came with the mentality of accompanying their father for fun and treating their father. After attending the study, they realized that what needs to be changed most is themselves. I usually have a lot of unfilial behaviors, so I must correct them when I go back, do my filial piety well, and let my parents spend their old age safely.

After that, the 63-year-old father said happily that he was very grateful to the caring people for their dedication and made him learn such a good course. He said that after attending the study, he knew how to be a man and how to be filial to his parents. After studying these days, and comparing the learned truth with the previous behavior, I deeply reflect, and I have discharged a lot of bad emotions accumulated in my body for a long time, and my body is much better. He said that when he first came, he was very weak, even when he went to the dormitory on the second floor last time, he would panic, but now he doesn't panic at all when he goes upstairs.

On hearing this, everyone gave the old man warm applause.

At this moment, the lecturer under the stage told the three children on the stage that when people laugh, "God" comes into being, and when "God" comes out, "ghost" disappears. You should be filial when you go back to make the old people happy. Although this is not a place to treat diseases, it can tell you the truth of being a man. People who learn to be human will no longer be angry, hateful, resentful, annoyed and annoyed at will, but will be happy. As long as you are happy, your body will recover. The three children on the stage highly agreed with the teacher's words and nodded frequently.

Finally, with warm applause, a family of five walked off the platform happily.

in just three hours, * * * 3 students took the stage to speak, and their gains were exciting, which made people feel the power and charm of the traditional standard of self-cultivation.

and the traditional standard of self-cultivation and moral integrity tells us first that being a man has a way, not being in the way, but being robbed. Only by following the norms of life summarized by ancient sages and sages can we live a beautiful family life of being a father, a son, a brother, a friend, a husband and a woman.

Today, due to space constraints, we just selected three cases from the perspective of "Don't divorce lightly" to show the charm of traditional culture, hoping to inspire everyone, and hope that everyone will try their best to take time to systematically study the traditional norms of self-cultivation, so as to achieve physical and mental harmony, family harmony and promote social harmony ...