Four annoying people in today's society

What kind of newcomers are welcome in the workplace? As a newcomer, how should we better integrate into the new environment? This is a question that everyone who is full of expectations for his career should think about. Newcomers should also know that there is no lazy trick to survive in the workplace, only honesty and down-to-earth. Every new employee should try to avoid becoming the following persona non grata:

I don't know how to pretend. When I arrive at a new unit, I know nothing, but I still try my best to pretend that I know everything. This kind of people usually regard salary as the first choice when looking for a job, ignoring the job content, giving people the feeling of being naive and ignorant.

Make mistakes, make mistakes. Although I am very eager to become an excellent talent, I am not sure about my goal at all and I can't listen to other people's criticism. Once I did something wrong, I began to make excuses and complain. Finally, I don't forget to add: "This is something I can't help, no wonder I am." Such people often face interpersonal crisis.

The type of boasting. This kind of person usually claims to be excellent in the interview and has a good evaluation, but after being hired, he finds that his words are exaggerated. In fact, there is nothing extraordinary. They often give people the feeling of embroidered pillows and straw bags, and naturally do not please the boss.

Avoidance of responsibility. This kind of person often comforts himself: "Because I am a newcomer, I can forgive my poor work." This forgetfulness often gives people the impression that they don't do what they should do and lack a sense of responsibility.

Spoil and perfunctory. Such people only want to show off in the workplace when they go to work, and they are perfunctory about their work attitude. If they cheat, they will only figure out how to exert their kung fu and please their boss wholeheartedly, instead of doing things in a down-to-earth manner.

Find your position

Interpersonal relationship is very important in any organization. In contemporary community life, the future of many managers and employees depends on whether they can "have fun". Whether you work in the mailroom or do middle management, the key to your success is to let the top management know about you. You should be smart, sophisticated and resourceful.

Do the executives or bosses in the company know what you do and speak highly of you?

Most people think that if they behave well and work well, they will reach the authorities sooner or later. Unfortunately, this is often not the case. It is likely that the physical work is quite excellent, and others don't know it at all. People who handle it properly always try to show their ability, try to let others see their work and gain a good reputation. Top managers often regard such people as emerging talents and capable people in the company. Whether you are a secretary, a clerk or a middle-level manager, your immediate superior can help you succeed or ruin your future, which can make you look smart and competent, and can also make you look incompetent. Some people were promoted from the beginning simply because the boss didn't give them the opportunity to develop and show their talents. Are you like this? Does your boss only care about doing the little work he is in charge of and showing the results? Are you oppressed by such a boss? We all know this kind of boss, and many people have worked under this kind of person. If your boss doesn't let you develop your talents, doesn't value you, or doesn't let you attend meetings where senior staff can understand you, and you can't get rid of his repression, then you should consider leaving here.

Do you pose a threat to your immediate superior?

This situation is everywhere. For example, there is a manager, secretary or employee who is young, smart and eloquent and stands out from the crowd. He has many new ideas, and he never seems to get tired of work. However, in the end, he found that all his efforts were blocked, destroyed and hit by his immediate superior. Do you encounter this situation? Are you in this situation now? Because your boss is threatened by your talent, he always finds it difficult to cooperate with you. In this case, those qualities in you that should allow you to show your value may be bad for you. But it also shows how mean and mediocre your boss is. Because your talent poses a threat to your boss's position and adversely affects you, which is basically insurmountable. The more competent and excellent you are, the more threatened your boss will feel, and the more likely you will not get a quick promotion.

Your excellent work poses a threat to your boss. It's not good for you, but it's also not good if you meet a boss who always takes your credit for himself. Many bosses secretly take their subordinates' excellent reports or plans for themselves and secretly spoil their subordinates who may be promoted soon. For this kind of behavior, you may be in the dark and ignorant, and by the time you find out, it will be too late. In that excellent report you wrote, what impressed you was not your name, but your boss's name! He became the author of this report. If you feel that your job has been stolen by your boss, you should seriously consider your future in the company. This person not only failed to guide and help you, but deprived you of the opportunity to show your talents in front of top managers. Of course, you can talk openly with your boss about this problem, and you may get some favorable answers. However, the most likely result is that it will only further alienate you from your boss and make him feel more threatened. In this case, you'd better face the reality and consider leaving. People who can be promoted often gain more and more power within the existing authority. It may increase their authority within a certain range, or allow them to increase their manpower, or give them male assistants to help them finish their work. People who want to rise to the top always take on more responsibilities in important departments of the company. Do you belong to this situation? Even if you are just a secretary or a clerk, there is always the possibility of gaining greater voice in your department. If you are a middle manager, have you been put in charge of a department recently, and only you are in charge? Lack of motivation must mean that the company doesn't want to promote you.

