Not making things difficult for others is the most basic education for adults.

Abstract: When you open your mouth to embarrass others, your posture is very ugly, because not embarrassing others is no longer a quality or an ability, but the most basic education that adults should have.

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Recently, a group of best friends mentioned why some people like to trouble others so much?

So the group exploded and everyone complained.

I was finally able to take an annual leave and prepare to travel abroad. When my relatives and colleagues found out about it, they quickly sent me shopping lists, ranging from rice cookers to cosmetics, from milk powder to electric toothbrushes. Everything you need.

Watching WeChat come in, looking at the purchase lists one after another, I just regret that I am not a full-time cross-border e-commerce business. I couldn't help but sigh, what a huge market demand this is and what an opportunity it is.

As soon as the campus recruitment season arrives, the best friends are all ready to take action again. The group of best friends work in various industries, including the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, Xinhua News Agency, People's Daily, and large central enterprises, from power grid facilities to water conservancy construction.

But as soon as the school recruitment season comes, seven aunts, eight aunts, juniors and juniors come to ask questions one after another. I am in a daze for a while. People who have never spoken more than three sentences on WeChat jump out one after another. , in fact, it doesn’t hurt to ask for information, but everyone’s complaints are the same.

?I heard that you have started campus recruitment, how do you sign up?

?What are the requirements for recruiting people there this year, and what majors are you recruiting?

What’s more, please see if you can help so-and-so’s child get admitted to so-and-so. Otherwise, you can help him fill out a registration form. You know how to fill it out, but neither do we. ?

Not to mention how huge these organizations are, campus recruitment has nothing to do with us. Just ask when registration will start, how to register, and where to fill out the form. Isn’t this self-initiated? Go ahead and search Baidu in two minutes. Will the information come out immediately?

Speaking of Baidu, the group continued to explode, yes, yes, yes, it seems that they don’t know Baidu!

This reminds me of a problem I often encounter. A friend is going to travel to South America, and a random WeChat message asks: How is the weather in Brazil now, what is the temperature, and how much clothes should I bring?

When I was in Brazil, I just casually said, It’s not too cold recently, so short-sleeved clothes are enough. But if some people are still reluctant, will it cool down? I think it’s better to bring more long sleeves, just in case the temperature drops.

Whenever this happens, I am speechless. I wonder if the temperature will drop. Of course, I have to ask the weather forecast.

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Many people take troublesome things as a matter of course.

If you ask them why you bother others and why you don’t check it yourself, they will tell you very naturally: Don’t you know how troublesome it is to check it yourself? How easy it is to ask you. . ?

Although the person being troubled sounds a little unhappy, but if you think about it carefully, it seems to be the same thing, because you know it.

But the truth is often crueler than this. If someone asks you and fully believes what you say, it doesn't matter if we get in trouble once.

But in most cases, they ask you what the local weather is like, and then talk about it for a long time. In the end, others still check the weather forecast with a skeptical attitude, and ask you what the recruitment requirements are and what majors you are recruiting for. Yes, after asking, I went to the official website to read it myself.

I even asked you how to fry a fish without sticking to the pan, and you told him method one. He was skeptical, but still went to Baidu by himself, and was very proud that he also found method two. Method three.

It’s troublesome for others, but you still don’t trust others. What is wasted is everyone's time and mutual trust is consumed.

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In modern society, everyone’s time is precious. We have to be busy with work during the day, and there are already enough work groups. I am afraid that no one has seen it, and there is no news from any leader. In seconds, which assigned task was not claimed in time.

Suddenly a WeChat message pops up and asks you some questions that could have been answered by typing them into Baidu in the same amount of time. It is indeed very frustrating.

Our elders may often teach us that we should try to help others wherever we can. You can't always be afraid of trouble yourself.

But when you trouble others with some very small things, to others, it is not even a trouble, it should be called an embarrassment.

After the emergence of WeChat, the cost of troubling others seems to be getting lower and lower. All you need to do is send a request for help on Moments or send a WeChat message to others. Because if you need to call someone to bother them, many people think that they can solve the problem themselves and don't call.

It seems that I feel embarrassed to call others, but there is no loss in sending a WeChat message, so I must send it.

Then there were a lot of people who sent WeChat messages asking for likes and reposts in order to save a few dollars or tens of dollars. I often wonder, are favors so worthless? In order to save so much money, you have to move out a bunch of friends. No matter how polite you are, you have to send some messy discount purchasing information to other people's Moments. How can you please others? Like it.

Should we use favors to solve problems that can be solved with money? This is a question that will give you points.

Why do you often answer wrong questions?

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Trouble others is also a skill.

The same thing, it is also campus recruitment. When I was asked by juniors and juniors, they mainly asked about the working environment, working atmosphere, room for promotion, and what can be learned in a few years, very specific But in fact, and I know this, you have to ask an insider to know more clearly. What you search on the Internet is not particularly reliable.

In this case, of course I will be very careful and analyze with different people and their situations to determine whether this job is suitable for them.

And some people just sent a WeChat message, how do you take the CCTV exam?

It’s the same thing, when you think clearly about what you want to know, and you really need to be specific When you ask for help when qualified people can help you, and if you are polite and understand the rules, then others will not reject you.

When you have not thought clearly about it yourself, there is a lot of information available on the Internet, and you know nothing about it, but you want others to help you start with finding the information, then you might as well ask others to take the exam for you. alright.

Many New Oriental teachers will also complain: Everyone knows to ask the teacher, teacher, how can I pass CET-6? I have taught you so many methods, asked you to memorize words, and asked you to do the questions. You are still unwilling to give in. It is said that you must ask the teacher humbly. The question when you open your mouth is? Teacher, how can I pass the sixth level? What is this if it is not embarrassing?

When you open your mouth to embarrass others , the posture is very ugly, because not making things difficult for others is no longer a quality or an ability, but the most basic education that adults should have.

Just like knowing what to say and what not to say, what to ask and what not to ask, this is a kind of education.