About "exquisite" chicken soup drinking too much, are you also poisoned by "pseudo-exquisite"?

Introduction: People nowadays seem to be poisoned by "pseudo-exquisiteness". Products should be made in online celebrity, bags should be limited edition, and lipsticks should be customized. However, the real exquisiteness is never on the surface.

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In the circle of friends, I often see such articles as "Ten Habits Necessary for Exquisite Women" and "How to Be Exquisite for Girls" ...

When most girls see such articles, they can't help but click on them, enviing others' "exquisite life" and setting a flag for themselves at the same time. I also want to be an exquisite girl!

but what exactly is exquisiteness?

In the past, I thought exquisiteness was like this:

I can make up, dress up, make beautiful nails, pull out all kinds of online celebrity styles, pay attention to eating and drinking, carefully set out fruits, freshly baked bread, high-class restaurants, read several best-selling books and watch a few small fresh movies, and it is best to have a trip.

this view of mine didn't change until a recruitment in our unit last year.

In the early autumn of last year, our company recruited two new girls of similar age, Xiaoyan and Xiaoyu. Both of them have just graduated from college.

After about three or four months of internship, there was an opportunity for post adjustment, but everyone unanimously recommended Xiaoyu.

when they first came, we were all full of love. A full face of collagen, irrepressible youthful vitality.

when they first arrived, they were both assigned to help in the office, responsible for sending and receiving documents, writing materials and serving tea and water.

then why did you get completely different comments in the end? Let me talk about the two girls separately.

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Xiaoyan, on her first day here, attracted our attention. Her female colleagues were envious, while her male colleagues were stunned.

slim figure, fair skin, fashionable dress, outstanding temperament, exquisite makeup, long hair as described in romantic novels that everyone is tired of listening to, as curly and thick as seaweed.

After I became familiar with her, I added a circle of friends, and she became the "exquisite" spokesperson in my circle of friends.

In the circle of friends, there is either delicious food or beautiful scenery, and then there is the classic LV model that the working class can't dream of, Dior's new color number. Looking at these alone, it is undoubtedly the goddess.

Speaking of going back to work, her desk is cluttered with papers, notebooks, pens, lipstick and hand cream. Asking her to find a previous document always takes a long time to look around.

PPT is the same, with words, tables and pictures piled up at random.

after the salary is paid, the first time is to pay back the flowers, the credit card and rob Peter to pay Paul.

and this also solved the doubts in our hearts. Her "exquisite" life was originally consumed in advance.

is this exquisite? This is "pseudo-exquisiteness".

the surface is shiny, but life and work are a mess.

behind the elaborate setting is a messy kitchen, behind the exquisite makeup is a messy dressing table, and behind the limited edition lipstick is a heavily indebted flower bud.

true exquisiteness is never superficial.

Cinderella put on the crystal shoes and met the prince just because of her exquisite clothes and crystal shoes that night?

Cinderella's father is a duke, and she has a good background and education. During her short time with the prince, the prince was moved not only by her appearance, but also by her manners and family education.

the real exquisiteness should be that the heart and appearance are consistent, and the skin and soul are in harmony, which is a kind of elegance and temperament from the inside out.

Exquisiteness is not about spending in advance, showing off in front of others, or pleasing others, but about making yourself more comfortable and enjoyable.

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Let's talk about small fish again.

There is a small micro-landscape bottle on Xiaoyu's desk, in which there are several small goldfish swimming around.

She tidied up her desk, and put the small clips, pens and notes in different boxes in order. The documents are all catalogued, sorted, orderly and accurate.

ask her to help print the documents. She always sorts them with small clips and arranges them neatly.

Although the PPT level is not very high, the main points of the text are extracted and classified, and the font size and position of the table are carefully adjusted at first glance, and the pictures are clear in content and properly edited.

It can be seen that she has the greatest passion and love for this job. Even if it is a trivial job, she will spare no effort to do it well, without shirking or slacking off, and do her best.

As for her own costume, the little girl who just graduated can't afford any big brands, but she dresses simply and generously, and the collocation is just right. The hair is clean and refreshing, and the makeup is comfortable and natural.

