Should people in their thirties go to other cities for job opportunities?

Recently, some friends around 30 have a new puzzle, whether they should change jobs and go to a different city.

Among these friends, either buy a house in Beijing, get married and bring a baby, or have male or female tickets in Beijing. In short, they are confused by all kinds of worries.

Opportunities in foreign cities are usually fatal, such as higher titles, attractive salaries, or being able to lead a team, or being in love with a company for a long time.

Going or not? This is a problem.

Alice, a friend's sister, just jumped ship some time ago. She lived in Beijing, went to Ali and worked as a marketing director in an important business department in Hangzhou. When she first left her job, she was a senior marketing manager of a top 500 IT company.

When I heard that Alice has two boys, one is 9 years old and the other is 5 years old, I was surprised to sayno. From Beijing to Hangzhou, she is also a nanny. Many people may not understand, let alone accept the decision to work in a different place.

At first glance, I wonder if I heard it wrong. Alice was very diligent in her previous company. In order to catch up with the progress of the project, she often worked late. In her thirties, she was promoted to senior manager and led the team. Alice is developing well.

Then why did she "leave her hometown" and go to Hangzhou to work? It turns out that Alice has encountered a bottleneck in her career development. Her boss has worked in the company for more than 10 years, and it is estimated that she will retire there too, and her own upward passage is basically closed. Alice doesn't want her career to end like this.

Ali's job opportunity recommended by this headhunter gave her new hope. Although her top 500 companies are also well-known, entering BAT is the dream of many people. She feels that her career path will be refreshed.

Alice got through the ideological work of her family and resolutely resigned and went to Hangzhou. She video chats with her family every night. Every other week, at most two weeks, she will take the high-speed train or fly home for reunion. She will spend weekends with her family and sometimes meet friends. Family and friends don't think that Alice's work in different places has brought great changes to everyone's life.

Alice knows very well that once she is over 35, or even over 30, and has not reached a higher level in the workplace, her future opportunities will be very slim, and she herself is not willing to remain the same.

She said that now that the traffic is so developed, it takes two hours to fly from Hangzhou to Beijing, and it takes five or six hours to travel to and from the two places on weekends. Going back to Beijing to spend time with my family is the greatest relaxation for myself. In the new week, she will devote herself to work with more full spirit. She feels more energetic and efficient than before.

More importantly, in Ali's world, she saw something that she couldn't see in the slightly "bureaucratic" organizations in the top 500. Her pursuit of innovation, agility and flexibility, and youthful vigor have deeply infected her. Alice thinks that the growth rate here is equivalent to the growth rate of the previous company.

Alice may not move her family to Hangzhou in the end, but when she is familiar with the company's business and team, it is not impossible for her to propose to the company to set up an office in Beijing, and she will often travel to Hangzhou headquarters.

To say the least, even if Alice returns to Beijing and changes jobs in the future, because with the endorsement of Ali's work experience, her future level and salary can only be higher.

When you are over 30 years old, maybe you have a house and a family. Of course, you don't want to rent a house in another strange city, and you don't want to lose time with your family every night. For these reasons, many people give up the opportunity to work in different cities.

Maybe you will say, "Why do you have to go somewhere else? Beijing also has good opportunities! " It is true that opportunities are everywhere, but no one can guarantee when they will appear and whether you can seize them when they appear.

Our promotion and development in the workplace depends not only on our persistence day after day, but sometimes when we meet a Bole and seize a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, it will put us on the fast track of development, and such an opportunity is likely to be in a city in a different place.

If you have a house, a family and a career, but you are dissatisfied with the status quo and have the courage to try and accept challenges, you may wish to refer to Alice's practice.

In today's convenient transportation, the city that can be reached in two hours by plane is not far away. If there is a job opportunity in a foreign city, it can take you to a new level and enter a promising industry, but it is really a pity that you gave it up or missed it.

The distance between cities can't stop you from developing and running, only you can stop yourself.

Xiao Bei, a reader, told me that he just signed an Offer a few days ago and went to work in Shanghai as a team leader. Previously, he was just an ordinary human resources Commissioner.