How to become a master in the workplace

Every young man who has just entered the workplace is eager to make achievements in his future career. Although the fruit of success is sweet and tempting, the harvest is not imaginary. In the workplace, mastering the correct interpersonal relationship has a great influence on your career and future.

Get rid of the mentality of judging people by their appearances.

The importance of first impression is undeniable, especially in the first communication. Those who wear luxury clothes and talk smartly are really easy to bring goodwill to others; And the ugly ones will be despised or even bored. However, if your whole mind is controlled by this emotion, it is very easy to cause deviation.

After graduating from a famous university, Mr. C applied for an electronic marketing job in a foreign-funded enterprise. Because of his solid professional knowledge, he was quickly promoted to business manager. One day, the boss of their company couldn't leave because he was going to the United States, so he was temporarily asked to receive some customers from South Korea. Those customers will cooperate with their company to develop new products. C jun doesn't know Korean, and the following translation didn't introduce too many customers. Among them, there is a stout and ugly middle-aged customer, which makes C Jun feel a little bored. Because he always asks Mr. C some questions that have nothing to do with business. Just out of courtesy, Mr. C reluctantly answered some of his questions.

At the luncheon, Mr. C hardly made a toast to him. As a result, their cooperation plan was cancelled for the simple reason that the ugly middle-aged customer who came last time was actually the largest shareholder of the Korean company. Although Mr. C was not fired by the company, he was still relieved of his position as manager. This lesson may be remembered by Mr. C all his life.

Never judge a person by his appearance in the action of expanding interpersonal relationships. You want to associate with people who are kind-hearted and knowledgeable, not those "vases" with gorgeous appearance and empty stomachs. If you can't open your heart to those friends and just make friends with E on the surface, then maybe you will also taste the bitterness.

Keep your promise.

In communication, some people always like to be late for appointments; And there are always many reasons to explain when you are late. In fact, in this case, no matter what reason is given to the other party, it is untenable. Today's society can be considered as a contract society, and the agreement itself is a contract; If the concept of keeping an appointment doesn't exist, how can we talk about interacting with people?

A multinational group company once recruited four senior executives with high salaries for the society. There were no fewer than 1000 applicants. After layers of screening, four outstanding candidates were tried by the company. However, the next day, several of them were fired. Because according to company regulations: company executives must walk into the chairman's office before 7: 40 in the morning and take a collective oath for one day; Then go back to work in various departments. Moreover, they felt that the move was just a formality and didn't make much sense, so they were late for the first day. Although the shortest one was only ten seconds late, he was fired. So they went to talk to the chairman together.

The chairman of the company told them very seriously: "refusing to abide by the agreement is a taboo for businessmen." No matter how talented you are, our company will not hire some people who break their promises to do things! "

Therefore, when dealing with others, we should be cautious about every agreement. Abiding by the agreement is a sign that you respect each other, and it is also your capital to win the respect of others. Of course, you must also remember that when you waste one more second, you will lose more things.

Give priority to everyone's position.

There are always parties in the workplace. Some people like to deliberately tell others about their grievances at parties in order to gain their understanding. In fact, this practice is a taboo in interpersonal communication.

One day, a group of friends who are usually very affectionate get together for dinner. They are all editors of a well-known publishing house. The only difference is that there are two book wholesalers at the banquet table today. While everyone was chatting happily, a wholesaler suddenly said to H Jun (then vice president of the publishing house), "Can I borrow a word?" Later, regardless of people's attitude, he talked about the sales volume and price difference of a set of books. Originally, everyone was a party with no special purpose that day. H jun suppressed his anger and slowly suggested, "don't talk business here." As a result, the party ended in discord.

Interpersonal communication in the workplace is a beneficial thing in itself. However, if you just blindly pursue your own interests, then communication will become stale. If you want to establish a complete and meaningful interpersonal relationship, you must give priority to everyone's position, and then respond with everyone's mood and the atmosphere of the occasion.

