Three principles of self-discipline

In the age of temptation explosion, anything can arouse our desire, and we will fall into it if we are not careful.

If you want to live an orderly life and return to yourself, self-discipline has become a necessity of this era.

However, the word self-discipline has been used badly, as if everything should be linked to self-discipline.

Eat and sleep with self-discipline. Without self-discipline, you can't eat well and sleep well.

Don't you insist on going to bed early because you stay up late, and develop healthy eating habits because of irregular eating?

Isn't it to realize the problem first, stick to the method of solving the problem, and then form self-discipline?

If you are a night owl who works efficiently at night, why go to bed early and get up early? Just because going to bed early and getting up early is a trend?

Never know yourself with your heart. Self-discipline that blindly follows the trend is self-abuse.

Let's just say that beautiful colleague who goes to the gym every day often tells you the way to lose weight-slimming tea combined with hunger therapy.

Thin is thin, but I feel hungry when I look at her every day. I have diarrhea every day, and my face is sallow and covered with foundation.

The point is.

In the circle of friends of beautiful colleagues, the essay below the fitness photo is: "I lost 2 pounds this week, and the self-disciplined people will eventually be rewarded; It can stop raining, but fitness can't stop; Sisters can become beautiful through exercise! Punch in, punch in. "

Diet tea? Hunger? Fitness? I'm a little confused.

That day, I went to the gym with my friends, and my beautiful colleagues came. Just after greeting, my little sister left in less than five minutes, taking only a few photos.

I was dumbfounded! Colleagues around me said to me, "She often takes photos, never exercises, and occasionally takes a bath."

Self-discipline based on honesty can change you. The self-discipline of blindly following the trend will eventually become confused, making people feel confused about what they should and should not do. Guess what the ending is?

People have to face the reality after all, and no one can live in a dreamland of nothingness forever.

It is hard to say what is the result of self-abuse by going with the flow and deceiving others. Time is wasted.

These people's self-discipline is equivalent to no physical performance.

The difference is that the invisible performance on the stage is art, and the invisible performance in life is hypocrisy.

Valuable self-discipline is goal-oriented.

Why self-discipline? There must be a reason!

My girlfriend watched a Volg about self-discipline, and praised it while watching it: "Wow, my little sister is so self-disciplined, so am I" "I want my little sister to be beautiful in sports" "Wow, the coffee cup is so exquisite, and I will start self-discipline tomorrow".

Turned to me and said, "I'm going to be different!" " "

Of course, I said hypocritically, "Come on!"

My girlfriend made a lot of preparations that night, mainly starting to buy sports suits, coffee cups, various notebooks, reading racks and timers on a treasure. ......

Seeing that my girlfriend's self-discipline is getting off track, I reminded her that "self-discipline can start with reducing unnecessary shopping".

My girlfriend said seriously, "You mean, all these things I bought are useless. I can't help myself. I am not self-disciplined, am I? "

What should I say? Heart way Ann is bad: "of course not, use these things to start self-discipline! How can I refresh myself without a cup of coffee? How to keep fit without wearing sportswear? How to write a plan without a book? Welcome a new beginning with new things. Be a self-disciplined person from now on. "Almost overturned.

"That is to say! Don't be surprised, don't believe it. " Her face softened a little.

That was close! That was close!

Everyone in the back understands! The time of express delivery killed the enthusiasm of my girlfriend, and when everything arrived, my self-discipline was gone.

Everyone has his own pace of life. If there is no problem, why change it?

A passionate self-discipline video should focus on this person's ability to solve his own problems, and then reflect on what problems need to be solved in his life, find solutions and form self-discipline.

I don't need clothes links, BGM sounds good, and my little sister has a good figure. ......

Those who don't sleep well should exercise self-discipline to improve their sleep. Turn off your cell phone before going to bed, wash one hour before going to bed, and do some exercise every day.

Want to learn to write, keep a diary every day, practice writing 500 words and read for half an hour.

If your figure is not ideal, optimize your eating habits, exercise every day, and eat more meals and less food every day.

When you have a problem, set a small improvement goal and stick to it every day. This is called self-discipline.

In other words, your self-discipline will only be effective if you solve what problems and become what people.

Isn't it sad that people who blindly follow the trend and vanity punch cards regard self-discipline as a show-off capital? If you want to achieve your goal, don't want to work hard, deceive yourself and live in a false world, what's the point of life? This doesn't include my girlfriend. )

Precious self-discipline is giving up.

It is often seen that some people continue to indulge while making plans, and the boundary between change and indulgence is not clear.

These plans are more like an excuse for indulgence, so that you can play with peace of mind. Let yourself have the illusion that you are getting better and feel that you are still saved.

