Interviews should not only be able to speak, but also listen.

Interviews should not only be able to speak, but also listen.

Interviews should not only be able to speak but also listen. Interview is a very important link in the process of job hunting. Some people talk about Kan Kan in interviews, while others are good at listening in interviews. Let me share with you that the interview should not only be able to speak but also listen.

The interview requires not only speaking but also listening. 1 A college graduate went to the editorial department to apply for a job. The editor-in-chief talked to him as usual, and everything went well at first. Because the first impression was good, the editor-in-chief later casually talked about some experiences of his holiday, and the college students were distracted and didn't listen carefully. When he left, the editor-in-chief asked him how he felt, and he replied, "Your holiday was so good that it was really interesting." The editor-in-chief stared at him for a long time, and finally said coldly, "Great? I broke my leg and spent the whole holiday in the hospital. "

Obviously, being good at listening is another key to a successful interview. If you can't "listen" or "don't understand" the interviewer, it will be miserable! On the one hand, it is easy to answer irrelevant questions, on the other hand, it will make the interviewer question your understanding ability, so your interview success rate will drop.

So how do you listen to others to win their favor?

First of all, be patient. Even if you think the other person is irrelevant or wrong, you should be calm and listen patiently. Although you don't have to agree with everything he says, you should nod or answer at appropriate intervals to show your attention and interest;

Second, be careful. In other words, we should be sensitive enough to understand each other's "implication", that is, find out the potential meaning that he can't express from each other's words, and pay attention to the tone and every detail of each other's speech. Also pay attention to what the other party tries to avoid talking about, which may be the key to the problem.

Third, pay attention. The purpose of concentration is to grasp the main points and essence of the other party's conversation. So you should keep a full mental state, concentrate on each other, and have a voice or action that expresses understanding or approval; If the question raised by the other party is clear, but you don't fully understand it, then you can put forward the unclear part in euphemistic and sincere language, and the other party will explain it further. This can not only clarify the main points and essence of the problem, but also give the other party a good impression of concentration;

Finally, we should pay attention to strengthening. Carefully consider the key points or repeatedly emphasized issues of the other party's speech. If necessary, you can repeat or ask questions, such as: "I agree with what you just mentioned …" and "Did you say …" Repeating the questions emphasized by the other party will make the other party feel that "every friend has a thousand cups" and often promote emotional harmony.

A good talker is a good listener. No matter how good the eloquence is, if you don't know how to listen, you won't leave a good impression. Although the interviewer asks questions in the interview, the job seeker answers them, and the job seeker answers more time than asking questions, but the job seeker still needs to listen carefully.

Interviews should not only be able to speak, but also listen. 2 What kind of person can talk in an interview can also be annoying.

The rhetoric of "taking me as the axis"

In the interview, the expression of your experience and ability is concise and enough is enough. Don't prioritize, chatter, brag or even be "self-centered". Job seekers should pay attention to reality and be concise. They shouldn't make too many verbal promises. If they talk too much, it is easy to arouse the examiner's disgust. Examiners often ask you to show your talents on the spot. You can try modestly, but before you start, you can't wait to claim that it is ok. It's simple. If you are suspected of bragging, you must be careful in job interviews.

Yes, the examiner in charge of recruitment pays great attention to the evaluation of your ability, but he will be more cautious about you during the interview, in order to let you fully show yourself. At this time, if you want to confuse the examiner, ramble, talk about irrelevant topics, or even brag about "connections" and be complacent, for fear that others will not know how much energy you have, then the examiner will definitely think that you are just a tiger skin, extremely shallow, and your ability is "so much".

After all, boasting is to avoid the essence of the problem, so you cover up your shame with dishonest and frank flattery. For example, job seekers are often asked by examiners why they lost their past jobs. Some people deliberately talk about them, their ideals and ambitions or what they have learned in their past jobs in order to avoid the topic. If you really can't pass the customs, it will do great harm to your previous work unit. The implication is that the temple in the original work unit is too small to accommodate him as a big monk. In the face of such a boastful interviewer, nine times out of ten, the examiner will react in his mind: Who do you think you are? This temple doesn't need a flashy "big monk" like you.

Eager to grab words or argue.

In order to win the favor of examiners, some job seekers will try to "conquer" each other through language "offensive". This kind of person has a strong desire for self-expression. During the interview, no matter whether the examiner buys his account or not, he can't wait to start the "battle" and show off his eloquence, so as to gain the upper hand in the "language machine" and conquer the other party in affairs. Mainly manifested in grabbing words, interrupting, arguing and so on.

It can't be said that people who love to talk and interrupt are shallow, but people often hate this phenomenon of "regardless of their mouths". Therefore, in the job interview, no matter how prominent your point of view is, no matter how different other people's views or opinions are to you, don't interrupt before the other person finishes. This is also the minimum respect for the examiner. Even if the examiner's words deviate too much, it means that the examiner is biased against you. At this time, no matter how you interrupt and grab words, it will not help, and it will only increase people's dislike for you.

Interrupting the "next move" of grabbing words is nothing more than arguing or arguing. But if the interview conversation turns into an argument or an argument, is such an interview still an interview? A job seeker has been quibbling and refuting in the conversation: "Why not!" "No matter what you think, I have my opinion." This kind of argument may show your intelligence, reasoning ability and persuasion ability, and may save face in a certain detail, but I don't know that just when you are addicted to talking, the examiner has given up your employment for your future peace.