In the above case, if the book wholesaler can consider the overall situation at that time and leave his own affairs until tomorrow; Today's party broke up in a very pleasant atmosphere; It's sure to get twice the result with half the effort to pay a formal visit another day and make your own demands.

Read your boss's body language.

A folk proverb says, "One eye expresses 1000 words." Psychologists believe that the eyes are the "windows" of the soul and can be used as weapons to make people timid and fearful. The common pupil language is that when expressing disgust and hatred, the pupil will contract and sting. On the contrary, open your eyes to show sympathy and great interest, as well as approval and love. Eyes can reveal more than the relationship between superiors and subordinates, power and dependence.

It's a bad sign that the boss doesn't look at you when he talks. He wants to punish you with neglect, which means he doesn't want to judge you.

When the boss looks you up and down, showing his superiority and dominance also means conceit; The boss stared at you for a long time, indicating that he wanted to know more; The boss looks at you in a friendly and frank way, even blinking occasionally, which shows that he sympathizes with you, speaks highly of you or he wants to encourage you, and is even ready to ask you to forgive his mistakes; When the boss stares at you with sharp eyes, it shows that he is showing his power and advantages; The boss only looks at you once in a while, and as soon as his eyes touch you, he immediately evades. This happens several times in a row, which shows that the boss lacks confidence in front of you.

Body language experts believe that, like eyes, the closure of the mouth will reveal the truth. Laughing "haha" means relaxation and boldness, laughing "hee hee" means gloating, and laughing "hey hey" means sarcasm, sinister or contempt. Most people who laugh like this are arrogant and self-reliant.

Psychologists believe that leaders with rich gestures and expressions are impulsive and emotional people; However, if someone exaggerates his gestures, he is sensitive to the outside world, easily influenced by others, demanding and a weak leader.

Psychologists believe that there are many body languages that can let subordinates know the boss's inner world and know whether what he says is his true thoughts.

Put your hands together and press them from top to bottom, indicating that the boss should calm down; Hands akimbo, elbows outward, this is a classic body language, symbolizing imperative, which also means that he is the leader in contact with people; When the boss leans back comfortably, his hands are crossed behind his head and his elbows are outward, this is a sign of conceit; When the boss reaches out his index finger, it shows that he is dominant and aggressive; When the boss quietly puts his hands behind his back, it shows that he has a sense of superiority; When the boss pats you on the shoulder, it shows that he really praises you; If the boss pats you on the shoulder, or pats you from top to bottom, it shows that the boss is arrogant and tolerant, and these actions show that he is the dominator; Put your two index fingers together, put them on your mouth, and cross your other fingers to form a cone with them, indicating that your boss is ready to refuse before you speak; Making a fist is not only a threat to the other side, but also self-defense.

A psychologist reminded those who had high hopes, "It takes a long time to change their body language, because one can't control himself in too many ways."

Ten professional amulets

When many people hear office politics, their first reaction is to avoid it and don't want to get involved in office intrigue. Unfortunately, people who have this idea do not realize the fact that they are in the same boat as others.

Those office workers who want to preserve their sanity and keep their ears open will not only seek benevolence, but also stay away from the circle of right and wrong. They may even be unemployed for no reason, and they still don't know why. You don't have to follow others, but don't think that you can stay out of the office storm without eyes.

Office survival depends on intelligence.

Since the office environment is composed of people, each individual's behavior will inevitably affect other people's ideas, the overall atmosphere and the progress of work. Want to shine in the workplace, in addition to talent, it is more important to have personality, emotional intelligence (EQ), social and many other invisible abilities. Talent and professional ability can only add points to their competitiveness when they first enter the workplace. When you officially become a soldier in the workplace, the ability that really keeps you alive is actually intelligence. Office politics tests the resilience, coordination and other intelligence of office staff.

Every enterprise has the difficulty of limited resources, and the problem of uneven distribution is inevitable. It is not surprising to use some means to increase one's competitive advantage. Every company has two organizational structures: the formal organizational structure can be represented by charts, and the informal organizational structure is interpersonal relationship. To put it bluntly, office politics means making more friends that are beneficial to your career and making fewer enemies among colleagues.