For example, my friend Kun Zai.

8 hours awake every day, only going to the toilet without playing games, washing to be determined (washing or not).

He wants to change and be himself outside the game.

He chose to raise ornamental fish, and the fish tank was filled with a room full of oxygen pumps, lights, aquatic plants and fry.

At this time, he is on the road of change, planning things that need to be done every day, such as cleaning snails, feeding, raising water, observing the situation of fry, and regularly going to the fish market to observe the market.

After a month, I made a bigger plan and decided to shoot a short video to promote it. I went home to buy white sand, stones, rockeries and corals for the fish tank set. ......

These plans made him very excited. He became more and more accustomed to playing games and his anxiety about the future disappeared.

However, for a month, two months, one year and two years, fish farming has not improved, and making videos has always been just an idea.

You ask him, "How are fish raised?"

He is good at drawing cakes for himself. The general answer is: "You don't understand, it takes time to raise fish. After giving birth, it costs thousands of dollars a month. If I shoot more videos, I can sell fry all over the country and make more money. "

Almost three years, the first batch of fry that can be "listed" has not yet appeared.

The water tank on the shelf is a little muddy, and occasionally the bodies of fry float up. At the same time, the game is more "focused" and can fight until after midnight every day.

The only thing he changed was the fate of these fry, and the fry he bought back could be declared dead.

He knew it was not good to indulge in games, so he became anxious. In order to find an outlet for anxiety, he chose to raise ornamental fish.

Deep down, he doesn't want to solve the problem. All self-discipline is just to make yourself feel at ease and indulge.

If nothing happens, the first fry that can come out of the mountain to save him will never appear.

Before self-discipline, you should ask yourself, am I willing to give up something else in order to solve this problem?

Maybe games and short videos can bring you fun, but they are short-lived after all. These activities fill your mind and consume your energy.

Let you have no extra energy to think about how to change, let alone to carry out the plan.

Self-discipline is the process of reflection-giving up-emptying-reconstruction.

? Good self-discipline comes from habit.

Self-discipline is a bit painful, because self-discipline needs to get out of the comfort zone, even a small step will make you feel uncomfortable.

Just like the extremely simple action of getting up, it is easy to be strangled by the cold air under the bed.

How to get up at this time? Shouting: "Isn't it just cold? What are you afraid of? " Courage up. Or put clothes on the pillow to shorten the dressing time. When the corresponding solution is found, new actions are produced, and inadaptability is inevitable.

Old bad habits always fight back against new ones. Old habits may seem comfortable and safe, but we must clearly understand that only by adapting to new habits can we get our life on the right track.

Once the habit is formed, the original laborious plans become subconscious actions, forming a new comfort zone, and then it will become easy to implement these plans.

Life is gradually changing for the better. These good habits are like buds. At first, nothing changed. But after three to five months, compared with the previous life, going to bed early becomes natural, exercising becomes necessary, energetic, and the movements are not demanding. Everything that was dragged before can now be done at will.

Good habits are like a perpetual motion machine, silently pushing you forward, and when you react, the distance of life has taken a big step forward.

It is not difficult to form a good habit, just start with the simplest thing and repeat it until it becomes a habit.

My friend Xiao Fei said to me, "My job is good, too. It's nothing to play every day. "

The reason why this sentence is perfect is entirely based on his smooth life.

But who can guarantee that his life will be smooth sailing to the end without adversity?

When we are helpless in the face of adversity, can we only blame our helplessness on the injustice of fate?

Maybe we don't want to climb too high, but at least don't let ourselves fall too badly.

My friend Xiao Fei's company is developing rapidly. On the premise of a large number of recruitment, Xiao Fei was quickly promoted to middle-level leadership.

He also showed off to me: "Self-discipline is good, but it is better not to be self-disciplined."

This company has developed so well that it seems to attract the attention of industry giants. After half a year, the company was merged.

Although the management promised not to make personnel changes, the old employees were "optimized" one by one, and it was Xiao Fei's turn soon.

Although a little angry, he is confident: "With my current resume, I can go anywhere."

The reality is cruel. Although Xiao Fei was promoted to the middle level, his ability was average. The interviewed company asked him to start from scratch, but Xiao Fei refused to accept it and was helpless.

While complaining about the injustice of fate: "I worked hard for the company and ended up like this." At the same time, he said: "These companies, ignorant Mount Tai, missed my great god."

Wang Xiaobo once said: "All human sufferings are essentially anger at their incompetence."

The pain and anger that Xiao Fei is facing now is a sign of incompetence.

If you want to change, there is no way but self-discipline.