Not long after work, it happened to be the Mid-Autumn Festival party. Xiaoyu performed a dance, which surprised everyone. She never said that she could dance, and she never saw her basking in a circle of friends.

I didn't know until then that Xiaoyu had studied dance and practiced yoga since he was in college, but he couldn't shake it, and he didn't give up after work.

In this way, Xiaoyu has been unanimously recognized by us, although he has been working for just a few months.

in the final analysis, what attracts us is her heartfelt love for work and life and her yearning for beauty. Therefore, even the odd jobs are full of energy, and the ordinary life is full of flavor.

the same job, but different mood, the same life, but different mood. In the final analysis, it is the inner requirement for exquisiteness that plays a decisive role.

you can't afford a big name, but you can clean yourself up, which is also pleasing to the eye.

Being forced to get up early and return late for a living, you can stay up late and work overtime, but you can put on headphones and listen to a piece of your favorite music when you are crowded in the subway.

love yourself and cherish your attitude towards life, which is the real exquisiteness.

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Many girls nowadays seem to have been poisoned by "pseudo-exquisiteness".

products should be made in online celebrity, bags should be limited edition, and lipsticks should be customized ... it seems that we must have so many luxury items beside us to show our exquisiteness and keep up with the trend.

The real exquisiteness is never on the surface, let alone these jewelry, shoes and cosmetics.

There is a question in Zhihu, "What kind of girl is exquisite?"

The answer to the high vote is "I deserve to be treated well."

Exquisiteness means realizing one's own value and existence, and believing that one deserves to be treated well, without compromise or compromise.

He Yichen in Why Shengxiao Mo has a classic line, "Except you, everyone else will make do, and I don't want to make do." This sentence, how many people's hearts.

actually, it's the same with feelings, and it's the same with yourself. Treat yourself well, make yourself comfortable and happy, and if you don't agree, this is exquisite!

Even if you can't afford a big name, you can't wear exquisite makeup, your aesthetic collocation is average, and you don't have the courage to take time off or resign to travel around the world, and you can also live a delicate and interesting life with chicken feathers at home and work.

My grandmother, who is in her eighties this year, has gray hair, but she combs it meticulously every day, tidies it up properly at home, and is always kind to her children and others.

Every night when I sleep, I put my pants under my pillow. When I wear them the next day, I feel sharp and refreshed.

I think exquisiteness should be like this.

I am full of energy and enthusiasm for trivial life, with a little sense of ceremony, and I am always full of enthusiasm for my work. I deserve to be treated well and treat myself well.

not blindly following the trend, not making superficial articles, such exquisiteness is the real exquisiteness.

Imagine if a girl spends all day doing nothing and living passively, even if she wears big clothes and beautiful makeup, do you think she is exquisite?

Like a small fish, it's decent in makeup, generous in clothes, clean and refreshing, which I think is exquisite.

you don't have to have a online celebrity style, a limited edition, which is in line with your own temperament. You don't have to have a gorgeous manicure, and your nails are clean, shiny and beautiful.

You don't have to travel everywhere. The potted plants on the balcony and the green plants in the community are also beautiful.

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When it comes to exquisiteness, many people can't help but think of Andy, the hero in The Shawshank Redemption, who turned his miserable prison life into a poem and a distance.

A young banker with small achievements, he was jailed on suspicion of killing his wife and her lover.

In this prison named Shawshank, hope seems illusory, and the punishment of life imprisonment undoubtedly doomed Andy's gloomy and desperate life.

Life in prison is gloomy and depressing, the prison guards are violent and arrogant, and the abnormal inmates are harassing him, but he leads a leisurely life.

My hair is meticulous, and my prison clothes are straight and buttoned neatly. When the yard is open, he takes a leisurely walk in the yard, just like in a community park.

He bought a small pickaxe through his cellmate, carved small objects and placed them neatly in the small window of the room. He also carved his own chess and played chess with his cellmates.

Even through his efforts, he added many books to the prison library and expanded the library. He counseled his cellmates and helped them pass the exam.

who can imagine that this is life in prison?

In such a bad environment, he still harbors hope, maintains his love for life and yearns for freedom, even when he can't see the future.

Even though he is surrounded by evil people and evil people, he is always gentle and polite.

this is the elegance and exquisiteness carved in the bones.