Office workers should see clearly the fact that it is normal to engage in political activities in the office, but it is strange that there is no political activity. Those who close their eyes and pretend that there is no office politics are as dangerous as crossing the road without looking at the traffic lights or ignoring the news of heavy rain and mudslides when a typhoon strikes.

Marry well, but never make enemies.

Therefore, instead of rejecting and fearing office politics, it is better to put aside all disdain and helplessness, join in it and enjoy office politics. Office politics is difficult to master, but it is not complicated. What is office politics? It is an attitude of treating people with things, and it is difficult to hold back and forth, which is indispensable to civil air defense. In short, it is to make friends, especially to let people in the core of power, such as your boss, become your mentor.

Generally speaking, office politics can be divided into two categories. One is office theft, which teaches people how to succeed by hook or by crook, even if they are curious, cheat and sacrifice their friends. The other, like Carnegie, looks at workplace politics from a more optimistic and positive perspective. The two practices vary from person to person, so there is no need to be overly biased. The ideal attitude is "moderate participation" in office politics, but you should also know how to protect yourself at all times.

To this end, Career's professional emergency room was specially designed. He searched the green void, the next, and the yellow spring. He collected 10 professional amulets for readers and published a special issue of office politics in two phases, wishing you a good career. Whether it is effective or not depends on personal experience.

The first amulet-office politics has no typhoon eye.

Avoid: stay out of it and be indifferent.

Appropriateness: Be kind to others and be alert and discerning.

Many people look at office politics with the mentality of leading an honest and clean life, thinking that as long as they can stay away from right and wrong, the fact is that there is no real neutral country on earth and no one in the office can protect themselves. As long as you are in the office, you are in a storm circle, and there is no so-called typhoon eye to hide.

Many people naively think that as long as they are professional, down-to-earth and don't cause trouble, one day the boss will notice me, but the final result is often counterproductive, because professionalism is not the only indicator of promotion, and hiding behind the computer without communicating with colleagues will not make you a leader or manager.

Some people say that office politics is a high-level intrigue, which has nothing to do with grassroots employees like us. In fact, management has political science of management, and grass-roots employees also have political examination questions of grass-roots employees.

Since an organization is a combination of people, everyone has their own priorities and interests. If learning can't coordinate the relationship between people, don't be wishful thinking.

Office workers should realize the fact that there are no bystanders in office politics. This is a game that will be automatically excluded if you don't participate next time. People who want to be alone may eventually be forgotten by everyone, and even one day you have to pack up and leave.

We are definitely not advocating that office workers make waves in the office, and every battle will kill each other. In the end, you don't have to fight, but you must be well informed and improvise.

The second amulet-you form a team, and the team will form you.

Avoid: openly engage in small groups.

Appropriate: Try to keep the contact's passbook.

A while ago, Ruan, a well-known accountant on the island, led a team of 109 people to jump ship, which caused a shock in the accounting field. The performance of Ruan team accounts for one-eighth of that of the old club CITIC United Accounting Firm, and the annual visa income is as high as NT$ 654.38+0.8 billion. This is the best example that individuals and teams complement each other.

Whether to engage in a small circle in the company has always been a difficult dilemma. Confucius said: gentlemen are not a group, and teamwork requires everyone to work together. Without the help of the team, it is difficult to succeed. Recognize that team success is individual success. The higher the individual's contribution to the team, the heavier the weight in the team. In addition, remember to give credit and glory to team partners.

If you are a newcomer who doesn't know the situation, don't rush to set up your own small group or join other people's small circle. If you accidentally make a high-level taboo, step on someone else's site, or even choose the wrong side station, it will be difficult to get along in the office. First of all, we must understand the partisan ecology in the company. Conscientious advice is to keep good relations with every colleague and try not to be labeled as a party. Unless you know the strength of cronies in the environment, of course, you should choose "watermelon against bedding face"!

The third amulet-saliva is a curse, beware of a curse from the mouth.

Avoid: gossiping and spreading rumors.

A: Don't pry into other people's private affairs, and don't publicize personal privacy.

Be careful not to talk about your private affairs in the office, and don't spread other people's gossip among colleagues, both of which will unconsciously push yourself to a dangerous situation. But you must keep your ears open and your mouth shut. Having ears and mouth is not only a lesson for adults to teach children, but also one of the ways to survive in the office jungle.