Xiaobei didn't want to change jobs or even cities at first. By chance, he learned that a company he admired for a long time was recruiting a team leader. He was very tempted and submitted his resume with a try attitude. After several rounds of interviews, the other party was satisfied with him, but the only thing that bothered him was that his office was in Shanghai.

His girlfriend is very supportive of him, and even said that Xiaobei went to Shanghai, and she began to consider and look for opportunities to work in Shanghai, so that the two of them could continue to work hard in Shanghai. I deeply bless them in my heart.

After working for a period of time, people generally hope to get promotion opportunities and start to take the primary leadership positions, that is, leading teams. This is also the only way for everyone who wants to go further in the workplace.

However, the promotion within the company depends on many factors, such as whether it is valued by leaders, whether there are strong competitors, whether there are suitable opportunities and so on. Many people finally choose to leave because there is no hope of promotion.

Especially those who have worked for more than 5 years, 10 years, should consider starting to lead the team in their career development, even if they start from a small team of several people. Of course, if your ambition is to become an expert in a certain field, that is another matter.

Just like Xiaobei, his previous company was very small, with a radish and a pit, and there were not so many opportunities for rotation and promotion. And because there is no management experience, it is really not easy to find a leadership position outside, because employers are more willing to find people with management experience. This is also an important reason why Xiaobei is tempted by the opportunity to lead the team in Shanghai.

If we can broaden our horizons and pay more attention to the scarcity of opportunities and the possibility of the future, we will not be too constrained to work in Beijing, Shanghai or other cities.

Even if we become attached to a city, we don't have to consume all our love for it now. It is also a good experience to work in a different place and experience the customs of another city. Besides, your life is so long.

I also have a friend, Brother Kun, who started a business in Xiamen, doing new media operations and developing very well.

But with the development of business, he found that the most abundant resources in the field of new media are in Beijing. If you want to go to Beijing for development, Ge Kun, as a southerner, is actually hesitant to think of the smog and cold in winter in Beijing.

After some struggle, he finally decided to go north. Ge Kun said, "If you want to grow rapidly, you must make a wider circle and get more and faster information and resources!"

In this way, Brother Kun and his assistant fought in the north and south. After coming to Beijing, they rented a small studio and started their business.

A few days ago, Ge Kun told me that many friends or partners who have contacted the Internet on WeChat have been friends for a long time. This time in Beijing, they can not only meet one by one, but also conduct in-depth discussion and planning on the project in person, and have a deeper cooperation with each other.

He said that in fact, many new ideas just hit it off when drinking beer. Ge Kun also visited several big coffee companies in the industry, shared and exchanged the latest ideas, and made many new friends. The radius of the circle has actually widened.

Brother Kun actually doesn't want to settle in Beijing in the future, but wants to take advantage of his youth to go for a walk in the outside world. From Xiamen to Beijing, such a span is not only the transformation of geographical position, but also the expansion of thinking and vision.

This is why many Internet entrepreneurs will go to Beijing or Shanghai, start to enter incubators or accelerators, get the favor of investment bosses, and start all the way on the road of entrepreneurship, because there are top talents, investment institutions and various resources in China.

In today's era of "no circles, no rivers and lakes", with passion and exploration, young as you, go to that city, find a similar person like you, grow up together, and achieve a great and awesome career together.

Alice, Xiaobei and Ge Kun are all ordinary people like you and me, but you will remember them at a glance in the crowd, not because of their high face value, but because of their indomitable, fearless, upward brilliance and charm.

Like you and me, they have all kinds of worries and reluctance, but they can rationally and intelligently explore a way to balance work and life, and glow with the vitality of growth and development in different cities, which makes people appreciate and envy.

Next time, if you encounter such an opportunity, I believe you already know what to do.

Best wishes to Alice, Xiaobei and Ge Kun, and a better future for you!

Author Mu Mu, MBA of Tsinghua University, Asia-Pacific Strategy Director, has more than 10 years of senior management experience in well-known foreign companies, focusing on the research in the field of workplace and personal growth.