After working in Beijing for four years, I chose to leave.

Life is just a choice between chocolate-flavored shit and shit-flavored chocolate. How to choose depends on your personal taste.

Text/Su Mu

Law of 27 years old: 27 years old is a watershed for both men and women. Men don't really grow up until they are 27 years old, and they are mature enough to get married in their 30 s. Many women will choose to break up with their boyfriends at the age of 27, which is the "27-year-old law" that makes men and women love and hate each other.

When I was 27, I made a choice. For personal reasons, I left Beijing, the city where I lived for more than three years. It has nothing to do with men and women, it has nothing to do with being immersed in love, and it has nothing to do with you.

Beijing, the city where I first worked, felt that the capital was a sacred place since I was a child, and I was fascinated by it when I was about to graduate. I thought the young people working under the ribs of the imperial city were particularly awesome. If they want to be awesome, they must go to the imperial city ribs to absorb nutrients. They have been struggling in this endless cycle and never escaped.

20 12,1—2065438+05, 1 1.8 I was baptized in Beijing for three years, five months and seven days. 2015165438+1October 9-so far, I have moved to Shijiazhuang to continue to accept the baptism of society and experience the bitterness and sweetness of the world.

Many friends have asked me this question: Will you choose to work and live in a first-tier city or a second-and third-tier city? Through my work and life experience in recent years, I will summarize the following points for you, and then everyone will make the most suitable choice according to their dreams and reality.

What about work?

First-tier cities, such as coffee, are naturally bitter with alcohol, and like cola that stimulates people's taste buds, the sweetness is mixed with a little bitterness. For example, in second-and third-tier cities, although the white water is plain, there is still a little sweetness in the boutique.

I majored in nursing. After internship in a military hospital in Beijing, I naturally joined the work. Two years later, I always feel that my ambition is not here. I started to brush my resume on a recruitment website and soon found a job.

After I came to Shijiazhuang, I kept brushing my resume on the same recruitment website, but this time it was not so smooth.

The treatment of this company really makes my lovely and naive sister-in-law feel ashamed. Since Beijing's decisive resignation, I have never thought that companies in Shijiazhuang basically have no five insurances and one gold.

In Beijing, people always choose me. After coming to Shijiazhuang, they all chose companies, chose A over B, and finally chose a company with fair comprehensive treatment (due to different professional limitations and ambitions, there is no suitable state-owned enterprise to choose from, or we can directly say that women are incompetent).

Adapting to the rhythm of Shijiazhuang really worried me for a long time ~

At a party, a friend of a state-owned enterprise complained about his low salary, and another sales friend with high salary temporarily complained about his unstable job. Each has its own advantages and disadvantages, so it is difficult to judge.

In fact, no matter in any position, in its position, seeking its position is the best choice at present.

A friend asked me, what are my plans for work?

I just want to say that it is the best plan to live in the present and complete the daily work step by step.

What about life?

Young people, eating, drinking and having fun will always be the constant theme of life.

There are 798 in Beijing, which is shrouded in artistic atmosphere, and there is only Wanda (or other shopping centers) in Shijiazhuang;

Beijing has a magnificent and exquisite royal palace hall, and Shijiazhuang has only Wanda;

In Beijing, there are streets that never stop at night, while in Shijiazhuang, there is only Wanda.

Beijing has modern buildings such as Galaxy SOHO, Big Pants and Sanlitun, while Shijiazhuang has only Wanda.

Made a joke analogy. Life in Beijing is more diversified, younger and more advanced, while Shijiazhuang may be more suitable for living, stability and reproduction. After all, Shijiazhuang is the city with the highest happiness index, which is not groundless.

For a pseudo-girl like me who is married and still refuses to admit that she is slowly moving closer to a woman, the so-called passion for eating, drinking and having fun has long since turned into indifference.

A girl only needs one marriage to find a woman; It is a false proposition that a woman walks towards a girl. Therefore, when girls are not married, they must keep a bohemian heart and wave all over their youth.

I once chatted with a friend. She said that she would work hard, earn more money and settle in Beijing. Even under great pressure, she will give her future children the best life.

I also chatted with another friend. She said that she would leave Beijing, choose a second-and third-tier city, settle down, buy a small house and a car, and give her children the most relaxed and happy life in the future.

Both girls are so-called children of other people's families, but they have chosen different lifestyles.

Because everyone has different attitudes towards life, marriage and family, just like no one can judge anyone. As long as she feels right, happy and right, that is happiness.

What about the crowd?

At present, I have summarized several people who are still struggling and living in Beijing:

1 The newly graduated college students are still in the stage of testing water, and they have no clear plans for their life and future, and they are in the stage of taking a walk and giving it a try.

The rich and powerful people in the family are the so-called Gao Fushuai, who is rich and ugly, short and handsome, short and rich and ugly, Bai Fumei, white and ugly, black and Fu Mei, and black and ugly.

Aspiring young people who have strong working ability and can live and work in Beijing with their own hands.

Aspiring young people whose own conditions are not enough to settle in Beijing and want to struggle in Beijing for several years to realize their own values.

A rare animal freak will die in Beijing even if he rents a house for life.

There is another kind of person who is hard-pressed. State-owned enterprise personnel who have Beijing hukou, but cannot buy a house in Beijing due to their family reasons, either leave or stay.

Of course, there are also Beijing natives, who have superior bloodlines from the womb.

Please leave your other opinions when you find out.

Please sit down accordingly!

What about marriage?

Most of the friends of the same age gathered around Beijing are single; Friends and children of the same age gathered in Shijiazhuang almost always play soy sauce.

As a senior blind date, to be honest, in Beijing, blind date will pay more attention to external conditions (such as family conditions, education, work), and in Shijiazhuang, it will pay more attention to feelings.

Needless to say, my feelings. My views on life, family and consumption are different from person to person.

There is no rehearsal in life, and everyone has everyone's wonderful things.

Overlapping memories withered a flower season and fragrant a rainy season.

The hardest thing in life is not to work hard or struggle, but to make the right choice.

Many choices are labor-saving levers to realize life, and your life will go up in an arc in the future.

I talk a lot. Looking around friends, have you found that whether you are struggling in first-tier cities or second-and third-tier cities, it is getting better every day. Of course, me too, and you too, aren't you?

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