Gossip has always been the best topic of communication between colleagues, especially the two conversation rooms, tea room and bathroom, which are often the biggest distribution center for many rumors and the secret garden for everyone to speak ill of their boss. However, no matter how many grievances you have suffered in the office, you should not complain to your colleagues for two reasons. Complaining is like body odor, and everyone is afraid to avoid it. No one has the obligation to be your emotional trash can. Secondly, the office is not the place for you to find a psychiatrist. Some people may think that it is a guarantee for two people to form an alliance by sharing their worries with each other, but what if one day two people are no longer friends? The secrets of the past can be used as a handle on each other.

Therefore, no matter how good your personal relationship with your boss is and how deep your relationship is, don't make it public in the company. If you have good conditions, work hard and hand over beautiful results, you don't want your efforts to be attributed to your special relationship with your boss! In case there is misunderstanding or friction between you and your boss, and you know it, it is difficult to guarantee that it will not be used as a topic or the object of speculation, and it will not do you any good.

You can listen to gossip more, but you can't talk more. You'd better not go in. The so-called "disaster comes from the mouth", and saliva is a veritable disaster. Whether it is revealing private affairs or relaying what you have heard, there is a danger of making a slip of the tongue. What's more, you are proud to be a gossip center, snooping around and being careful not to be used.

The fourth amulet-take responsibility, but don't bear the blame.

Avoid: pass the buck and put oil on your feet.

Appropriateness: Be brave in taking responsibility at an appropriate time and show sincerity in solving problems.

Although I hate my teeth itch, you have to admire the cleverness of some colleagues. They are very good promoters, and they can always push their work and responsibilities completely easily, just like loach. There is bound to be uneven work and rest in the workplace, and you can't guarantee that you will never make mistakes in your work. At this time, the attribution of responsibility often causes friction and unhappiness among colleagues. If it is your own fault, a good attitude can make up for all the mistakes, but don't rush to put the blame on others. When you say it's all your fault, don't forget that only your index finger sticks out and the other four fingers point to yourself. The worst thing is that you made a mistake and tried to cover it up and lied.

It is impossible for people not to make mistakes, and your boss knows it. Sometimes, the courage to admit mistakes will leave a deep impression on colleagues and supervisors and establish a responsible image, but enough is enough. If you admit your mistake at random, you may become the king of infamy and the poor in the office.

Sometimes it's a good idea to take the blame for the boss, but how to take the blame? Help who carry it? It's all about learning. It's good to be weird. When the boss turns over, you follow the chicken and dog to heaven. However, if you meet a bad guy and a black-hearted boss, you either leave quickly or have nothing to say.

The fifth amulet-are you a bright spot or a black spot in the workplace?

Avoid: one person monopolizes all the credit.

Appropriateness: Be good at performance, and take credit in due course.

When choosing an LCD screen, I am most afraid of buying defective products with bright spots or dark spots, but in the workplace, I am not afraid of becoming a bright supernova, and I am afraid of becoming an unlit white dwarf. If you want to be a first-class star in the workplace, you naturally have to work harder to improve your popularity.

If you think you are a swift horse in the workplace, don't wait for Bole to appear, naively thinking that as long as you work hard, you will eventually become famous all over the world. You should know that Bole is often faced with a dilemma of self-care these days, or is waiting for their Bole. Moderately creating opportunities for yourself to "get ahead" is conducive to personal career.

As the saying goes, clothes make the man, but gold doesn't change Buddha's clothes. In modern society, all goods are sold by packaging, not to mention fierce competition in the workplace. You don't want to sweat yourself and be drooled by others. Don't forget to do personal public relations when you make some achievements through hard work or finish tasks ahead of schedule. The meeting occasion is a rare stage. Seize the opportunity to speak in time and show your personal ability. Only by making a sound can you get the boss's attention.

But if the head portrait is too healthy, it may lead to jealousy. Giving kindness to colleagues at the right time can win your favor, and it can also be counted as buying an insurance for yourself. Everyone enjoys it, so it's hard for you to be alone. When you ask the boss for credit, you should give the credit to the team and the boss, and then mention your contribution skillfully. The boss remembers you, and colleagues appreciate you. Will it show your brightness next time? ! If your efforts are not seen by colleagues and superiors, don't be afraid to be criticized for your ambition.