The argument won and the good job was lost, which can be described as "seeing the big from the small". The goal of an interview is not to win a conversation or debate, but to get a job. If you are so "serious" to the examiner in the conversation that the examiner is very nervous about you and thinks that you are "not looking for a job at all, but deliberately finding fault", you can imagine how bad the result will be!

Be slow to respond at a critical moment

Silence is golden? I'm sorry, you should not be misled by this overcorrection in the job interview. When the examiner asks some key questions, if you also "cherish words like gold", what are you trying to do? The examiner will think you are slow and dull. If you leave such an impression on the examiner, you can say that your job search task has failed, because no company is willing to hire people who are slow to respond.

It is necessary to "talk less". But what is more needed than "talking less" is "speaking carefully", not "not talking"! The interview is "silent", of course it is dull and boring. Although the contrast between the slow and the boaster is obvious, it is impossible to be a competent and good employee. The purpose of the job interview is to let the employer evaluate yourself. If you are embarrassed to speak, what will others say about you?

Interview dialogue should not only use your brain, but also use your heart. When you stand on tiptoe in front of the examiner and watch the other person swagger, you will inexplicably hang down your eyelids and feel ashamed. The questions and answers you designed for yourself before are gone. The more you do this, the more you panic, which leads to your incoherence. This is all a sign of slow response.

Most people who are slow to respond are prone to inferiority complex. The more they feel inferior, the slower they are. This is called a vicious circle. Once people feel inferior and slow, they will not look directly at the examiner, and even become passive, indifferent and bored, thus destroying the examiner's enthusiasm and confidence in you.

A shameless good teacher

Looking for a job is looking for a job, and looking for a job is not equal to working. It is true that the incumbent should have the attitude of being the master, but when applying for a job, your position is not the master. Even if you think you are full of good ideas, it is not enough to impress the examiner.

Not everyone has new ideas, but people with good ideas and new ideas can't be good teachers everywhere, especially strangers. The so-called new ideas more or less contain advice, and most of the advice is criticism. Criticism is unacceptable to someone, especially the criticism of strangers, and it is impossible to be appreciated, obeyed, and even less likely to have a good impression. This is the reason for making few suggestions. You are a job seeker. If you say this idea in front of the examiner and make that suggestion, if you don't rule it out, it will prove that the examiner is too indecisive.

In the eyes of examiners, it is a double-edged sword to let job seekers talk about ideas and make suggestions. On the one hand, it examines your thinking, and at the same time, it digs a trap for you, which will make you a "good teacher" and a "good speaker" immediately. Therefore, in the interview, it is most taboo to make some suggestions. No matter how pertinent and excellent your suggestion is, you'd better keep it until you are hired. Don't rush to show off when applying for a job.

Ask some low-level questions

A job interview is not an entrance interview. Examiners should examine your comprehensive quality, and at the same time, they can ask some questions related to your major, or ask some questions about the working system of enterprises. But before asking questions, you must think about whether the questions you want to ask have practical significance, especially don't ask some low-level or even naive questions. For example, does the company have 24-hour hot water? Is there a bathroom in the office? Does the unit usually organize everyone to travel, etc. All these may ruin a good interview.

Think everyone is not worthy of attention-be arrogant.

This is the most common fault of those who are usually conceited and have no one to say. I have to admit that this kind of person may have some capital superior to others, but this kind of capital is likely to be "easy to lift weights" because of your arrogance. The ancients said that "thick accumulation and thin hair" and "deep hiding" are the real accumulation of ability capital. No matter how big your capital is, you are in a subordinate position when applying for a job. Talking about how rich your experience is in front of the examiner just shows that you have no culture and don't care about others at all. Anyone dares to offend. Most unruly job seekers have an inexplicable desire for control, bent on pressing others to show their advantages. I don't know if I go to the interview with this mentality. The examiner is a matter of life and death. Let him listen to you respectfully. Isn't there an open flame in his heart? You have offended the examiner, why do you want to interview?

Abuse of fashion language

It is not a bad thing for young people to pursue fashion, but fashion reflects a person's rebellious psychology towards reality from a certain angle. Some young people have average knowledge and ability, but they are crazy about fashion. They always like to use fashionable words when they speak. Therefore, when they go to the job interview, they are as unscrupulous as "blowing bubbles on the Internet". They often use fashionable online buzzwords to "talk about topics" with the examiner, thinking that doing so can not only make up for their lack of knowledge and ability, but also make the examiner feel "avant-garde" and very likable, so they are hired. I don't know that most people who dare to be examiners are not fuel-efficient lamps. How can your frivolous language stop his sharp insight?

In addition, some people learn half a bucket of water when they learn a foreign language. I like to show off my ability from time to time during the interview, but it is very dangerous to show off like this: if you meet the examiner and then play tricks on you in English, wouldn't you be shooting yourself in the foot?

Pour bitter water at random.

Job hunting is not a complaint meeting, let alone a rescue meeting. Some job seekers didn't put themselves in the right position during the interview. When people ask questions, they are bitter when they answer them. They thought that this would arouse the sympathy of the examiner, but instead of getting the sympathy of others, they turned their stomach! Everyone has bad luck. Some people have poor psychological endurance, and when they encounter bad things, they sigh, clamoring for injustice in the world all day, and posing as a bitter enemy. This may win sympathy from others, but it would be a fiasco if this skill is applied to job interviews with wishful thinking. Of course, the examiner also has compassion, but a competent examiner will never abuse this compassion. The examiner usually nods without saying a word, and seems to listen to you patiently. When your complaint is over, the examiner will tell you enthusiastically at best: please go back and wait for the notice. When is this "wait"?